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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:55:14 pm
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After making the decision to get pregnant, you find you are unable to conceive. Sound familiar? Share your infertility journey with us.

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January 5, 2008, 7:39 am CST

Infertility is My Middle Name

My husband and I were married April 2002 and I immediately went off the pill.  I have a daughter from a previous marriage and I got pregnant with her about month 3 after going off the pill, so I figured it would take at least 3 months.  When 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 months went by and no pregnancy, I began to get concerned.  However, my OB informed me that I am over weight, I was then 35 years old and "it gets harder as you get older to conceive", I accepted that explanation and stopped worrying.  When it had then been 1 1/2 years and we still were not pregnant, the OB decided to do some tests and found out that I have polycystic ovaries and that it would be "difficult but not impossible" for me to conceive.  Then finally,  in December 2004 (2 1/2 years after we were married), we found out I was pregnant.  I was 7 weeks when we found out and of course we told every body that we knew because we had been trying for so long.  It never crossed my mind that this would not be a viable pregnancy.  My OB informed me that she wanted to do a "early ultrasound" because of my age.  So we went in for the ultrasound at what would have been week 9, this was 4 days before Christmas.  I was heartbroken and cracked to my very core when the ultrasound tech informed us that the baby had no heartbeat.  I could not even wrap my head around it.  We had tried for 2 1/2 years to conceive this baby and in an instant that dream of another child was gone.  It has now been 3 years since my D & C and we have not managed to conceive again.   I am still heartbroken for the child we lost.  Do you ever get over that?
 
January 29, 2008, 2:52 pm CST

PCOS

I was recently diagnosed with PCOS Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. My husband and I are trying to have a baby but this disorder makes it nearly impossible. I feel like im living a vicious cycle with this disoder because my gynocologist is telling me the ways to treat the disorder and minimize my risk of getting Cervical Cancer is to get pregnant and lose weight and maintain it. But PCOS makes it impossible to get pregnant and its a leading cause for weight gain in woman with this condition. Its like theres no way I can win. Is there anyone else on this board dealing with the same issue?
 
January 30, 2008, 11:54 pm CST

BATTLE INFERTILITY

I am 30 and am also desperate to be a mother.  My husband and I have been trying since July 07.  I am a long time diabetic so I got the advice of ALL of my specialist.  My OBGYN sent me to a fertility specialist after finding I was not ovulating.  I tried Clomid for 1 month and it did not do much.  I don't have periods on my own.  As far as the test show I have eggs they are just stubburn.  My husbands insurance plan cut back and as of Jan. no longer covers ANY fertility related costs.  I am affraid that we can only afford to do this a couple months more and after all I have been through it will not happen.  Anyone out there have any advise on the financial?  Any advise is wanted!!!
 
January 31, 2008, 2:18 pm CST

PCOD & ENDOMETRIOSIS

Quote From: dallasmb

I was recently diagnosed with PCOS Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. My husband and I are trying to have a baby but this disorder makes it nearly impossible. I feel like im living a vicious cycle with this disoder because my gynocologist is telling me the ways to treat the disorder and minimize my risk of getting Cervical Cancer is to get pregnant and lose weight and maintain it. But PCOS makes it impossible to get pregnant and its a leading cause for weight gain in woman with this condition. Its like theres no way I can win. Is there anyone else on this board dealing with the same issue?
I completely understand what you are going through I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Disease and Endometriosis. I have had numerous laporoscopies and a laporatomy to remove scar tissue from the endometriosis. I've also tried the clomid, tried other shots to help me ovulate and nothing. Absolutely nothing. I've taken tons of medicine and tons of shots and nothing has helped. I was told I have less than 10% of IVF working because I don't ovulate. I don't even have any health coverage that covers infertility treatment. I've been fighting doctors for years who want me to have a hysterectomy but I keep hoping for a miracle. I so understand what you're going through. I have gained so much weight and have become so depressed and I often feel so alone with this issue. I know the risks of getting cancer from this are very high and doctors say its either get pregnant or have a hysterectomy but for women with this problem getting pregnant is virtually impossible and having a hysterectomy you lose all possibility of having your own child and your left with the option of adoption but then adoption is so expensive that you may not be able to afford it. Its very difficult for women, there is no easy answer but you need to follow your heart and keep the faith. May we all find peace and happiness. My best to you and your husband
 
