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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 12:55:14 pm
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After making the decision to get pregnant, you find you are unable to conceive. Sound familiar? Share your infertility journey with us.

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December 5, 2005, 10:19 am CST

Kim

Wow-sounds like you are doing everything possible. I will certainly keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. As for my medical treatment, I am just on clomid with ovulation kits. The clinic stated the next step would be the ultrasounds and I am afraid that is where my husband and I have to call it quits. I have one more cycle of clomid and we are done. We don't want to go through IVF or anything else. If we are unable to concieve, then we will just have to decide about adoption. My sister-in-law got pregnant immediately following her Hsg so I will be praying for the same for you.  

  

Lora 

 
December 5, 2005, 6:32 pm CST

Infertility

Hi I am from Australia and just LOVE watching Dr Phil.  Now that I'm home with my 6-month old son I get to watch it every day.  But who ever thought I'd be home with a 6-month old baby!? Not my husband and I for sure....or our specialist doctors.  We were told that because of severe endometriosis, blocked tubes, cysts etc that our prognosis what that under normal circumstances it would take us forty years to get pregnant....so pretty much were told we would not ever get pregnant.  I had a number of operations to reduce the endo in the hope of getting pregnant naturally but to no effect.  We then went on to the IVF roller-coaster.  Five attempts in one year is about as stressful as life can get.  Looking back now I wonder how we ever managed it.  Injections, hormones, tears, ultrasounds, blood tests, lots of driving to and from hospitals (we live an hour away from the nearest IVF clinic), more tears, and more and more tears.  It was just heartbreaking every time we failed.  Our hopes would be so high each time (even though we tried not to) but it just wasn't happening for us.  After that year I had to have another op to clear the endo.  We were fortunate to have a visiting specialist from the US perform the operation and she put me on to a strong medication not normally prescribed in Australia (she had to get special hospital and government permission to use it) to stop ovulation in the hope of keeping the endo at bay.  Then when ovulation re-commenced (eight loooong months), I took clomid and BANG, was pregnant - straight away!!!!  WE COULD NOT BELIEVE IT.  First time and that was it.  We were stunned, amazed, in disbelief.  I took a home pregnancy test, then when the two lines showed, checked the use by date on the box thinking it must be out of date.  Five more home pregnancy tests and one at the doctors and it finally started to sink in.  WE WERE PREGNANT.  We got to six weeks and I developed strong pain.  The hospital took a test and a follow up test a few days later.  The pain eased and life went on.  I rang the hospital for the test results and   was told i would have to talk to the doctor.  My heart started pounding and tears were stinging at my eyes wondering what was wrong.  I eventually got hold of the doctor who told me that the test results showed that my hormone levels had dropped dramatically and the pregnancy would end very soon.  I was in shock.  I cried and cried until I could cry no more and then some, and blubbered to the doctor that it couldn't be right I felt fine and had no pain, no bleeding, nothing.  She tried to explain that this could happen but the results definately showed that the pregnancy would end.  Well.......about ten minutes later she rangme back to say she had contacted the lab to check the results and THEY HAD IT WRONG.  The tests had been recorded in the wrong order and the hormone levels had in fact risen dramatically.  Well by this time my husband and I were in total meltdown.  We raced in to the gyno's office and had an early ultrasound test.....and there it was....a thumping little pulse, going strong at 126bms.  I cried and cried and cried.  What a day!! Everything went fine until we went away on holidays at 34 weeks, four hours away from the major hospital and went into early labour.  I was flown by air ambulance to the major hospital and kept in for a week.  Despite starting labour four times, with medication the contractions eased and I was allowed to fly back home.  Got to forty weeks gestation....NOTHING, another day, NOTHING and another...and another.....eventually six days after my due date I gave birth to a healthy little boy.  We still just can't believe it.  So often I hold back tears (often non-successfully) as I look down at my beautiful baby boy sleeping, smiling, playing, talking.  What an adventure.  To go from being told we would never get pregnant naturally, to doing so is just so amazing.  That's my story.  Don't give up hope.  Do whatever you think is necessary to achieve your dream.  Who knows, it might just happen all on its own....
 
