Topic : Dealing with the Added Stress

Quote From: deehashman

I am a Mother of an 8 month old son, Gavin. He is a great baby. Always laughing and smiling. He has had his share of sickness, which is awful for any child, let alone a baby. Now he is teething and that is terrible. He has 2 teeth on the bottom and is cutting 2 more on top. Sleep is something I cherish since I do not get much of it. His dad and I are still together but I do not get any help from him. He is 35, I am 22. My days are crazy. I get up at 5:30 shower, get ready, get Gavin ready, take him to the sitter, work 8 or more hours, leave work at 3, pick up Gavin, run any errands that need to be done, go home and decide what to have for dinner, do any dishes that have been dirtied throughout the day, feed Gavin, lay him down for a nap when he needs one, cook dinner, eat if I have time (sometimes my meals are cold), clean up dinner dishes and the kitchen, give Gavin his bath and a bottle before bed time, put him to sleep, clean up his toys, get his stuff ready for the next day, then go to bed (usually its 11:30 before this happens). Oh, I forgot to mention I change diapers and clean up spit up when that happens all while I am doing these other tasks. Gavin's dad is there through all of it and do you think he helps? NO. He usually sleeps all day b/c he works the midnight shift. Every once in a while he cooks dinner. But not too often. He hasn't done the dishes since I was pregnant and on bed rest. He does laundry and takes out the garbage. Thats it. He will play with Gaivn for maybe 15 minutes a day. My little boy adores him for some reason. I don't know how, or why. He does not see him that much so maybe in his little mind he cherishes the time spent with him. I don' t really know why Ryan and I are still together. I think it's because I know what it is like to not have a father around and I do not want that for my son. A part of me still loves Ryan. So does anyone have any advice for me? I have tried to tell Ryan my thoughts but he tells me its his way or no way, and if I don't like it I know where the door is. Great guy, huh. He would throw out his own child. What am i gonna do???

Quote From: loriclaassen

I recently had a baby girl, named Sarah. She was 2 months early and has a number of problems and a number of surgeries in her short little life. She is not allowed to ever lay flat because she has reflux and can aspirate. She has had 4 surgeries in her throat already and has been in and out of the NICU many times. The complications she was born with have, unfortunatly, never before been seen by any medical professional. So, basically, this is just a trial and error process to find out what will work for her. Sarah is in so much pain sometimes that she will scream for hours. The stress is unbearable. I also have a 4 year old son at home and a husband who recently left because of the stress. Also, my grandmother died a week before she was born, and I found out my grandfather has cancer a couple days ago. I am wondering if any one has ideas on how to deal with stress because I am not doing such a good job at the moment. Any advice would be so much appreciated. Thank you!!!!!

Quote From: youngmom22

of three children at the age of 21 but having your friends come over depends on your friends i guess ifi they have no children they probably wont want to hang out around a baby at least none of mine really did after a while i was on my own with no social life nobody to talk ot but my fiancee no family (my family is really crazy) so now i am here on these boards trying to talk to people and maybe find some cyber friends to chat with it gets so lonely with no adult conversation or outings.

Quote From: gingerlily

Hi,
I am 24 and my precious baby girl is just 3 weeks old.  Her dad and I were together for two years - in immature, rocky relationship.   I broke up with him last fall - found out I was pregnant the next day - and still did not want to be with him.   Lived with my parents all during pregnancy - extremely nauseous for first four months.   The dad and I reconciled and became a couple again while I was pregnant.   He lives 2.5 hours away  but visited often and went to childbirth classes with me.  Suddenly, he said he would be supportive of the baby, but did not want to be in relationship with me.  Was very hard for me, since I had thought we were getting married.  Two weeks before baby's birth, I caught him texting and phoning a girl in London (we live in Florida USA).  He did not understand why I was upset, and told me he never wanted to see me again and did not want to see the baby.   I called him when I went into labor.  He was there and very supportive during labor and delivery, stayed with me in hospital for 2 days - all the time texting this other girl.  Two weeks ago, I met another guy who really likes me and i am attracted to him too.  We've been seeing each other some.   Baby's dad found about about him and, predictably, now wants me back.   I am torn.  On one hand, just a month ago I really wanted to be with him.  And I know would be better for baby if we are together.  On other hand,  I really like this new guy.  And I don't trust the baby's dad anymore, and he does not trust me.  Don't know if I should stop seeing the new guy and focus on forgiveness and trust issues with the baby's dad.  Or if I should admit that we never have had a strong mature relationship and stay separate rather than exposing the baby to our drama and anger.

Ideas???

Thanks!
Gingerlily

 
 

Quote From: bansheegirl5

I firmly believe that life is what we make of it. Do I get stressed? Yeppers, I sure do, but I also look at the positive of things. I do not think I did this til about 4 months ago.
I have a little 6 month old born with 4 congenital heart defecs and blind. She does not have any eyes. We knew about the heart defects, but had no idea about her eyes.
This time has been hard, but I look at this beautiful little girl, who has such a personality and is so full of life and energy. She has been through one heart operations, had conformers (these are like prosthetics) put into her eye sockets 3 times already, and is due for another surgery in October. I look at her and am in awe. If she can go through all of this and be the happy little cherub she is, then who am I to be snappy and curt and rude and whatever else I could be.
This time in my life is very stressful, but I take it in stride and do what I can when I can. That's the way you have to look at it. No matter what your situation is, you have to just take things as they come, deal with it the best way that you know how and try not to get to stressed because another day will come and things will get better.
I look to God each and every day for the strength I need to get through the day. He does provide. If he was not in my life, I do not know how I would make it. He is my rock, my comfort and my strength.
I just want you to know that anyone can deal with the added stress. Just take it one day at a time, believe in our Lord for he will provide the comfort and strength that you need.