February 1, 2008, 2:04 pm CST

Infertility

Quote From: libra22ali

I completely understand what you are going through I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovarian Disease and Endometriosis. I have had numerous laporoscopies and a laporatomy to remove scar tissue from the endometriosis. I've also tried the clomid, tried other shots to help me ovulate and nothing. Absolutely nothing. I've taken tons of medicine and tons of shots and nothing has helped. I was told I have less than 10% of IVF working because I don't ovulate. I don't even have any health coverage that covers infertility treatment. I've been fighting doctors for years who want me to have a hysterectomy but I keep hoping for a miracle. I so understand what you're going through. I have gained so much weight and have become so depressed and I often feel so alone with this issue. I know the risks of getting cancer from this are very high and doctors say its either get pregnant or have a hysterectomy but for women with this problem getting pregnant is virtually impossible and having a hysterectomy you lose all possibility of having your own child and your left with the option of adoption but then adoption is so expensive that you may not be able to afford it. Its very difficult for women, there is no easy answer but you need to follow your heart and keep the faith. May we all find peace and happiness. My best to you and your husband
I havent started hormone or fertility treatment yet, but thats the next step for me. I know its going to be a very long steap hike to the top of this mountain and I have to keep believing theres light at the end of the tunnel but I feel so isolated. Every mother in my 4 yr old daughters pre school has 2, 3 and 4 kids, all my girl friends just look at their husbands and they are pregnant and I hate it.  I know Im blessed to have my daughter but Ive always dreamed of having 3 kids, and now Im going to need a miricle to have 2. I wish there were local PCOS support groups in towns that you can go to.
 
February 13, 2008, 8:46 am CST

Egg Donation

I have a good friend who is considering donating her eggs.  I told her that I would look into the company she was using and make sure they are a legitimate company.  The name of the organization is Footsteps to Family (formally Third Party Parenting).  Has anybody ever had any dealings with either of these companies?  I have checked the BBB site but neither company is listed.  Do you have any suggestions on where I could look to find out any information?  Thank you for any help you can offer.

 

BC

 
February 18, 2008, 2:08 am CST

NEVER GIVE UP!

hi everyone,

all your stories sound familiar to mine, i live in australia and have been diagnosed with pcos for 12yrs now, my partner and i were trying to concieve for 2 yrs without any luck, we went to a fertility specialist who put me on clomid and other fertility medication which didnt work, it only gave me side effects, my problem is that i wasnt  ovulating and having periods, my doctor then perscribed me a diabetic drug known as diaformin here which lowered my testosterone levels which then made me ovulate every month without fail, it took me approx 3 months to regulate periods, in this time i started to relax more and didnt put so much pressure on myself and it happend, im now a mum of 2 and my periods are regular at moment without help of any medication.

To all of you women who are trying, never give up,

good luck to everyone of you,

 
February 18, 2008, 8:10 pm CST

It does happen

Hi Everyone I also live in Australia and was diagnosed with PCOS over 7 years ago. My husband & I tried for six and a half years, I was put on clomid for 2 months and unfortunately I had the side effect of putting on 20kg in those 2 months. After going through years of acupuncture & naturopathy to get my body in the best possible place and the IVF . Our first attempt ended in tragedy with the loss of our first set of twins at 18 1/2 weeks. The second attempt failed and by the third time life was getting pretty bad with the stress of why me? what have I done to deserve this? and the finances were only going to let us have one more attempt on our third go we finally conceived and now have twins Henry & Sophie. My biggest and only advice I can give you is if you want something bad enough and you are willing to work for it, it will happen. Just remember that it doesn't always happen the way you want or expect it too. One thing that I thought was interesting was that when I finally did fall pregnant I was at a stable weight of 138kg and after eating well and not giving into the cravings my post babies weight was 124kg 2 weeks after they were born, I am still losing the weight 16 weeks after their birth. For some strange reason being pregnant has helped the PCOS and put my hormones back to where they should be and losing weight is easier than before. I hope that telling you this may help at least one person to keep going as it is all worth it in the end even with the tears and heartache that we all go through.
 
