Topic : Infertility

I'm currently doing the "prep" for it.  I started the birth control pill on April 2 so the DR. can control my period.  My last pill will be on the 29th.  I'll start Lupron on April 26 to "shut my system down" so I don't ovulate on my own.  Then, on May 2, I have my baseline ultrasound.  I should start Follistem twice a day about 5 days after I stop the birth control.  My target date for the transfer is May 19.  But, they said since I usually react so well to the Follistem, I might go earlier than that.  Although I try not to think about it too much, I'm really excited.  I don't know why, but I just have a feeling this will work.  I can't explain it, but I just feel really good about it.  I sure hope it works!  This might sound weird but, I think I feel better about it this time because my friends and family are praying for us.  I'm not a deeply religious person, and have never asked anyone to pray for me, but I did ask them to pray for us this time.  I was surprised that most people said they already were.  So anyway, that's where we are now.  I'll keep you updated!!!

 You can add us to the list for prayers on your side. I think it's so wonderful that so many good things are happening here.  You know, I'm considering you guys my good luck charms!  I so look forward to you having a wonderful addition at the end of this. It's so great that Lora is already expecting her little miracle and I feel so good that we are all going to bloom this year!

I am really looking forward to getting a few shower gifts this year!

I am still waiting on our old doc to get our new doc some records. Our new doc thought they would just fax them, but they didn't and I have no idea when they will get them to them. Their next IVF cycle isn't until July. We haven't even had a first appointment yet and don't know what course of treatment they will recommend. I am pretty nervous about having gotten so old and keep hearing that stupid clock ticking. I wish it were digital! LOL My darling is leaving town for a few weeks so I don't know if he will be able to come to a first appointment or not. I always feel so much better when he's able to be there. The anticipation is killing me, but I am trying to be very optimistic about this time around. Y'all might need to do some hand-holding with me through this too.

Maybe at the end of this, we can come together somewhere just so that I can meet the wonderful ladies here who have made this thing so bearable and given me so much hope! My hubby keeps racking up frequent-flyer miles. I'm gonna have to call a dibs on them!

Kim

 from San Antonio last night and she was ecstatic to hear the news of the baby. She has already had one IVF baby girl and she and her husband are starting thier 2nd round. It can happen and if she gets pregnant this year I will have to post for more positives. The fact they have one beautiful little girl gives hope enough. Just thought I would share that.

Lora

Kim,   

Thanks so much for for your prayers.  We will also keep you in ours.  I'm with you, I think you guys are my good luck charms too!  It's great that we have a place to talk without all the "advice" people love to give!  I feel confident that it will happen for you.  And I can't wait to send you that shower gift!!!!!    

  

It's so weird that you mentioned us coming together sometime, because as I starting reading your post, I was thinking, wouldn't it be great if I could actually meet some of these people!  I think that would be a great idea.  Although, I'm deathly afraid of flying!  So I would have to drive!  At any rate, I would love to meet the people who give me so much hope.    

  

Lora,  

You'll have to let us know where you are registered so we can be sure to send a gift!!!  

  

Thanks to everyone who takes the time to talk to and inspire complete strangers!!!  

I am new to this site and basically come on because Im so tired of crying and feeling like I have no purpose!  We have been trying since we got married (6 yrs ago may 13th) to get pregnant and always wanted 4 or 5 children.   I found out 6 months ago that I had PCOS and my Dr. seemed very careless about it.   We would simply make me have a few periods, then start chlomid, and w/in a few months we'd be pregnant.   WRONG!   Here we are six months later and he says hes gone as far as he can go.  We are trying to figure out where we need to go from here.  We also do not have insurance and I found out last week it would cost me close to $400 for just the consultation to see the specialist recommended.  We hate to spend all of our money getting pregnant, and then not be able to give the child a great life.....anyway,  I got back on the pill last month to make sure I stay regulated and now we just have to figure out what where we go from here.  I never pictured myself not being a mother...it's just hard to process I guess! 

I have a hard time trusting adoption.  Is it not expensive also? 

 I am really sorry to see how awful this infertility thing is treating you.

I know my husband and I have been trying just a little longer than you have. I was as down as you sound just two months ago at my annual visit to the gyno's office. To be honest and fair, I have had so many down times due to infertility that it has really taken a chunk out of life for me. It sounds like it is hitting you just as hard.

