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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:55:14 pm
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After making the decision to get pregnant, you find you are unable to conceive. Sound familiar? Share your infertility journey with us.

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June 3, 2007, 2:25 am PDT

hi there..

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i am only 20 years old and i recently found out that i cant have children. i am not looking to get pregnant or anything but i cant help but feel like a freak. my chromosome test and everything came back normal but i simply dont have any eggs. i just want to know how to deal with this. my family doesnt know. i didnt even get my first period until a couple of months ago. and that only happened because of the birth control pills that i am taking for replacing the hormones i dont produce. i have only told my sister who is 21 and has a beautiful baby girl and she threw it back in my face saying that maybe god was punishing me. my mother also knows but she is no help all she says to me is dont tell anyone else. i hate this. i want to know how to stop this crying and to move on with my life. any suggestions?
I'm 35 and in the same position as you.  My partner and I started trying for a baby 3 years ago.  We have had 3 unsucessful attempts at IVF and I have been told its because of my eggs.  The irony was I had waited for so long because I wanted to find the right man to have children with.  I can honesty say that this is the most painful experience of my life - it hurts every day.  I have made a deal with myself to accept my situation and move on, but to grieve along the way, and grieving takes time.  Its hard when everyone else in the world appears to have children and infertility is such a hidden thing - people make assumptions about why I don't have children. Its also hard to find someone to talk to about it  and even on a site like this it hurts to see people posting pictures of their children ( I don't mean to be rude to you people out there - you are truely blessed).  I'm wondering if your mother does not know how to help you and that is why she is not being supportive?  Find people that are supportive, find things to fill in your life - there are options for you in terms of adoption.  I don't know if you have a  partner, but if not there are men out there who are wonderfully supportive and caring.  Remember it will take time for you to start healing, look after youself and let yourself grieve...
 
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July 10, 2007, 1:00 pm PDT

hello

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July 14, 2007, 8:47 pm PDT

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  My husband and i would like to have children and we are unable to because i have my tubes tied. if theres anyone out there that knows of a place that doesnt cost a arm and a leg to get the tubal reversal done would you plz get in contact with me . thanks  

You don't need a reversal unless that is what you want.

My sister in law had her tubes tied 5-7 years ago and have twins about 1 half years ago.

All she did was take the meds have some eggs harvested and the babies were implanted at the right time. I don't know how much the cost was - becaues Bro in law has wonderful insurance.
 
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August 15, 2007, 9:25 pm PDT

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I'm 35 and in the same position as you.  My partner and I started trying for a baby 3 years ago.  We have had 3 unsucessful attempts at IVF and I have been told its because of my eggs.  The irony was I had waited for so long because I wanted to find the right man to have children with.  I can honesty say that this is the most painful experience of my life - it hurts every day.  I have made a deal with myself to accept my situation and move on, but to grieve along the way, and grieving takes time.  Its hard when everyone else in the world appears to have children and infertility is such a hidden thing - people make assumptions about why I don't have children. Its also hard to find someone to talk to about it  and even on a site like this it hurts to see people posting pictures of their children ( I don't mean to be rude to you people out there - you are truely blessed).  I'm wondering if your mother does not know how to help you and that is why she is not being supportive?  Find people that are supportive, find things to fill in your life - there are options for you in terms of adoption.  I don't know if you have a  partner, but if not there are men out there who are wonderfully supportive and caring.  Remember it will take time for you to start healing, look after youself and let yourself grieve...

Hi, I am new to this website.  I am sorry to hear that you cannot have children.  I am in a similar situation.  I have tried IVF a few times without any success.  Then I fell pregnant naturally which was such a shock but such good news for us.  Then I lost my baby, stillborn and now I dont know what to do.  My time is running out.  I can understand your grief, I am grieving so hard I dont know what to do any more.  I want to have more children more than anything in this world but I think my time has run out.  I am not 20 but I am in my early 40's.  If anyone has any advise as to how to get on with life with having children (a situation I cannot accept) I would appreciate it.  Thank you.

 
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August 15, 2007, 9:34 pm PDT

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I have emailed before and spoke about our trials and dispair during IVF. We went thru a second attempt and it worked. I gave birth 2 days before my 48th birthday. What a birthday present.  January 3, 2007 Joshua was born. He is absolutely beautiful and looks like a baby Dr. Phil.  He is a miracle and it goes to show that if you never ever give up, you have a chance.  Please ladies don't give up.!!!!!!!! I know it is expensive, but look what you get in the end. I have never been so ecstatic. And now...I have to go thru menopause!!!!  :)
WOW, congratulations.  I wish I had the same good news but I have attempted IVF a few times and grieving over the loss of my beautiful stillborn baby.  I dont want to give up but time is running out.  I am in my early 40's.  Hearing your story is wonderful.  I wish I had more hope but I am grieving really hard now.  
 
