Topic : I'm Pregnant!

If I were you, I would go and get a blood test done to see if you are pregnant. These days the Doctors can find out if you're pregnant even if it only afew weeks so if you want to know the answer then go and find out. 

By the way, the way you are feeling re; the cramps like your period pain can happen when you're first pregnant and being irrtable is another thing that can happen. These things happened to me. 

Well you TAKE CARE and let us know what happens, LOVE KELLY. 

Hi there i am a 18 year old soon to be mom and trapped between a rock and a hard spot  

im 7 months pregnate and i have a b/f of 2 in a half months. The guy i might be pregnate by use to abususe me and do drugs.My boyfriend and i  think we should give the baby up considering i dont have any income and i live with my aunt. I have been thinking about this for a while and cant get it out of my head.  

Also the other night me and my b/f went out and i stayed in the car while he went inside. i started to think about my real dad and how he raped and melested my oldest sister.  

well at the beging of this year i stayed with him and began to notice that my door would be unlocked the next morning after i locked it the night before. I talked to my real dads kids that are now about 32 years old and they told me that in March my dad told them that i am pregnate and i didnt even know till june.  

****Please if anyone can relate to how i feel please respond and tell me what i should do**** 

hi  

congrats on your pregnancy i bet your trilled. iam sure your hubby is just excited   i think he had all these hopes and joys and wishs for the last bubbas(sorry by the way for your loss)  that he dont want to get to attached this time just incase this happened again, i have had a misscarriage in the past and i know how it  feels to lose your baby  but men act very diffrently,   maybe  you should talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and be honest and say how you feel and say lets take this one day at a time i know iam like that until i get past 15 weeks. but  you still get  scared and i think hes really over the moon but not jsut showing incase the past happens again, if you have any more questons dont hesitate you ask i think i have covered it,  and just be there for him  and slowly say its going to be ok , 

stacey 

If he doesn't understand/care about hurting your tummy/baby then tell him that he is hurting mommy.  How long has he known? 

My daughter is 3 1/2 and is thrilled to have another baby coming home.  (we also have a 20 month old)  She asks to say hi to baby and will life up my shirt.  I have also put her hand on my tummy, when she is relaxed and wants to.  She loves to feel the baby move, and is sad when the baby isn't kicking.   

I am just wondering what kind of transition he got?  Maybe taking him to the store and letting him help pick out a special blanket or something that he can give to his sister when she is born will help him feel apart of it.  For me the big thing is including my other two in the excitement of the new arrival.  Baby is a good thing- not just a time when he can't climb on mommy. 

Good luck! 

Congrats on your pregnancy!  It sounds like your husband has some pain he didn't resolve from the first miscarriage.  I would just be honest with him.  He might not even realize how different he is acting.  Tell him, "Honey, I am feeling scared that you changed your mind about having a baby.  I remember how loving you were and how much you touched my belly the first pregnancy.  Are you scared of another miscarriage?"  And tell him that it is okay for him to have his space about this.  There are a lot of people who wait until their second trimester to tell friends and family- just in case.  So it is not unusual for him not to be hyped up.   

Ask your OB about safe dates etc.  and then tell your husband, At 16 weeks (20? whatever) that you want to go out for a special dinner to celebrate.  Let me know you are ready for you both to be excited about this pregnancy- at the same time respecting his wishes to mourn the last one.  Truly I don't think his distance is because he doesn't want the baby.  It is just his way of dealing with the pain of the last loss and fear of other losses. 

Good luck.  I hope that helps. 

There is no shame in doing the right thing. If you don't feel ready to give this baby 100% of your time, effort, love and money then you aren't ready to be a mom.  You need to give this baby the best chance at a good life.  If you look deep in your soul you should already know the answer. 

As for your real dad.  I find it hard to believe that you #1 wouldn't wake up while being raped and #2 wouldn't "feel" raped in the morning.  But if you really think it is possible talk to your OB or midwife and ask about paternity testing at the hospital. 

  I had a baby boy when i was 18 It was hard at first. Still is at times. i was nervous too but i realized that after he was born that i have another life that im responnisable for now he is a year old and im glat that i had him . You will have your ups and downs every mother dose, as long as you give your baby all the love that you have everything will work out .. I am now 20 and trying to have another baby. I hope that everything works out for you.