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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:55:14 pm
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After making the decision to get pregnant, you find you are unable to conceive. Sound familiar? Share your infertility journey with us.

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December 6, 2007, 3:17 pm CST

Natural Fertility

I stumbled on a new approach to fertility issues and wanted to share after I saw the show today.  It is natural fertility.  Basically it is a detox along with building up nutritional reserves but it is having really good results and it is natural so it much much cheaper.

 

Here are the websites from Australia that started the natural fertility but I also found a practitioner here in IL that is using the same approach.

 

www.fertility.com.au

www.tonicaustralia.com.au - this website has a study that is pretty impressive.

 

www.jbswellness.com - IL

 

Also, check out the Newsweek, their cover story is on fertility.

 

Anyway, after 3 years of "trying" , I am going to make an appointment and hope that I get the results that I have been dreaming of.

 
December 6, 2007, 3:21 pm CST

Hang in there!!

My husband and I went through years of infertility. It was all consuming. 4 years ago this week I had my 2nd IVF (After 3 iui's and lots of assisted cycles on other drugs). My embryos were all D quality (the lowest they consider viable). I begged the Dr to put all 4 back and he did. I now have twins that are 3 years old and just the light of my life. When we found out it was twins our fertility specialist was shocked. He said I had a 10% chance of any one of them working, it's a little science and lot of hope and prayer!


My experience with infertility has changed my entire fiber. I am a much better mom than I would have been. I have learned to be patient (something I never knew how to do before), and I am THANKFUL for every blessing in my life. My children are a true miracle and we celebrate that every day. Honestly, 4 years later my husband and I tell each other how lucky we are every single day.

 

I hope anyone reading this, that thinks that they are at the end of their rope, realizes that even if it looks bleak, it can happen. Stay positive, treat yourself well, and try hard to put your energy into doing good for others. It will fill (a little bit!) that void in your heart and give you strength you need!

 
December 6, 2007, 7:50 pm CST

Listen to your heart

Quote From: mkay83

So, I am new to this and don't know what will come of it, but at least it is nice to see that I am not the only one trying for a baby... It seems that everyone around me is pregnant and it is so frustrating, though I try so hard to stay HOPEFUL, sometimes it sure is hard... My husband and I knew from the get go that we wanted to have babies, I wanted 4 and he says 2... now after 14 mos. of trying, nothing... not a thing!!! I just recently had a D and C, hoping that my cervix was the issue, now they are going to hopefully be able to get through to check for blockage... My husband, of only 18 mos... (high school sweethearts) He has already been checked and all is good for him... We did the Basal Body Tempt thing, and all looked good there, so... the Dr. said I seemed regular at the ovulation end... I just see so many people around me that aren't ready or are very open about saying they don't want kids and they don't seem to have problesm... My husband and I have all we feel we need to have kids and can't wait to have that joy to our new marriage... I am just babbling on now, but it is nice to see and hear that others have problems too... Any advice would be great
I had years of infertility and everyoe told me to just accept reality and get on with my life. I had something in me telling me that I would have a child someday and it kept me going. It took 6 years and searching out new doctors on the cutting edge of fertility treatment to find the ight treatment for us. We now have an amazing 12 year old son. When YOU and if you feel you have had enough, you may look at other options. I will say prayers for you to have the best outcome possible.
 
December 7, 2007, 8:58 am CST

Infertility

Quote From: connerbjc

I have desired a child for some time now. My husband claims he does but is ok with just the two of us. As blessed that makes me to know i have a husband who will love me no matter what, i still feel my needs are neglected. Does anyone have any advice how to overcome this. He's made promises before and never follows thru. I guess i should explain a little more. We've tried for over 7 years now and nothing. Nobody seems to be able to give us any reason. I sought fertility treatment. He argued with me about going and never showed up. I was crushed!!! We both believe in GOD and he uses that. I'm so torn. How long do I go on like this? Most of all those who don't want children it comes so natural to them. Don't get me wrong children are a blessing in every way. But i go thru so many people who don't want them, never intended of getting pregnant and bam, they have a new baby. I even congrats someone and told them I was happy for them she said " Don't be" It hurts so bad!
My daughter went through trying to conceive for 7 years, with finally a success story.  She is 8 months pregnant after trying to conceive a 5 IVF attempts.  The situation is finding the RIGHT doctors will will identify the problems.  Sometimes these problems are so small.  Go to Have A Baby.com.  We are from Florida and she visited these doctors.
 
December 7, 2007, 3:11 pm CST

Struggling with Infertility

Currently I am a 27 year old who has been trying to concieve for a year now.  I was diagnosed with PCOS.  I went through one cycle of clomid oral tablets and we found out my husband who is 27 as well has his own infertility issue going on.  Our doctor said the clomid worked for me but we are struggling with him now.  He wants children but not as desperately as I do.  He does not do the things the doctor suggests such as simple lifestyle changes.  He does not want to pour money into expensive treatments because he would rather pay off a house.  This is such a frustrating time for me and I feel like my husband should support this. I feel that I have supported him during two very long military deployments and put off having children because of these deployments.  I just wish he could understand why I want to try every route possible and do whatever it takes.  Everyone tells us we are young and why the hurry but I wanted children yesterday! 

 
December 9, 2007, 8:37 pm CST

Struggling to get pregnant

My husband and i have been trying to get pregnant for alomost 2 years. the doctor told me and my husband there is nothing wrong for us not to conceve but i need to get my cycle to stay ragulateted. they put me on clomid and i hope that works for us. my sister is younger then me and is working on her third child it makes me very emotinal.
 
