Quote From: karmaisreal Im 30wks. now and @ 1st i didnt want to keep the baby bc of fear of being a single mother. The father of the child and his family didnt wanted me to keep the baby so i did. i love being pregnant and am excited. the father of the child on the other hand said that we would do this together but he hasnt bn there for me at all. i go to the doctors alone . he seems uninterested in anything that has something to do with the baby. he doesnt call and check to see how im doing and hasnt bought the baby anything to this day. even when i made a trip to visit him he didnt want to feed me or cuddle and he seemed distant. he recently told me that he didnt want me using the baby as leveridge. i dont plan on filing for childsupport but i would like for my son to have his father in his life. he wants to name the baby and for the baby to have his last name. my father wants the baby to have my last name bc we are not married. i try to talk to him in a calm way eventhough i wish to do otherwise so we can keep a gd. relationship for the babys sake but nothing works. someone, anyone help i dnt know what to do im so hurt and confused at this point.
Be prepared to raise the baby on your own. Give him your last name and leave fathers name off birth certificate. This will help later with legal matters, including getting a passport should you need one for the baby(even to take a little vacation down the road). This won't interfere with your ability to request child support (fathers name does not have to be on certificate). If you need social services (food stamps, medicaid, WIC), they will go after the birth father for compensation any way. Be strong...women can handle anything. Get a job if you don't have one..consider a job at a daycare. You can work and get a drastically reduced fee for your daycare services. Make sure you finish school!!!! Even if you have to take online classes or go at night.
If the father straightens up, great. If not, you'll be prepared!
Being scared and being weak are two different things. Scared is Ok. It will pass. You'll be fine!
