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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:55:14 pm
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After making the decision to get pregnant, you find you are unable to conceive. Sound familiar? Share your infertility journey with us.

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November 17, 2005, 8:53 am CST

My Thoughts and Prayers to all of you

From one woman who was told she would never have children, I send you my thoughts and prayers.   

  

I was told after 3rd miscarraige I would likely have problems, but just go home and drink a beer, it would be ok.  (gotta love small town docs!)  I got pregnant the very next month!  Had problems however keeping her in, however.  We were blessed with a beautiful girl in 2000.  We started trying for a brother or sister for her a year later.  Remembering the heart ache and trouble it had been to try to the first time, we thought to try early.  After 6 months, I grew tired of my doctor telling me I needed to relax and drink more beer.  I coerced him into getting me a referal to a specialist over an hour away.  It was trhough him I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis.  We did clomid for a year (a very long year) and when it was all said and done, it was a year with three more miscarraiges.  Very hard year.  And I felt like all of the drugs, and worry I had lost part of my daughters childhood.  The guilt was huge!  The next month we found out we were pregnant.  A month after we had all but given up hope.  The doctor and I had talked about the next step in the drug regimine.  We talked about IVF, we talked about forcing menopause and bringing me out of it.  We had a surgery where he "cleaned" me out.  It was a hard year.  The pregnancy was nothing short of a miracle.  At 10 weeks we lost our little miracle.   

  

I switched meds to glucophage.  For the first time in 8 years, I lost weight.  My face cleared up.  I felt better.  My hormones were not going wacky.  And I felt like a better mom.  That's when we were blessed with miracle baby #2.  Our son was born in 04, and we were all so happy for this little miracle that my doctor admitted he was glad to see.   

  

In Jan of '05 I felt like I had the stomach flu.  Guess what?  Miracle #3 showed up after I was 8.5 weeks a long.  She was the easiest pregnancy.  Go figure!  All those years of treatments, and waiting, and crying because it didn't happen.  She sneeked in, and has changed our lives for the better. 

  

Life if so strange.  A very close friend of mine cannot have kids, but after years of IVF and tears, she is adopting two beautiful children.  We took the journey of infertility together, and for both of us it seems to have worked out.   

  

I remember the fear, the frustration, the sadness, the disappointment, the trials, the heartache, and the thought of being alone in this journey.  I felt broken, and like I was unable to do what any other woman could do.  I was not normal.  My co-workers didn't understand, and most people were generally cruel about my inabliity to concieve.  I only hope this has not happened to you.  I was lucky enough to have my friend and husband with me.   

 

My thoughts and prayers to all of you.  You are not alone.  If you ever need to talk, just reach out.  I wish you all the best on this long hard road. 

 
November 17, 2005, 8:58 am CST

Infertility

I just remembered that I used to visit a site: 

  

http://www.resolve.org/main/national/bboard/index.jsp?name=bulletin&tag=bboard 

  

Any questions I had, someone else was also going through and had answers.  I wish you all the best. 

  

ps- I remember those stand on your head days....  there is a lot of new findings out there about trying to concieve the second time and it being harder to darn near impossible.  I wish you luck. 

  

 
November 17, 2005, 10:51 am CST

Infertility

      I remember those days so well.  The surgery, the cat scans, the x-rays, the pain of some of those awful tests and the feeling of inadequacy and "Why me?" was a constant.  My husband and I are not rich -- in money.  At the time -- 25 years ago -- the only place doing IVF was in Virginia.  The cost was as prohibitive then as it is now for us and many other couples as well.  After a year of trying, crying and cursing the insurance industry for not helping more, we both came to the conclusion that biology was not what made a person a parent.  Raising a child made you a parent.  Biology aside, it is the investment of time, love, intellect that makes a parent.  We adopted our beautiful daughter from Korea through an agency and we couldn't be happier.  Parenting is an incredible journey.  Please keep your options and your hearts open.  Infertility is not the end of the road.  It is just the fork in a road. 
 
November 17, 2005, 10:58 am CST

Been there . . . Done that!

