I'm not sure where to begin or if I'm posting in the right place, but anyway a year ago I gave birth to my daughter at age 17. I decided to keep my child. My parents never knew until about a week before I gave birth. Her father and I love eachother very much, but unfortunately my parents did not and still do not love him. They never liked him even before they found he got me pregnant, because he was "not our type". My fiance is hispanic and my parents wanted me to be with someone white and rich. Anyway, my daughter was born overseas so they decided that the only way they would support me was if they came back to the US with the baby and said it was their own and that she was born by a surrogate mother. Anyway at that point I had to finish highschool and my daughters' father and I decided that it was important for her future and mine to finish highschool so we went along with their plans. My parents never let him see her and just assumed that he wasnt interested because I never mentioned him for fear they would throw me out. I never mentioned I was still seeing him or that he knew about our daughter. We just kept quiet because after all she was only an infant and wouldnt remember anything during her first year of life and we needed to prepare for her future, he worked and I studied.
Now her father and I would like to begin our lives together even though it will be very tough we think we can make it. I just dont want to hurt my parents and sisters again. They want me to move on and pretend like my daughter is my sister and forget that her father ever existed. I do not think it is right, its not what I want to do and I dont think it is healthy for my daughter. My fiance thinks its so easy for me to just stand up to my parents and tell them what we want to do and that I'm moving out, but I am really scared because my parents have tried to kill eachother and themselves and get into brutal emotional and physical arguements. Their the type of people that you really can not reason with or talk to. So I am just looking for some support or constructive criticism from anyone out there as this is a difficult time for me. I mean am I wrong to think that me and my fiance and our daughter can make it on our own? He is 21 and working, I am 18 and in college and I am sure as soon as we tell his parents they will support us but I do not think my parents will support us and I know that when I tell them they will say the cruelest things you can think of, but they are still my parents and I take their opinions to heart. Am I wrong or are they, I just dont think its right for them to teach my daughter that they are her parents and teach her to call them mom and dad when she already has her own biological parents willing to be with her and raise her and be our own family. Even if they didnt teach her that, I still think that if I love her father and he loves me we should be able to get our chance at being married and a family instead of them just telling me that I am too young to know anything. Legally they dont have a say anymore over me or my daughter because they never legally adopted her or anything of the sort. Anyway I just would like some feedback. Thanks!