December 6, 2005, 10:18 am CST

Thank you - please keep me in your prayers

Quote From: kimbrem

 Part of my Thanksgiving prayer today is this

I am thankful that I feel the emptiness in my heart. I am thankful because it means my heart is alive and there is still hope to fill it.
Thank you Kem for your words.
He did, finally, provide the necessary sample.
I just kept reminding him that I understood that it would require great commitment of years from him and also that it was important to me - and asked him to make it important to him.
He was feeling a bit embarrassed about providing a sample and handing it to a stranger. He can be so 'modest' at times - hehe
Anyway, I go for a dnc and a few other proceedures this Friday.
So, hopefully, soon I will cruising down the clomid path and, hopefully, the baby path.
By the way, I JUST found out that my husband's father was a twin!
So...maybe twins for us???....I will be happy with one, but two-for-one would be great!
Fatima
 
 
December 6, 2005, 8:20 pm CST

HI FELLOW AUSSIE GIRL...

Quote From: jgmgeg

Hi I am from Australia and just LOVE watching Dr Phil.  Now that I'm home with my 6-month old son I get to watch it every day.  But who ever thought I'd be home with a 6-month old baby!? Not my husband and I for sure....or our specialist doctors.  We were told that because of severe endometriosis, blocked tubes, cysts etc that our prognosis what that under normal circumstances it would take us forty years to get pregnant....so pretty much were told we would not ever get pregnant.  I had a number of operations to reduce the endo in the hope of getting pregnant naturally but to no effect.  We then went on to the IVF roller-coaster.  Five attempts in one year is about as stressful as life can get.  Looking back now I wonder how we ever managed it.  Injections, hormones, tears, ultrasounds, blood tests, lots of driving to and from hospitals (we live an hour away from the nearest IVF clinic), more tears, and more and more tears.  It was just heartbreaking every time we failed.  Our hopes would be so high each time (even though we tried not to) but it just wasn't happening for us.  After that year I had to have another op to clear the endo.  We were fortunate to have a visiting specialist from the US perform the operation and she put me on to a strong medication not normally prescribed in Australia (she had to get special hospital and government permission to use it) to stop ovulation in the hope of keeping the endo at bay.  Then when ovulation re-commenced (eight loooong months), I took clomid and BANG, was pregnant - straight away!!!!  WE COULD NOT BELIEVE IT.  First time and that was it.  We were stunned, amazed, in disbelief.  I took a home pregnancy test, then when the two lines showed, checked the use by date on the box thinking it must be out of date.  Five more home pregnancy tests and one at the doctors and it finally started to sink in.  WE WERE PREGNANT.  We got to six weeks and I developed strong pain.  The hospital took a test and a follow up test a few days later.  The pain eased and life went on.  I rang the hospital for the test results and   was told i would have to talk to the doctor.  My heart started pounding and tears were stinging at my eyes wondering what was wrong.  I eventually got hold of the doctor who told me that the test results showed that my hormone levels had dropped dramatically and the pregnancy would end very soon.  I was in shock.  I cried and cried until I could cry no more and then some, and blubbered to the doctor that it couldn't be right I felt fine and had no pain, no bleeding, nothing.  She tried to explain that this could happen but the results definately showed that the pregnancy would end.  Well.......about ten minutes later she rangme back to say she had contacted the lab to check the results and THEY HAD IT WRONG.  The tests had been recorded in the wrong order and the hormone levels had in fact risen dramatically.  Well by this time my husband and I were in total meltdown.  We raced in to the gyno's office and had an early ultrasound test.....and there it was....a thumping little pulse, going strong at 126bms.  I cried and cried and cried.  What a day!! Everything went fine until we went away on holidays at 34 weeks, four hours away from the major hospital and went into early labour.  I was flown by air ambulance to the major hospital and kept in for a week.  Despite starting labour four times, with medication the contractions eased and I was allowed to fly back home.  Got to forty weeks gestation....NOTHING, another day, NOTHING and another...and another.....eventually six days after my due date I gave birth to a healthy little boy.  We still just can't believe it.  So often I hold back tears (often non-successfully) as I look down at my beautiful baby boy sleeping, smiling, playing, talking.  What an adventure.  To go from being told we would never get pregnant naturally, to doing so is just so amazing.  That's my story.  Don't give up hope.  Do whatever you think is necessary to achieve your dream.  Who knows, it might just happen all on its own....