March 1, 2008, 9:03 pm CST

Infertility

Quote From: dallasmb

I was recently diagnosed with PCOS Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. My husband and I are trying to have a baby but this disorder makes it nearly impossible. I feel like im living a vicious cycle with this disoder because my gynocologist is telling me the ways to treat the disorder and minimize my risk of getting Cervical Cancer is to get pregnant and lose weight and maintain it. But PCOS makes it impossible to get pregnant and its a leading cause for weight gain in woman with this condition. Its like theres no way I can win. Is there anyone else on this board dealing with the same issue?
I'm dealing with the same issue you are. I'm 23 and I've had PCOS nearly all my life.I have tried so hard to get the weight off and it's not working. The doctors tell me that if I can get control of my weight, I probably would be abe to get pregnant but it's so hard. I have struggled with my weight since I was alittle kid. I just don't know what to do anymore.My husband and I want a baby so very bad. I look around at all these other moms and wonder why I can't  have what they have. I have wanted to be a mother all my life and I'm not sure if it is ever going to happen.
 
March 10, 2008, 11:18 am CDT

just to add my story

Quote From: cinemaven

I found it best to take my temp on waking.... before moving. My hubby would wake me and pop the thermometer in my mouth and then go down to make me a cuppa tea. I was only ovulating 2-3 times a year because of Endometriosis. I did basal readings with absolute consistency for 11 months combined with 2 procedures to help clear the blockages ("you'll feel a little bit of pressure" *lol*) and was about to go to the next step when I found out I was pregnant (3 1/2 years after first beginning to try to conceive). 

  

If you're consistent with your basal readings and you chart the results every day, you'll see a very clear pattern and you'll become familiar with your body rhythms.  

  

http://www.fertilityplus.org/faq/bbt/bbtfaq.html 

This site has a lot of information on basal readings as well as a chart. There are also over the counter ovulation kits you can buy but since I was infertile in the dark ages (18 years ago) I don't know much about them. 

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Just  to add my own story to this topic.  

Began trying to conceive ... after 1 year I went to my doctor... 6 months later to an infertility specialist. Went through a number of tests and was diagnosed. Began charting my basal readings and the Dr. did a dye assessment of my tubes which he said often clears the way in cases that weren't too severe. Six months later he performed the same procedure as well as a surgical procedure to clear the worst of the blockages. At my assessment 5 months later, he explained that the fibrous blockages had returned and since I hadn't become pregnant, chances were good I'd need IVF.  

  

My husband and I decided to give ourselves a year to save and relax without even thinking about pregnancy since we wouldn't be able to do it until we could afford the IVF. 3 months later I had a summer stomach flu that lasted a few weeks *lol*.... it didn't even occur to me that I could be pregant because the doctor had explained that I was worse than ever.  

  

I was 3 months pregnant when I found out and my son is now 18. My specialist assessed me again a year after our son was born and let me know how lucky I was that I'd conceived because my tubes were severely blocked and conception would be next to impossible.  

  

When our son was 5 he asked for a little brother for Christmas... he told us in November that it was all he wanted and I went out and bought books about being an only child so I could explain to him how special he was and why we couldn't give him a brother. He was very sad on Christmas day because no matter what we said, he wanted a brother.  

  

Two days after Christmas I was feeling odd. I had the most bizarre feeling and I felt foolish even mentioning it but the feeling persisted the next day so I bought a pregnancy test without telling anyone. "Next to impossible" was born 7 months later and will soon be 13. :)  

  Well i wanted to say that I love happy endings, and i hope that one day I will get my happy ending. I was diagnosed with the same problem and wright now I have been trying for five years and to no avail. I pray that i will have the same outcome.
 
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