Quote From: mom2twins

Hello...I'm not sure if I have posted here before or not, but I am now...looking for some more support.   Hubby and I have been TTC for almost 2 1/2 years now with no pregnancy yet.  We are blessed already with a set of fraternal twins which were conceived on clomid our first cycle trying.  Part of the reason it is so hard this time is because they came to us so easily.  I didn't know that having a baby could be so difficult.  I do my bbt charting, I am currently on clomid again, and I've tried many many different things to help in the TTC process....ugh.  It's nice to chat with other women going through the same things. 

I know how you feel!  My husband and I tried for the same amount of time (8 months of it on Chlomid) before we finally switched from our doctor to a fertility specialist.  Come to find out, I was not producing mature eggs.  After 3 months, one month back on the pill to clear the chlomid out of my system, 1 month of nightly Follistim shots and IUI (which only produced 1 mature egg), and another month of nightly Follistim shots (increased dosage which produced 4 mature eggs) and IUI, we are now expecting triplets in the spring 2006.  We are very excited. 

  

 I know how disappointing each month is that it comes and goes and you are not pregnant.  I would get so depressed.  But keep the faith and hang in there.  It's hard and frustrating, but worth it in the end.  Always feel open to asking your doctor about other alternatives.  Our fertility specialist said we were on the chlomid too long!  Don't be afraid to ask and look into other options!!  You will be in our thoughts and prayers. 

  

Heather 

 
November 17, 2005, 5:20 pm CST

Infertility

Quote From: hguy1027

I know how you feel!  My husband and I tried for the same amount of time (8 months of it on Chlomid) before we finally switched from our doctor to a fertility specialist.  Come to find out, I was not producing mature eggs.  After 3 months, one month back on the pill to clear the chlomid out of my system, 1 month of nightly Follistim shots and IUI (which only produced 1 mature egg), and another month of nightly Follistim shots (increased dosage which produced 4 mature eggs) and IUI, we are now expecting triplets in the spring 2006.  We are very excited. 

  

 I know how disappointing each month is that it comes and goes and you are not pregnant.  I would get so depressed.  But keep the faith and hang in there.  It's hard and frustrating, but worth it in the end.  Always feel open to asking your doctor about other alternatives.  Our fertility specialist said we were on the chlomid too long!  Don't be afraid to ask and look into other options!!  You will be in our thoughts and prayers. 

  

Heather 

 I can not give you any advice on getting pregnant because I am infertile and I never had the chance to even try to conceive a baby.  I can however say that adoption could bring you a lot of happiness.  My husband and I have successfully adopted two beautiful and very healthy African American newborns within our own city.   One son is now 3 and our other is just four months old.  We  have happily formed  an inter-racial family that has brought an end to my hopelessness that surrounded infertility.  I hope that things improve with your treatments, but if they do not then just know that something will work out in time.  I know  that the wait can be very frustrating at times, but if it works in the end then the effort was most definitely worth it.  Good luck.
 
November 17, 2005, 6:03 pm CST

TTC over 1 yr

We have been TTC since Sept 2004 now and have been through a lot of testing and surgery (Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy) and are now trying fertility meds (Clomid). I am amazed at how many people are affected by infertility. I have great support thru my friends and TTC chat boards where I can chat w/other women going thru similar experiences.  

  

I have learned a lot on this journey. Like, if all the moon and stars are aligned, you only have a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. That blew me away! We are on cycle 17 now. It's been frustrating and heartbreaking having to deal w/this for as long as we have. Yet, I know so many others that have been dealing w/this much, much longer. 

  

So far my insurance has covered portions of everything we've done so far. But I only have diagnostic testing coverage, not infertilty treatment coverage - which is not mandatory in my state. (TX) 

  

I never dreamed I'd be approaching my 30th birthday, and still be childless. Since we've started TTC, I've seen other friends and co-workers get pregnant, deliver their babies and even having birthday parties now. It's hard not to feel left out or left behind. It's hard to want something so bad and be doing all the things you can do to insure conception and yet cycle after cycle - failure. 

