Topic : 09/05 The Divorce Experiment

Amy didn't mind cooking dinner.  

 Lets say for arguments sake, that dinner was part of her work day. They eat together and spend time with the kids and then quality time together.  He says thank you and she says thank you.  You know, be husband and wife and parents.  Who wouldn't mind cooking for a loving husband like that.  This is not what happened!  He is served his food, watches TV, has little to do with the kids and then criticizes his meals and everything else she does.  This was about him demeaning everyone around him and not even doing his part as "THE MAN " of the house.   Trust me Greg has very little to offer other than his cruel jokes.  If he wold become the man he was meant to be, then he may have something to offer a woman.  Most women respond to respect and love and would give you their right arm for it.   

I don't think anywhere in my post that I said my husband's day was done when he came home from work.  LOL  I feel like a lot of people are trying to read into my post. 

I said more than once that the husband on the show was a complete jerk and I wouldn't deal with someone like that in my life. 

My husband DOES clear away his own plate, rinses it, and puts it in the dishwasher.  My children do the pots and pans.  My husband then finds usually finds a house project to do because we're in the middle of renovations.  My husband is NOT the type of guy to sit and be served.  He's a doer and I like doing for him.  He deserves it and appreciates it. 

He'd do whatever I asked and a lot without even asking.  Hope I'm clear now. 

I said more than once that the husband on the show was a complete jerk and I wouldn't deal with someone like that in my life.  

THAT is the only real point.....this guy was treating his wife like a servant, not a partner. Her home was clean!!! She cooked. And there is also a 5 year old girl PLUS a son from his previous marriage. 

When you see the clip of him complaining about the lack of dinner aroma, we have no idea what time of day it was or what else had gone on that day. What we do see is her serving him dinner on a tray! 

It always amazes me when other women trash a SAHM for daring to want their husbands to lift a finger, and the go on to brag about how THEIR husbands help out and how THEY would never put up with a jerk!! If you deserve to appreciated and respected, why doesn't she? If you wouldn't put up with the jerk, why are you so quick to "see his point" when it is her not wanting to put up with the jerk? 

This shows what I mean.  You're getting angry and putting in how you "think" I feel to how I really feel.  You can completely think this husband is a jerk and STILL find something he said that you agree with yourself.  You can do this with most people if you just try.  The first step is to try though.   

I don't look at people and say, "Wow, she's a bitch.  Nothing she says will have merit in my life."  Nope.  I wouldn't watch Oprah religiously if I believed that statement. 

Let me spell it out for those who like to bicker, I never said this woman SHOULD stay with her husband.  That's not for me to say ... that's for her to figure out.  Everything he said and did made me cringe, but she's been staying in it for years.  Why?  Does she love him?  If she does, then that's up to her.  It wouldn't be for me. 

I just don't agree with the SAHM attitude of "I don't need to cook dinner or do all the laundry or clean," but that's MY belief.  Just mine.  OK, a few others here had it and now I realize why they were shy in voicing it.  Haha! 

Keep smiling.  =) 

This show was not about being a good house wife.   

Any woman would love to do the so called "WIFE" duties if there husband was doing his part.  Can't you people see that Greg is not fluffing his part as a husband and father?  Anyone can go to work for 8 hour a day and come home and watch TV,drink beer, have someone to wait on him and not give back anything but money, but I think that is called a bachelor not a husband and father.  What if you went to work every day and your boss screamed at you and told you you were worthless in front of everyone,  How long would you want to do your job?  Amy is so depressed and broken down that she throws up every time Greg walks through the door.  Sure she should be strong like all of you other women, but God made us all different and that is what makes the world go around.  Hopefully she gets stronger.  I'm tiered of woman beating each other women down just because they are not as perfect they think they should be.  Try giving words of encouragement.  There is no excuse for any human to treat another human like crap and that is what Greg is doing to his entire family.  It's great to have different opinions from other people and everyone thinks theirs is the right one, but when you start to judge other people because they are not like you, that's when your opinion becomes wrong.   Try to say a kind word or two instead of beating her down like Greg does.  This guy is wrong and that's all there is to it. 

This may not be popular opinion, but although the husband seems like a complete jerk, he has a point.  My husband works full-time so that I can stay home with the kids.   I feel it's my duty to keep a clean home, to take care of the kids, the shopping, and the errands.  Most importantly, he always has a hot dinner on the table when he gets home from work.  Is this old fashioned?  Perhaps, but I feel it's the ethical thing to do.  Whether my children were babies or toddler or teens, I've always believed this and been able to do it.   

No matter how big or small my home, I've maintained it and all that includes while my husband works his butt off for us.  Granted, my husband is appreciative and compliments what I do at home, but regardless, it's still what I feel should be done. 

I really get tired of stay-at-home moms feeling they shouldn't do what they're doing or that their husbands should come home and cook for the family.  That's ridiculous and unfair. 

Let me be sure to repeat, today's husband was a complete jerk and I wouldn't live with a guy who believed as he does and insults instead of compliments, BUT he has a point.  If your guy is working for the family, a woman who ISN'T working should do the rest.  Period.