Topic : 08/10 Abandoned

I am watching todays show and realize that my son is living Michael's life. My husband and I are foster parents to a 9 year old boy. At 7 he was abandoned by his mother at an after school program. She just never picked him up. We have been his parents for 6 months and plan to adopt him. The state has been unable to locate his parents and they recently lost all rights to be his legal parents in a court hearing that they never showed up for. The pain and emotional struggle that he go's through everyday is unbelievable. As a parent  I wish that Michael's mother and every other parent that does this to a child could understand the type of torment and uncertainty the child lives in because of their actions. They learn never to trust anyone again. Unfortunately he has been in several foster homes because of his behavior which is directly related to his mothers actions. I hope that our son will some day turn out like Michael. He seems to have had a great life despite his biological parents.

I am just wondering why, when Michael's mother did not come back for him, why he did not try to reach his other relatives - his grandmother or aunts?  Being in a foster home would not have prevented him from getting in touch with them.  Unless his foster home was in another town and he was too young to know how to reach her.

In case no one has told Michael this yet, I'd like to say:  Michael, you are a walking miracle!!  

  

I know that your journey thus far has been a very hard one, but that you have brought yourself to this point in your life, with the family life that you have, with the disposition that you have, you are a miracle to yourself, and to those with whom you've shared your story.  May you continue to be blessed in your life, and to bless the lives of others.  Thank you for your courage and integrity. 

 I would just like to say thank you for sharing this story. My mother was a drug addict, alcoholic and a prostitute. She was abusive in every way and she tried to sell me ( to different criminal groups) 3  times before I left for good. The way the mother was speaking to the son reminded me of when I tried to have questions answered by my mother.  I also could relate to not knowing who your family was...a few months ago I found out that my father wasnt the man who I had believed he was. I found out the true identity through dna testing and was heart broken. I am thankful that I have overcome these things and now I have a wonderful fiance and a life I would have never dreamed about when I was young living in a crackhouse. Thank you for sharing your story.

    

   

   To you Dear Micheal, For sure God has been with you, such wonderful parents you have..  

   

      And now you met some other family members. Wow. what a story.. Then there is your Wife, such a blessing. I pray for you.  I hope by bieng on the Dr Phil show,  you will find what you are looking for.  That you will finally have peace in your life & in your heart.   

    God Bless you always..   

   

   

I must say this was a very emotional show.I understand why Micheal wanted to meet his mother. I found it shocking that when he did meet her, She talked only of Alpha. Never once did she ask about Grandchildren or about how is life had been during those 22 yrs. It was clear that a life of alcohol and drug abuse had left this woman with mental issues. Yes people of any age can die from PE but the one thing I noticed was when she was showing Micheal all the pictures and telling him Alpha had passed, She made it clear she had not killed her. This almost made me think she maybe trying to cover things up. Did she honestly believe he was so stupid as to believe she had contacted the social worker to pick him up. This woman definately deserves to be in prison the rest of her life. Thank God for people like the ones that took him in and raised him. I was adopted at the age of 3yrs old but a wonderful couple, but, always knew who my birth mother was. My parents have since passed on and my birthmother now lives with me. It took alot of soul searching to forgive her but with Gods help I have.

I have not seen the show yet (I will see it when I get home from work) 

  

What I dont understand is this: at 1o years old, didnt he know his address? Couldnt he tell the police where he lived or who his grandparents were? 

  

  

Michael, Forgiveness is part of healing.  I had such anger inside of me for what was done to my adopted children, by their birth family, the "system", their therapist who is serving time for sexual crimes against a child,  the people who enabled them and those who contributed or were responsible for their deaths.  The pain was killing me.   Then one day I realized that salvation could be theirs and if I did not forgive them in my heart, I could not receive forgiveness.  That was the day that my world changed.  I began to heal.  I will never speak to any of these people, but that step brought me unbelievable peace.  I hope you can forgive and move on. 

How can a mother leave her son and just walk away? I mean take him to a police station, a hospital, or even a shelter but don't just leave him in a place where any crazy person will get him. 

Hiw scared could he have been? I am not sure I could have been as brave as he did. What could shehave been thinking. 

She is a nut case... she is so nervous and scared.  Whoa!! 

 

No matter what she needs to answer his question better than what she gave him. She should have never left him and she should have took him to the foster home. 

 

Ten years OLD. Come on. 

 

This is just a very horrible, horrible situation. One that cannot be solved at this point. 

He is angry and rightly so! I see she seems very sorry but in reality she is a bullsh***er! 

 

What a shame. He has no conclusion. What he must have thought about himself over the years. MyGod.  

 

How do you forgive her for what she has done... it would be hard. Don't know how or when but he must forgive her so he can forgive what He thinks he did wrong to make this happen. Man! 

 

What a horrible horrible thing to do to a 10 yr. old child. But he may be better than if she had kept him with her. She led a life of drugs and alcohol and a lifestyle of very little goodness in it. 

 

I will pray for you Mike. God be with you. 

  

I feel so bad for all of you ,who has gone through this. I just want to cry,cuz I can't imagine going through that. I just keep thinking, what is this world coming to ? I'll pray for all of you cuz it appears that this happens too often. One thing I have noticed is all the strength, you all have from having to go through this. I'm really sorry that anyone would have to go through this kind of pain and betrayal.All I  can say is that I'm sorry................