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(Original Air Date: 05/16/06) Are you married to a man who doesn't know how good he has it? You do the cooking, the cleaning, take care of the kids, and he still takes you for granted? After seven years, Amy finds herself in a marriage where she is expected to wait on her husband hand and foot, and never voice her opinion. Her husband, Greg, is a self-proclaimed male chauvinist pig, and says his wife's job is to take care of the family without questioning his role as "king" of the house. Amy says if Greg doesn't learn to treat her like his equal and not his servant, she's going to divorce him. Dr. Phil sends in a Relationship Rescue team of strong women to teach Greg a lesson! While Amy is sent off on a special trip to build her self-esteem, Greg gets three new "wives" who give him a dose of his own medicine as they put him through all that he demands of his wife on a daily basis. Will he finally see Amy as his equal and become a better spouse in the process? Talk about the show here.

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May 16, 2006, 2:14 pm PDT

In Greg's defense.

I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:19 pm PDT

We were doing fine here.... until.....

One of the last comments made on the show was words to the effect....."like a little chihuahua running up and down the fence barking.... someone opens the gate and says 'ok, let's see what you've got'."  Well, I have three chihuahuas, and my oldest, but littlest (3.5 lbs), is my "toughest" one...... who routinely tries to take on the doberman down the street, and would actually do it if given half the chance!  Ok, she's a little dog who has no sense, but is very sweet!  Hmmmm, a little man with no sense, and Nothing sweet about his beliefs or actions!  Dr Phil, PLEASE do a follow-up with this couple, I'm suspecting that the cast iron skillet won't make enough of a dent for him to develop any sense in this.  

   

Have a good day all!  

   

Nina   
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:21 pm PDT

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Thank you so much for your post.  When I express this opinion anywhere outside my own head it's like I've suggested using babies as speed bumps.  All hell breaks loose.  The fact that this guy has a BAD personality doesn't negate that he has a good point about the division of labor in his and his wife's household.  
I have a great husband and we work together and the reason why we can work together is becasue we love, respect and honor one another, He comes home and appreciates everything that I do and he doesn't complain. If husabnd would love their wives and quit degradingt hema nd making them feel like they are worthless, then the man doesn't need to be respected and taken care of. So what if he is working 10 hours a day, if he is coming home just to degrade and destroy ones spirit such as this guy on the show, then he deserves to be unhappy, you bet if myhusband had the attitude of this guy on the show, absolutely NOTHING would get get done, of course i personally would have packed and been out of there long before this and I definetly would not allow any one to come in and destroy my children's lives, lets hope this husabnd wakes up and starts appreciating his wife and the good qualities that she has and lets hope that she can have the backbone to not be treated as a dorrmat, wives are not doormats, they are helpmates, a wife deserves respect and should be treated with love and dignity, this couple is a prime example of why the divorce rate is so high........................
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:27 pm PDT

05/16 The Divorce Experiment

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

When someone is told they are worthless and constantly made to feel that everything they do is never enough... then there is no desire get anything done. I don't mean to sound rude, but I get sick of women who act high and mighty because they can keep everything caught up with a house that is "twice as big." Some women don't WANT to be stuck in the house all day.
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:34 pm PDT

The problem?

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

His direspect, coldness, anger issues etc.....   Did you not watch the show?
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:40 pm PDT

In Amy's defence

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

Isn't it great that you are so well organized......... 

  

Did you completely miss the point of the show? Greg shows no RESPECT to Amy. After being beat down emotionally she is drained. 
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:47 pm PDT

Who needs a pay off???

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

It doesn't matter what her pay off is.  She's not you.  Does your husband treat you with respect?  Does he make sure you know how much he loves you and how thankful he is that you have all of those things done for him?  That's why you do what you do.  YOUR payoff is the fact that your husband is grateful for you and shows his love for you whenever he can.  The fact is that Amy's husband doesn't.  IF you didn't feel valued can you say that you would still do your best and be at your best?  I don't think so.  Don't knock someone else or make them feel worse about themselves when you haven't walked in their shoes.  
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:48 pm PDT

05/16 The Divorce Experiment

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This may not be popular opinion, but although the husband seems like a complete jerk, he has a point.  My husband works full-time so that I can stay home with the kids.   I feel it's my duty to keep a clean home, to take care of the kids, the shopping, and the errands.  Most importantly, he always has a hot dinner on the table when he gets home from work.  Is this old fashioned?  Perhaps, but I feel it's the ethical thing to do.  Whether my children were babies or toddler or teens, I've always believed this and been able to do it.   

 

No matter how big or small my home, I've maintained it and all that includes while my husband works his butt off for us.  Granted, my husband is appreciative and compliments what I do at home, but regardless, it's still what I feel should be done. 

 

I really get tired of stay-at-home moms feeling they shouldn't do what they're doing or that their husbands should come home and cook for the family.  That's ridiculous and unfair. 

 

Let me be sure to repeat, today's husband was a complete jerk and I wouldn't live with a guy who believed as he does and insults instead of compliments, BUT he has a point.  If your guy is working for the family, a woman who ISN'T working should do the rest.  Period. 

Here is how I think of it.

My husband is gone from the house for 10 or so hours a day and he is working while he is gone....right?

During those 10 hours he is gone do you know what I am doing? Working.

When he comes home we both had done 10 or so hours of work with a few breaks in there.  I get my break while my daughter naps. I get to get on here and mouth off for a while...LOL

He has his lunch break at work which is also about an hour.

So...by the time he gets home we have both worked about the same amount of time. We worked all day.

So why should I keep working all night and he gets to sit down and be served? I should do "the rest. Period"??? How is that fair?

I work just as hard as he does, and he admits that some days, MOST days I work harder. He is a computer programmer and he sits down all day long at a computer doing what he loves. I do child care, cooking, cleaning, errands, shopping, paying the bills, teaching my daughter, running around outside on the playground, laundry....on and on. I love some of it, some I don't mind and some of it I hate.

So him cooking dinner half the time isn't "ridiculous and unfair"...It's REASONABLE and FAIR.

Maybe my man is 'man enough' to cook now and then with out having his manhood be in jeopardy.
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:50 pm PDT

05/16 The Divorce Experiment

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I'd like to ask Amy what her pay-off is.  I'd also like to know what she thinks would happen to Greg if he still didn't have a handle on his job after eight years.  

  

My house is twice the size of Amy's, yet it's spotless.  I have dinner ready to be served when my husband walks in, even though his schedule varies from day to day.  The laundry's caught up, I work out six days a week, and I still have time to watch Dr. Phil and yack on the internet.  What's the problem, Amy? 

How does your husband treat you? Does he KNOW you? Does he love you. Is he romantic? Does he say thank you? Does he give you a day off now and then?

Amy doesn't get that stuff. She's a WORK MULE and she's supposed to shut up and take it just because you do?
 
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May 16, 2006, 2:52 pm PDT

05/16 The Divorce Experiment

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Surely she must've seen many aspects of this guy rearing their ugly little heads BEFORE they got married. 

  

As a dating couple, if you see signs of this nonsense - RUN AWAY before you tie the noose....er knot! 

Exactly. Too many people have romantic, fluffy, corny, airheaded notions of love and dating and marriage.

Ask the hard questions now! It's easier then waiting until you DO have that noose (that was good...LOL)

BTW, your icon is adorable!
 
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