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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:54:48 pm
Author : dataimport
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October 19, 2005, 9:17 pm CDT

ITS YOUR CHILD

Quote From: missfrogge

We had our ultrasound done today, but baby was stubborn and wouldn't show us what he/she was.  We are going to go to a private company Saturday and try to find out... 

  

The reason I am upset is something that was said today by someone I really relied on and trusted.  As I told all of you a while back, I am 35 and have high-blood pressure, so I am considered high-risk.  I also have suffered from severe depression for many years....the depression is better and I am only having to take one safe medication, I also see my psychiatrist and HE is the problem.  I told him today that my obgyn asked if we wanted to do genetic testing and I told him no, we didn't and the obgyn agreed.  My psych said that it was because of religious beliefs, but I told him that I wouldn't abort a baby no matter what, my child is my child.  I asked him if he would have aborted his little girl and he said YES, absolutely, he went on to say that he felt that Downs children were missing a chromosome and that he felt that they weren't even human.  God, how could he say that.  I understand that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I am pregnant, high-risk, and mentally ill, and what if my baby was Downs?  That made me so angry and hurt so deep.   

  

Am I overreacting?  Or am I right to cut off further visits with this doctor?  He has been very good to a difficult patient(me) for 9 years, but all this is very hard to swallow, how could I bring my baby with me to visits if it wasn't perfect?  

ok firstly let me say....I feel deeply hurt and its not even my baby.....but a child is a child, it doesnt matter what race or if it is missing a leg or a chromasome or 2 its still an inocent human being that deserves love and respenct...its your child and you need to fight for its rights.... 

on the other hand it was just an opinion that your physc voiced to you so maybe if you just dont  ask for his opinion on this subject then you might still be able to see him and also it might help you to voice the fact that you felt deeply hurt by his comments. 

 

 
October 27, 2005, 1:45 pm CDT

i might be pregnant...

i´ve been trying for 3 years now .. ( miscarried 3 years ago ) and i think i might be .. i wont let myself belive it but i´m hoping, i always write down when i get my periode on my puter, but it crashed a few weeks ago and now all i know is that i´m either 7 or 14 days late.  

my back is hurting and my breast are more sensetive then usual ( but not very ) i don´t feel sick and i have minor cramps.. so basicly it feels just like when i´m about to get my periode.. 

would you think you where preg or just late if it was you ?? 

  

last time I was late , ( about 4 days ) i went to the doctor and when the result came back negative i was heartbroken.. and got my periode 10 min after leaving the doctors.. so i´m kinda dreading going through that again... 

  

 
October 27, 2005, 4:46 pm CDT

She's pregnant

Quote From: bcoceans

  • I don't think that anyone can advise you on what to do in regards to your pregnancy.  This is such a personal matter and you can't let other people's opinions affect you. 

Our baby was a complete surprise as well. I have been on the pill since I was 14 for medical reasons (I am now 21 going on 22) and when I switch types, I usually skip periods. Well I switched right around time of conception and I also have a history of cysts in my uterus. That being said, you are not alone in the fact that you can go quite a while not knowing that you are pregnant. Mind you, I found out when I was 3 months pregnant, compared to you at 6. However I do have a friend who has a beautiful 4 year daughter and she had the same situation as you.

  • I believe that you need to do what you believe is right and it may not be right to ANYONE else but you! Bringing a child into the world is a gift from God. You need to decide if this gift is what you want, need and can embrace right now. You also have to remember (as Dr.Phil says) our children don't pick us, they are stuck with us. So you need to make sure that this is not only right for you, but for your child as well.

There are many options out there. I believe in abortions if they are necessary, not as a means of birth control and adoption is very successful now a days too. I think you should sit down and think about each option and write down the pros and cons to each. I was very stuck as to what to do, as well. Although my husband was very supportive, it really boiled down to my decision. These were the questions I asked myself, so maybe they can help you!

I wish you luck and keep in touch!

 I was wondering if its not too personal, what your decision was, my sister has just turned 17 and is 8 weeks pregnant. She is trying to decide what to do. My family and I have given all the advise we can, but we dont have any personal experience of having a baby so young, and was wondering if you had any advise as you would have either had your baby by now or decided other wise. Muchly appreciated
 
October 28, 2005, 3:52 am CDT

guess iwas wrong..

Quote From: nordback

i´ve been trying for 3 years now .. ( miscarried 3 years ago ) and i think i might be .. i wont let myself belive it but i´m hoping, i always write down when i get my periode on my puter, but it crashed a few weeks ago and now all i know is that i´m either 7 or 14 days late.  

my back is hurting and my breast are more sensetive then usual ( but not very ) i don´t feel sick and i have minor cramps.. so basicly it feels just like when i´m about to get my periode.. 

would you think you where preg or just late if it was you ?? 

  

last time I was late , ( about 4 days ) i went to the doctor and when the result came back negative i was heartbroken.. and got my periode 10 min after leaving the doctors.. so i´m kinda dreading going through that again... 