Just got say, how wonderful this is that after all you've been through God has given you the most wonderful of gifts, a beautiful little boy. You and your hubby have truly been blessed thats forsure. 

 

By the way, where in Australia do you all live? I live in Sydney. If anytime you'd like to chat you can always try my email, it's on my profile. 

 

Anyway, you all TAKE CARE, LOVE KELLY. 

 
December 7, 2005, 12:13 am CST

hey there

Quote From: ceders2

Just got say, how wonderful this is that after all you've been through God has given you the most wonderful of gifts, a beautiful little boy. You and your hubby have truly been blessed thats forsure. 

 

By the way, where in Australia do you all live? I live in Sydney. If anytime you'd like to chat you can always try my email, it's on my profile. 

 

Anyway, you all TAKE CARE, LOVE KELLY. 

hi there kelly 

i live in tassie.  yes my husband and i do feel that jehovah our god has truly blessed us with this little miracle.  we just adore him.  he turned six months today - and sported his first injury to mark the occasion.  is just learning to sit and unfortunately overbalanced and hit his cheek on a toy.  it was a little red at first but now is barely noticeable.  plenty more injuries to come i guess but it was a bit traumatic at the time. so whats your story?  

jul 

 
December 8, 2005, 3:56 am CST

HELLO JUL...

Quote From: jgmgeg

hi there kelly 

i live in tassie.  yes my husband and i do feel that jehovah our god has truly blessed us with this little miracle.  we just adore him.  he turned six months today - and sported his first injury to mark the occasion.  is just learning to sit and unfortunately overbalanced and hit his cheek on a toy.  it was a little red at first but now is barely noticeable.  plenty more injuries to come i guess but it was a bit traumatic at the time. so whats your story?  

jul 

Ah you live in a lovely part of Australia, my hubby Mark and I just love Tassie, we were down there just over 14 years ago for our honeymoon and just loved every minute of it. Hopefully one day we will get back down there. 

 

Well, there is Mark and also we have a beautiful 3 year old daughter, Stephanie. She is another wonderful gift from God, as we never thought that we'd ever be able to have children due to Mark having a Zero Sperm Count and he had been told many years ago that it would be highly unlikely that he would ever be able to father any children at all.  

 

Mark is in the Australian Army and has been now for nearly 19 years. In the 14 years that we have been married, we have moved now 5 times. We spent 3.5 years in the Upper Hunter Valley in NSW, 4 years in Townsville in Qld, 2 years in Brisbane, Qld, 3 years in Wattle Grove which is a suburb in Sydney and now we have been here in Baulkham Hills in Sydney for nearly 2 years. (I know that you would know where these places are, but just incase someone else that doesn't live in Aussie see's this hopefully it will help them to learn just abit more about our wonderful country). 

 

So, whats your son's name? And I bet that those 6 months have just flown for you and your hubby right?! Yes, they don't stay babies for very long so enjoy every minute with your darling little boy.  

 

Well you TAKE CARE and hope to hear more from you soon, LOVE KELLY. 

 
December 8, 2005, 2:22 pm CST

So Defensive

Quote From: kimbrem

 I cannot believe you would be so full of yourself that you would assume that infertile couples haven't already sought their own spiritual advice, counsel and prayer, should they choose.

I cannot believe you would suggest to someone that has a medical problem that that person should seek not medicine, but instead their spiritual counsel. I cannot believe you would suggest that the problem with an infertile person is that they might just not be "right with God".

I assume you have no medical doctors, only spiritual healers and your family as well?????? I assume if you have a medical problem, you assume for yourself that you must not be right with your god? And your family members as well????

No, I don't really assume that at all. I don't presume to assume your spiritual status or how much or to whom you pray and if you told me you had cancer, I wouldn't think you needed an exorcism

One must wonder why ? I am a medical professional and firmly believe in 

todays medicine, however I also am an even firmer believer in the 

will and power of the man up stairs. 