Just recently we have found a new hope in our struggles. We were just like you guys are and, believe me when I tell you that I thought my 35th birthday visit to the gyno was going to be followed very shortly with a very long vacation to the asylum. I can't say we have a miracle or are expecting one yet, but I can say that this wonderful bout of hope has done wonders for me.  I can tell you of the numerous times before relief when I felt like I really couldn't force another smile or even get out of bed. I can't begin to tell you of all the things that crossed my mind. It has been truly kind of terrible for the past three years or so with the emotional impact of this. It's put a whole new spin on funk for me.  I began to feel like that really angry menopausal woman on "Fried Green Tomatoes".

The point really is this........ I know just how terrible this is. It's not something that can be fixed just by someone saying something to you. Trust me when I tell you that you will find a way. If it ends up being adoption or infertility treatments, that will be your hope.

I'm going to direct this for everyone. I have opened up in the past year or so, mostly out of complete emotional meltdown, about our struggle with infertility. My way of opening up is not the best way. I usually do it while sobbing or shouting....... LOL! I think I am coming to a solid conclusion that this isn't something we should endure in silence. Why should we stand by feeling inadequate, uncomfortable and alone while the people around us make their own smug or inaccurate suppositions about our circumstances? OK, I'm not naive enough to believe that all people are going to react in a way that makes us feel better, but at least we can take on a little justifiable rage at any snide comments or enjoy a little humor at complete ignorance. Sometimes, even, you find some of the best people and see such support and kindness you never expected. It's so much better than just beating ourselves up! Besides, other people need to open their eyes.

Hold on there girlie! Don't believe for an instant that this thing will have a permanent hold on you. You can lick it! When you do, there will be a wonderful feeling again of hope and joy! It will be there. Meanwhile, do whatever you can to make it happen. Talk to everyone about it. Ask for help from everybody. Crunch numbers, look into options, make plans and then know you are going to do it. You can make this happen. And while you are trying to pull yourself back up, come here and just talk. I think everyone here can say they have been there and understand too well the feeling of being on the bottom with this.

Kim

 It depends on how you adopt.  If you adopt through the state (which I didn't do) you have little to no cost.  If you do a private adoption it can range from $300 - $3,000.  Agency adoptions range from $10,000 to $35,000.

I plan on adopting again someday and hope to do a private adoption since they are cheaper.  I love the agency I worked with and it was on the cheaper end, but still very expensive!

What scares you about adoption?  I know there are several horror stories about adoption, but there are several positive, successful adoptions, too.

Good luck in whatever you decide!

Hey Guys- 

  

Sorry i havent posted in awhile. Too catch everyone up i am stationed in Turkey with my husband. The cost for IVF is very cheap. Its 2,350 in US dollars. I just did one cycle.....and it worked. The Doc transfered 3grade A embryos....I was happy to find it worked, 2 of the 3 took......YES!! Twins.....sad enough i miscarried at 10weeks. I played the blame game.....so after i cried, and had my pity party. I decided instead of dragging myself into a deep depression, that i was going to try it again... 

  

So that rings me to now. I just started my hormonal treatment...(THE SHOTS)...only to be told that  overstimulated and i had to cancel the cycle and start over again next month. The good thing about my doctor is i didnt havt to pay for the meds again...Hes very nice and to ne in a foreign country ...he treats me like im a good friend..... 

Hi everyone, 

  

Does anyone know the average, or range of cost of IVF in US currency?  In Canada, it ranges from 6,000-10,000 per cycle.....just wondering if we should be looking to come to the US, factoring in that the exchange rate may still make it cheaper than north of the border..... 

  

In utero-insemination (sperm wash and injection into the uterus) costs $275.00 per cycle, usually they do two..... 

  

Thanks for your input! 

J. 

IVF cost here is the highest in the world.  It is from 10-15000 per cycle. There are usually a bunch of "associated" costs they add on here as well. It can get pretty pricey for self-pay patients as there is no cost regulation built in. That cost doesn't include drugs... We all know those are much more inexpensive in Canada or anywhere else.

It is actually cheaper self-pay to travel to another country to do IVF. And don't even think about donor here. It is by far an outrageous expense.


Kim