December 10, 2007, 5:53 am CST

Desperate for a baby

I can relate so much with the other ladies who want a baby more than anything in the world. I feel like I have been cursed in life to not have had a baby. I spent 14 years in a relationship ( we started dating when I was 18 and he was 29), for the first year we talked about having one child, then he said he did not want any children and I agreed and I really thought that I DID NOT want children and we lived our lives, but when I hit my early thirties, my biological clock kicked into overdrive, and I wanted a BABY!!!!!!!!. BUT, he said "NO" and would not even discuss it, he said If I wanted a child to go and find someone else to have kids with. I ended up leaving him, part of the problem was the baby issue but he also refused to marry me, even after 14 years, etc, etc. SO, I left and started dating a man who DESPERATELY wanted a baby also, but after two years of unprotected sex and still no pregnancy, he went for a sperm analyis and we found out that he has ZERO SPERM!!!!!!! How can life be so UNFAIR????????? He says I should go find a man who can give me a family and actually a lot of people say for me to go find another man, but I LOVE him, and don't want to just run away to find another man with the hopes for a child. I feel like I have tried twice in Two different relationships to have a baby and I have failed both times. Why does my mind and body want a baby so bad? I feel like the most unlucky person alive, my older sister has 5 kids and my younger sister has 2 kids and my brother just called a few weeks ago to announce that he and his girlfriend are pregnant!!!! Can it get any worse or more painful than it is now??

 
December 11, 2007, 8:10 am CST

DESPERATE TO BE A MOM

I AM 35 YEARS OLD, I HAVE NO CHILDREN AND AM DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER. I HAVE BEEN FIGHTING DOCTORS WANTING ME TO HAVE A HYSTERECTOMY. I CAN'T PICTURE MY LIFE WITHOUT BEING A MOM, I REFUSE TO GIVE UP HOPING FOR A MIRACLE. I WAS TOLD I HAD ONLY 10% CHANCE IVF WOULD WORK AND ADOPTION COST SO MUCH. I AM GETTING DEPRESSED & WONDERING WILL I EVER BE A MOM & ITS SOMETHING I WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING. I KNOW MY HUSBAND AND I WOULD BE WONDERFUL PARENTS. IF ANYONE HAS ANY INFO OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.
 
December 12, 2007, 8:23 am CST

IVF

Quote From: libra22ali

I AM 35 YEARS OLD, I HAVE NO CHILDREN AND AM DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER. I HAVE BEEN FIGHTING DOCTORS WANTING ME TO HAVE A HYSTERECTOMY. I CAN'T PICTURE MY LIFE WITHOUT BEING A MOM, I REFUSE TO GIVE UP HOPING FOR A MIRACLE. I WAS TOLD I HAD ONLY 10% CHANCE IVF WOULD WORK AND ADOPTION COST SO MUCH. I AM GETTING DEPRESSED & WONDERING WILL I EVER BE A MOM & ITS SOMETHING I WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING. I KNOW MY HUSBAND AND I WOULD BE WONDERFUL PARENTS. IF ANYONE HAS ANY INFO OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

Husband and I are both 31, high school sweethearts, got married on our 7 year anniversary, been married now for 7 years, been trying to have a baby for 5 years. We've tried the clomid, the shots, everything it seems like. I've had 2 laparoscopy surgeries done which they found endometrosis really bad, they lazered it out both times. In Sept 07 we tried IVF for the first time, it was unsucessful. We are now waiting to do the frozen IVF in January.

We both want children, and it's so heartbreaking to see all of my family and friends have their own children, talk about them constantly, when I want one so bad. I find myself very distant with my family and friends because I get depressed around their children. I'm constantly reminded of what we don't have, or possibly never will have. I never ever imagined we would have such problems. My husband and I have good jobs, both come from a loving family, we have a great strong relationship. the one thing we lack that we both want so bad is a child of our own. I know we always have adoption, but growing up that was my dream, and now what will I do if they dream never happends for me?

I wish nothing but the best for all you ladies. What we are all experiencing is not fair. Noone understand what we are going through.

 
December 16, 2007, 6:05 pm CST

Please Don't Give Up

Quote From: libra22ali

I AM 35 YEARS OLD, I HAVE NO CHILDREN AND AM DESPERATE TO BE A MOTHER. I HAVE BEEN FIGHTING DOCTORS WANTING ME TO HAVE A HYSTERECTOMY. I CAN'T PICTURE MY LIFE WITHOUT BEING A MOM, I REFUSE TO GIVE UP HOPING FOR A MIRACLE. I WAS TOLD I HAD ONLY 10% CHANCE IVF WOULD WORK AND ADOPTION COST SO MUCH. I AM GETTING DEPRESSED & WONDERING WILL I EVER BE A MOM & ITS SOMETHING I WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING. I KNOW MY HUSBAND AND I WOULD BE WONDERFUL PARENTS. IF ANYONE HAS ANY INFO OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP I WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

I am 33 and going through the same thing.  My new insurance that I have now only covers $3,000 of infertilty and we all know how expensive it is.  We are ok, but we don't have the money to pay out of pocket.  I have already used most of that $3,000, and I WON'T GIVE UP!!  No matter what.  I not only pray for myself to have a child I do pray for all the women out there that have difficulties getting pregnant, because I know how it feels.  Even though my husband is great and we are so happy together, it still is not any easier, and we promised each other that this would not interfere with our relationship.  I go through all the emotions a lot, angry, sad, anxious.  It is tough, probably one of the hardest things to go through but please don't give up.  I am not sure that this is the help you were asking for, but I hope some encouraging words may help.

 
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