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August 28, 2007, 5:26 pm PDT

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WOW, congratulations.  I wish I had the same good news but I have attempted IVF a few times and grieving over the loss of my beautiful stillborn baby.  I dont want to give up but time is running out.  I am in my early 40's.  Hearing your story is wonderful.  I wish I had more hope but I am grieving really hard now.  
I also wish i had the same good fortune. My husband and I have gone through 2 rounds of IVF wth 2 miscarraiges to speak of.  And we are now offically out of money to go another round. Is there anyone out there who can help us locate somewhere to assist with the financial part of IVF. We so want to be parents.  
 
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September 12, 2007, 3:17 pm PDT

help

 I am about to undergo my first IVF and was wondering if anyone could help me by sharing how there experience was while on the hormones prior to IVF and post IVF and how they felt after the procedure was over was it painful did you go back to your normal daily activities any info that anyone would like to share with me would be greatly appreciated I'm scared.
 
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September 13, 2007, 11:40 am PDT

COST OF IVF

I AM ALSO INFERTILE. I AM 35 AND NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO CONCEIVE FOR ALMOST FOUR YEARS NOW. WE TRIED A NUMBER OF PROCEDURES AND THE ONLY THING LEFT IS IVF. I JUST DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY TO DO THAT. DOES ANYONE KNOW OF ANY IVF HELP OUT THERE?

 

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September 19, 2007, 4:16 pm PDT

hi..

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Hello all-

 

I am very excited to report that my husband and i have PCS'ed to Turkey and the cost of IVF here is amazingly cheap. He learned the procedure in the states and was the first doctor to have a successful IVF babie. It seem as though most of his pregnancies are twins....but i will take what i can get. We are awaiting my cycle so we can start our IVF cycle. I guess because i am actuualy eager to see my period it wants to take its time. The cost of the IVF is 3,250 lira, which come out to be about 2,000 U.S dollars. You medication is an additional 1,500. Well guys thats all for now. Wish me luck....Hope to hear from someone soon...

 

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my husband and i are having a similar problem i had my tubes cut when i was 22 years old which was a mistake.. I am 30 now and my husband now has never had any children and i really want to have a baby with my husband.. We did a tubal reversal surgery that cost over 7000.00 us dollars and that hasn't worked.. That was done in 2004. Now we want to do that IVF and it is so expensive. what is the name of the Dr. you are seeing and where is he located.  thanks

 

 

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September 19, 2007, 11:01 pm PDT

for everyone up there, pls keep trying to have a baby and dont give up, it's worthy!!!!

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 I am about to undergo my first IVF and was wondering if anyone could help me by sharing how there experience was while on the hormones prior to IVF and post IVF and how they felt after the procedure was over was it painful did you go back to your normal daily activities any info that anyone would like to share with me would be greatly appreciated I'm scared.

I wanted to share about our experience. My husband and I tried to have a baby for 3 years, He was diagnosed with low sperm count, and I had some thyroid problems, .. we were told that we could conceived a baby naturally but it could take us longer than other couples, the doctors adviced us to try IVF.

We had our doubts but we gave it a go.

The treatment is pretty emotional, exhausting, and unpredictable, you never know what's going to happen every time you have a scan, cycle can be cancel, stopped it, or change it. I'm telling you this not to scare you, but to prepare you. Dont put your emotions and expectations too high, because you never know until the end if it's going to succed. Just try to keep yourself busy, and not to think too much, ... you will experience the roller coaster, your hormones are going to get crazy sometime, but it's all part of the treatment, ...

For me, the worse part of the treatment was the collections of eggs, and the long two weeks you have to wait before you have your blood test. The best one was when I got the phone call saying that I was pregnant, .. I have a beautiful and healthy baby, that's why I can say it's all worthy!!!!!!!

I was blessed that it worked with me the first time, .. and I'm grateful for that. I have friends that I've been trying for few times and havent got pregnant yet. Just one of them got pregnant and had a miscarriage.

I noticed that lots of people said in this web site the IVF treatment in the US is pretty expensive, I'm from Australia, here the treaments are pretty affordable.

Cheer up, keep trying and make your dreams come true, ..

 
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