I on a personal level know ,how much of a heart break it is to try and conceive 

and it just does not happen, for me personally I found great peace and 

comfort when all the burden was given to the higher power of all . Your 

attack in my suggestion odviously was not intended for you. But its possible 

it touched someones life . How in my statement would give you the idea I am 

full of myself , I am full of believing in the power and will of God.   

Maybe its your personal attacks on people and other reason you do not have  

what it is you desire. Why would someone be given the gift of life when they're  

is so sour about life themselves ??? 

 
December 8, 2005, 3:49 pm CST

I think your messages speak for themselves

Quote From: niteshadow

One must wonder why ? I am a medical professional and firmly believe in 

todays medicine, however I also am an even firmer believer in the 

will and power of the man up stairs. 

I on a personal level know ,how much of a heart break it is to try and conceive 

and it just does not happen, for me personally I found great peace and 

comfort when all the burden was given to the higher power of all . Your 

attack in my suggestion odviously was not intended for you. But its possible 

it touched someones life . How in my statement would give you the idea I am 

full of myself , I am full of believing in the power and will of God.   

Maybe its your personal attacks on people and other reason you do not have  

what it is you desire. Why would someone be given the gift of life when they're  

is so sour about life themselves ??? 

and your own character and sprituality.  Perhaps you might want to pray for yourself.
 
December 11, 2005, 6:02 am CST

Fatima,

Quote From: wappny

Thank you Kem for your words.
He did, finally, provide the necessary sample.
I just kept reminding him that I understood that it would require great commitment of years from him and also that it was important to me - and asked him to make it important to him.
He was feeling a bit embarrassed about providing a sample and handing it to a stranger. He can be so 'modest' at times - hehe
Anyway, I go for a dnc and a few other proceedures this Friday.
So, hopefully, soon I will cruising down the clomid path and, hopefully, the baby path.
By the way, I JUST found out that my husband's father was a twin!
So...maybe twins for us???....I will be happy with one, but two-for-one would be great!
Fatima
 
 I'm so glad your husband found the courage to get over his own sense of insecurity. I know that feeling everytime I face stirrups. It's a bit odd to expose yourself in a clinical setting, but so necessary for us.  I hope your DNC and everything went well. It's good to hear you guys are back on the same page and everything is moving along. Twins! Isn't that what alot of us infertile women hope for, after all, we aren't sure if we will ever be able to go down that road again. Huggs, hopefully you will be on your way shortly. Keep up the hope and don't let it get you down too much. It's hard sometimes, well often, but it can be worth it.

Kim
 
December 11, 2005, 6:13 am CST

The HSG was clear,

Quote From: jevon34

Wow-sounds like you are doing everything possible. I will certainly keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. As for my medical treatment, I am just on clomid with ovulation kits. The clinic stated the next step would be the ultrasounds and I am afraid that is where my husband and I have to call it quits. I have one more cycle of clomid and we are done. We don't want to go through IVF or anything else. If we are unable to concieve, then we will just have to decide about adoption. My sister-in-law got pregnant immediately following her Hsg so I will be praying for the same for you.  

  

Lora 

 and really not painful or anything. I was expecting cramps and spotting and all that sort of stuff. It was a little bit uncomfortable just when the catheter was inflated, but all-in-all not too much at all. One tube was a little stenosed, but the dye flowed through both. It's a mixed feelings kind of result. It would have been fabulous if there was something found that was easily correctable and explained everything, but it's good there wasn't anything there that isn't correctable. When the doc asked how long we had been trying and I said six and a half years, he said I was patient. LOL, I told him only between nervous breakdowns and with the help of a very understanding husband.

Are you taking an HCG trigger shot? That's something you can be taught to do at home. It's just a thought. I know it's difficult to arrange infertility treatment. I do hope this next cycle works for you. It would be nice if treatment wasn't so difficult to afford and arrange, but I completely understand having to draw a line. That line is so difficult for me to find. Just make sure you can feel comfortable with the decision. Don't let it tear at you.

Thanks so much for your prayers. We can really use all we can get. I am holding onto hopes of a little miracle .... Literally. Take care and I'll keep you in my prayers for a darling little addition.

Kim
 
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