Topic : 09/05 The Divorce Experiment

   I take it she did not know what she was in for like the rest of the ladies on the board have said people change! 

I don't think this guy's as cocky as he makes out too be, something is going on with him, I'd be interested too hear how he was brought up, how he was treated by his parents etc.... or even how his mother was treated by his father!     

and how much compassion should we have? Why does he want a wife? Wouldn't he be happier with a couple martinis? (They don't talk back.)  

And the Divorce Expirement won't work with a sadisst. He can just flip into the masochistic side. (He probably secretly liked it!)  

This is point blank emotional abuse and Amy can do better. He has tried to keep her from seeing she actually has more going on than he does. He thinks he's superior but he' s merely rigid.  

I think he wanted Amy because he perceived somebody he might bend to his will.He has tried to use her softness agaiinst her. His only real legacy is likely to be a string of very unhappy exes (he will teach them why you may not want a tough guy.)  

 I think you make a lot of assumptions about what you *think* Amy is doing during the day. Maybe that's what YOU might do if you stayed home, but that's a blanket remark against all SAHM's. I think you should let Robin know your opinons of SAHM's...... 

This is 2006.I lived in that frozen towel world and everything from scratch-(But the times they are a changing) 

I think Dr.Phil has to look at what grabs his attention.One example to catch as many victoms as he could and he picked a doozy here! For this one couple -Goodness only knows how many women is being affected by this show.I realize this case looked extreme but how else can a woman start understanding men don't own them? 

And we know by the abuse rates the percentage is very high. 

I personally think this man has a very bad problem whom needs help immediately and the wife and child should leave -and if he gets better -then see if she is still interested. 

Mom and daughter need therapy also and I pray they get it (Living on their own ,man less) 

I get sick of women who call themselves feminists but refuse to have any respect for work done in the home, strictly because it has traditional been done by women.  Amy needs to respect herself and the work she has agreed to do. She needs to treat her duties in the home with the same serioussness that she would if she had a job outside the home. I pointed out what I do, not to brag but to refute her claim that she doesn't have time to do it all. I don't think I'm superior at all, I know women who do everything I do, have houses twice as big as mine and twice as many children as I do and still manage to do it all.  I'm using myself and the size of my house as an example to show that If I can do it, she can do it.   

I know Greg was being a jerk when he got angry-- he admitted as much.  What I mean by defending him is that I think he has every right to expect a clean home, meals and coffee on time and clean clothing.  At one time my husband was between jobs and I worked outside the home.  He kept the house clean and had dinner on the table when I got home.  It is not a gender issue it is a division of labor issue.  Greg does his part by working a full time job.  Amy isn't doing her part. it's that simple. 

If Amy doesn't want to be a housewife she should get a job. 

I am just curious, because I wasn't sure how you could equate that your house was twice the size?  Also, Greg does not have a handle on "his job" and it has been eight years. Greg is miserably screwing up as a husband.  He is about to be fired, in fact.  How easy it is to brag about your spotless house!  Does someone come over and inspect it, or is it kind of like the measurements of Amy's house?  Anyone can have dinner served at any time.  Does that mean that it is a good meal?  I am sure you do work out, it is a nice thing to use to demean someone else.   Does you high horse ride to town?  If you had offered some tips that help you to be successful, as opposed to trumping yourself up, I would not reply so harshly.  Those who put down the work of others to bolster their own self-worth have a different to-do list.   

Be helpful- use your own success to help others be successful also 

Be humble- talk about yourself in such a way to compliment yourself rather than make yourself look like a jerk 

Don't ever try to make someone feel bad about themselves when they are clearly giving their best effort, or if they are under different circumstances such as Amy is.   Only mean people do that to those who are looking for help. 

Don't feel good because you were smug and suggested that she is somehow not as good as you are. 

I don't care if I make everyone mad at me, but Amy was beaten down and she came on TV for help and she pit herself out there so that her situation may help others.  I don't think anyone should out her down, I think that she feels bad enough.