  

i was wrong again :-(
 
October 28, 2005, 6:55 am CDT

a hopeful mommy to be

my twins are 8 years old and they are for the  most part good kids. i am expecting my 3rd child in march. i am having a girl. i am considered high risk cuz i had twins and cuz i had preclampsia during my 1st pregnancy.  i thought this pregnancy would be smooth sailin for me, but i was wrong. i was told i had toxoplasmosis, then i had my blood sent off for further testin and it ended up bein negative, so i got passed that hurdle and then the next hurdle showed its ugly head, i am RH A- and my husband is 0 +  and when i had my twins i recieved the rhogam shot but either didnt get enuff of it or didnt get it at all cuz my blood has produced the antibodies toward positive fetuses . so i have to see my regular obgyn and a specialist. my regular ob i see every 3-4 weeks and my specialist i see every 2 weeks. every other visit at my specialist office i have to go thru a amniocentesis. i had my 1st one at 16 weeks and it determined that my baby girl's blood typin was + just like her daddy's. so i have to have a amnio every other visit to my specialist. the specialist says shes doin great, growin and showin no signs of anemia or any other serious problems. shes very active and weighs 11 ounces. 2 weeks prior to that she weighed 7 ounces. he thinks everything is goin to just fine with my baby girl. i pray so, shes done been thru enuff and i am wantin her to be stubbern and fight off anything that may bother her while in my belly.  i take a vcr tape with me to each appointment and he gets her on my vcr tape so my husband can see her move and squirm bout. this whole thing has had us stressed out. in the very beginning we was told we was pregnant, then was told that we was pregnant by all the test but there was no baby in the sac, just a empty sac,that id miscarry and rejcet the pregnancy when my body couldnt carry it no more ,  it devestated us, then a week later went back to the hospital and they finally found the baby, i just wasnt far enuff for them to see her yet. then we get passed that then had to deal with the toxoplasmosis which ended up negative thank god and now we got this last hurdle to pass. i am soon startin my 6th month and the doctors think she will be just fine, she is showin no signs of any problems and is healthy as she can be. i have decided to name her' Heavenly Danielle Chastain ' the reason i chose heavenly is cuz shes been thru sooo much i wanted to thank my good lord above by givin her a name that showed my thanks to him. shes definately my little miracle baby.  Has anyone else out there been thru this, to where your blood has produced antibodies towards positive blood type babies and the rhogam shot does no good cuz u already got the antibodies? if so, can you tell me bout your experience with it please. thanks for reading my message. and yall have a great day.
 
October 28, 2005, 12:20 pm CDT

tired of being sad

I am 36 weeks pregnant. I already have 3 children that I struggle to provide for. I'm actually in the process of increasing the child support my ex-husband pays to help balance it out a little. But now I'm pregnant by my boyfriend of 2 years. This pregnancy was totally unplanned and even prevented but here I am--alone and pregnant. He will be a great father and he is more excited than me about the child (it's his first). We have tried what seems like a zillion times to make our relationship work but It just isn't going well and never is. When my ex-husband and I separated I was pregnant and I remember it being the lonliest time of my life. The separation was for the better but I could not help but feel consumed with sadness about being pregnant and alone. When my boyfriend and I first got serious in our relationship he asked me if I would consider having any more (with him of course) and I said that having my youngest by myself was so emotionally devistating that I just could not and would not do that to myself again. I said that I would want to be married and more financially and emotionally stable in our relationship. Well here I am living in my worst fears and I am unbelievably depressed. I am due in November and my maternity leave is unpaid. The thought of Christmas for my kids just instantly makes me cry. I don't qualify for any financial assistance for daycare, welfare or anything. I do qualify for WIC and I have made the appointment. But I am feeling so low at this point. I just feel like trash. I looked for local support groups for single and pregnant mothers but i found very few and the few that I found are for teen mothers...which makes me feel even better--that was sarcasm. I'm tired of asking friends and family for help.  

  

The father wants to be a part of the delivery but I don't know if I can handle being in the same room with him without being overcome by emotions. I know he means well and I know we are both upset that this couldn't work out but I just don't think I can handle it. It's probably selfish--seeing as how there are sooo many fathers in this country who couldn't care less about their children. But I know we will both be emotional and I also don't want to fall into the emotional trap of having feelings for him again when I know--only from experience and not my heart--that it will not work. 

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 
October 28, 2005, 2:00 pm CDT

I Don't want to be induced can anyone help?

A year ago my husband and I lost a set of twins in our first pregnancy at six months.  Immediately following we decided to try for another baby.  Now I am 41 weeks pregnant and more than ready for my little bundle of joy.  I was wondering if anyone had any ideas for naturally getting my labor on the way.  If he doesn't come on his own by next wednesday they will induce, and I don't really want that.  So If anyone tried a way to naturally induce and it worked I would love to hear your story 

  

 
October 28, 2005, 2:19 pm CDT

9 Days Away

My husband and I are expecting our first child in 9 days.  We are so excited but really scared.  We have no idea what to expect, and we are hoping the "natural instinct" that everyone talks about will kick in.  The anxiousness is killing me, though.  I just can't wait for our little one to be here, and I am so tired of being pregnant.  If I have to go one day past my due date I will go crazy!! 

 
October 28, 2005, 2:42 pm CDT

20 weeks with first child

i'm 2o weeks now and i feel pretty good i didn't have much morning sickness or any complications.  i'm having a girl and we have picked a name already.  

 
October 28, 2005, 4:16 pm CDT

Baby Hunter

I am 29 weeks pregnant, with my first child, it is a  boy, We already picked out a name, Hunter Michael. I feel great, I have had no complications my whole pregnancy.. I have gained 22 pounds already...
 
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