Topic : Should We Get Pregnant?

I cant believe how similar our stories are!  My sister in law still hasn't had the baby - she is now a week over due and they are planning on inducing her on Monday.   

I understand how you mean its an "addiction"  I feel the same.  Its all I think about.  I have even gone so far as to plan out "if I get pregnant on this date, the baby will be due on this date"  My hubby says the same thing about money.  I think we do OK.  I mean were not swimming in it, but we have a roof over our heads which will be ours in about 22 years!, we have food on the table and the kids NEVER go with out.  Their bedrooms look like a fisher price testing facility!  I love my kids with all my heart and I just cant see how another child could possibly be a bad thing.     

I tried to bribe my husband too, with the promise of sex 3 times a week and he could go to cricket every weekend with out me bitching about the cost / time away from the family.  

I cant explain why I want another child so badly, all I know is that is something that makes my heart ache - and it wont go away.  He just doesn't get it.  the only advice I could give you is keep telling him how important it is to you, thats what I'm doing, and hopefully one day he'll get it,    

well girlfriend, my brother had their son at 7:42am this morning.  He is absolutely adorable!  I am so happy and yet so jealous.  I just keep thinking that if I hadnt lost the baby, I would be having a child too in 8 weeks.  It makes my heart hurt that its them and not me, and then I feel selfish for feeling that way, so either way Im stuck feeling bad.  And now in about 2-3 weeks my sister in law will be having her baby, so its like a double-whammy!  I am starting cosmetology school Tuesday, I really hope that helps get my mind off of my "wannabe pregnancy", but I know it wont, b/c when you feel the way I feel- and I know you do- its something nothing can help.  And I know exactly what you mean about promising sex - and with me instead of "cricket", its fishing. I've tried it all, and lately he has been get frustrated with it.  So I'll leave it in God's hands for now, and maybe once I'm done w/ school, he'll change his mind.  Thanks for the advice.  I'm glad to know that there is someone else who feels so much like I do. 

My SIL still hasn't had the baby, they are going to induce her on Monday.  My MIL is freaking out over it.  Saying stuff like, She cant go through that she will be crushed if her body wont do what its meant to do.  She wont be giving birth naturally like God intended.  I was induced with our son for being ten days over due and had to have forceps ,an episiotmy and then that tore so I ended up hemorrhaging and having a ridiculous amount of stitches!!!! But I got through it so can my SIL.  I don't think it matters how you have the baby, as long as you end up with your baby in the end.  I was so angry with her insensitive comments.   

How is your nephew going?  But more importantly, how are you coping with it all.  I know what you mean, our baby would have been 3 months old today.   

the last two nights I have dreamed about a positive pregnancy test!  I am taking it as an omen.  Although I have been having some problems with abnormal bleeding lately so I hope every things OK.  I took a pregnancy test last week just in case but it came back negative.   

Hey, Good Luck with School on Tuesday!  I'm sure it will go well.   

Talk to you soon. 

well, here's a news update: Im not going to school anymore.  We thought we had everything together w/ childcare but the cost is just more than we can afford, more than anyone can afford.  For two kids, the daycares charge anywhere from 180-195, a week!  Thats nutz.  So we agreed that I should continue to be a stay at home mom, which I think is a great idea!!! 

It really makes it harder now, b/c I'll be focusing on another child more than I was before.  Yesterday, my husband snapped on me and said hes tired of hearing about having another child everyday and always seeing me depressed and upset. But what he doesnt seem to understand is that I wouldnt feel that way if we were trying for another child.   

I mean dont get me wrong, I am so happy to have the two healthy children I have, but whats wrong w/ having more.  There are so many people who cant have children, we should feel so blessed and fortunate that we can. And truthfully, I think the reason my husband wants to wait is not b/c of money, its b/c his mother will have something to say, along w/ his ritzy sister.  I never let someone's opinion of things change the way "I" feel.  He wont say it but I know thats why.  The last time we were pregnant, his mother and sister both made the comment:  "is this what you wanted?" and then had the nerve to say after we lost it, "we should be careful so it doesnt happen again right now"  . What the hell kinda bullshit is that.  This is our life, not theirs.  We support this family, not them.  But he's a Mommas boy to the max.  

Well its in Gods hands, so if it will be, it will. 

Take care and good luck to you too!!!! 

I cant believe how similar our stories are!  My sister in law still hasn't had the baby - she is now a week over due and they are planning on inducing her on Monday.   

I understand how you mean its an "addiction"  I feel the same.  Its all I think about.  I have even gone so far as to plan out "if I get pregnant on this date, the baby will be due on this date"  My hubby says the same thing about money.  I think we do OK.  I mean were not swimming in it, but we have a roof over our heads which will be ours in about 22 years!, we have food on the table and the kids NEVER go with out.  Their bedrooms look like a fisher price testing facility!  I love my kids with all my heart and I just cant see how another child could possibly be a bad thing.     

I tried to bribe my husband too, with the promise of sex 3 times a week and he could go to cricket every weekend with out me bitching about the cost / time away from the family.  

I cant explain why I want another child so badly, all I know is that is something that makes my heart ache - and it wont go away.  He just doesn't get it.  the only advice I could give you is keep telling him how important it is to you, thats what I'm doing, and hopefully one day he'll get it,    

Hi there! Im 21 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now.  I am currently a student and my boyfirend works.  We have been sexually active for 3 years now, and I want to know if u think we are ready for a baby.  I really want one now and have been trying to get pregnant even though my boyfriend doesnt know this.Please. . . . . . . I really need some advice. 

Phoenie from South Africa