  

For now, I chart my cycles, temp each morning, use OPK's and a fertiltiy monitor and am being monitored by my OBGYN w/ultrasounds since I am on Clomid.  

  

I hope I am nearing the end of our TTC journey, b/c I want to meet my sweet baby (or babies) soon and look into their faces and feel love. 

  

 
November 17, 2005, 8:05 pm CST

Infertility

Quote From: kileen

Hello, 

  

My partner and I have been trying for a year.  I did get pregnant back in November,  but miscarried 8 weeks later.  Still no success...but I'm hopeful.  I now have been told by my doctor that we will have to do invitro.  My ovaries and follicles are good and my uterus is good,  but my doctor thinks the problem is in my tubes (even though my HSG came back negative),  he also is checking my antibodies to see if they are killing the sperm or the embryo(s).   I'm taking some time off now to relax and enjoy myself,  my partner,  my new job,  and building a new home.  I'm 36 and feel like my biological clock is ticking,  but I know it is time to relax and have some fun.  We will start trying again after the Christmas holidays.  Good luck to you all and never give up...we're not. 

  

Kileen 

  

  

  Hi Kileen, I understand what your going through and as hard as it is just don't give up hope.  As far as other people's wacky opinions and judgment's, they just don't get it because they are not going through it!!! If you ever need support just reply back and I'll send you my e-mail....     

 
November 17, 2005, 9:26 pm CST

what a relief

This is my first time in a setting like this, and I'm so encouraged to hear all your stories. Thank you for being candid. My husband and I have been trying six years, and I've had four miscarriages. I'm still hopeful, but certainly struggle with the monthly cycle of disappointment. I tested low at one point on progesterone, and have been using over-the-counter progesterone cream to try to prevent another miscarriage. Lately, the hardest thing I'm struggling with is to concieve again. 

  

I'd love to get some advice about what works and what's myth when it comes to conception: 

Is it better for him to be on top? 

Does hip elevation really help afterwards? 

Any nuggets of information you've learned along the way you can pass along to me? 

  

Thank you, 

Kim 

  

 
November 17, 2005, 11:42 pm CST

There's hope

Hey all. I went through over 5 years of fertility treatment. My first appointment to a fertility clinic was the most horrific and embarassing experience in my life. The first exam was the worst. The doctor hoisted me up in a huge chair. Lifted my legs out of the stirups and over the top of my head. I think he was trying to find my tonsils via my vagina. After the exam, while still undressed from the waist down, and in the presence of 2 student doctors, he asked me what he could do for me. In a total state of stun I snapped back "uhhhhhhhhh could ya upsize my fries???" According to the doctor we had less than 2 percent chance of having a baby naturally. I did artificial insemination and IVF nothing worked. I did rounds of clomid (it just made me cranky).  We even looked into sperm donation etc. I have thyroid disease and my husband's 'boys' need 'help' swimming.  IVF 'worked' . I ended up pregnant with 4 but lost them all. During our last round of IVF I ended up producing 21 eggs and finding myself in a state called hyper stim. I was put into the hospital and was treated for blood clots and nearly had to get my ovaries removed. Needless to say after that...the highs and the lows we called it quits. I don't think I have ever felt so low and alone and useless in my life. I didn't seek help and I probably should have. The month after we called it 'quits' I got pregnant on my own. I was so clueless and in denial that I could possibly be pregnant that I didn't go to a doctor for over 3 months. I didn't feel sick, only tired. The day I found out that I was pregnant, I puked on the way home and had horrible attacks of morning sickness that lasted all day long. However, through the puking I was happy to be pregnant. 18 months later I got pregnant again - totally by surprise. It truly baffled the doctors, who still tell me that if I want any more I have to go through IVF. We have been trying now for over a year. I miscarried over the summer. I visited my fertility doctor again (who by the way offered to get me some fries) and asked for more fertility drugs. I am now on clomid again and we have high hopes of a baby in the future.
 
November 17, 2005, 11:47 pm CST

there's hope

Forgot to tell you all.....I do now have a 3 year old boy and a 1 year old girl. We are trying for number 3 now. After all I have gone through.......there is really hope for anyone!
 
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