Topic : 08/10 Abandoned

You are sooooo right - I too could have puked over her fusing over "her baby" as though Michael was treading on her territory - she was so sickening self-centered - course that is what is wrong with her to begin with!!   He is better off, but that pain is a permanent scar - poor guy - isn't it wonderful that devine intervention prevailed and he found those incredibly special new parents - hard to see Michael, but it was all meant to be - you are a better person for it, but that does not make it right - what she did was horrific and you did not deserve it back then and you did not deserve what she had to say on the show today - she is a disgrace to motherhood.

You are a fine man with a fine wife and parents and most likely, will raise terrific children.

Good luck!

Oh my - I soooooo agree with you - Please DR PHIL - follow up and let us know what happened to this "woman", not Michael's mom, but the "woman who abandoned him"......she doesn't deserve the title of mother!   I too feel certain she had something to do with the sister's sudden death - as Dr. Phil said "she doesn't live in our world like most people".....she's plane not normal!!

I had to re read this several times to be sure of what you were saying!?  Are u for real!?  "Try looking at the positive side of the event!?"  I think Dr. Phil did an unbelievably  phenomenal job of pointing out the positive!   It is "fair to judge her" - she is horrible for what she did - she left a permanent scar and she should be punished........... although I have no doubt when she meets her maker,

she will be!  The "people and circumstances are not different ".............no matter where, when, how, why etc. - it happened and she's a disgrace for it!

I just want to say that I see that many people responded here with the comments such as this "Michael should count his blessings - his mother did him a favor in the long run".

.........................my son (who is now 18) has been first emotionally abandoned by his dad and now physically abandoned.......... and all because he has issues with me despite the fact that I've raised a terrific kid who is going off to college in three weeks with an academic scholarship.  But, because he has issues with me, he refuses to see his son or be part of his life - believe me when I tell you, many people have said to both of us "you are better off"......I have such difficulty with this comment, that I often am speechless.  Abandonment is so deep....even if a parent is a loser, it's really best that the children see that themselves as long as there is one stable parent. 

But Michael didn't have two parents; he had one mentally unstable one. And if you read HIS post on this board, you will see that his mother was a danger to them and their lives were extremely unstable.

Since the past is the past and Michael is an adult, the ONLY way for his to view this is to be thankful that he was left by her to be raised by caring adults who loved him and cared for him. Yes, the pain of abandonment must be horrible, but he truly got a second chance when she left him. You are reading too much into the comments; they are truly uplifting and Michael understands that.

Micheal while watching the Dr.Phil show today I was so touched that it brought me to tears.  I relate to your situation with your "mentally gone" mother and abandonment.   At 15 years old my mother drove two moving vans into our yard and took everything - my bed, the fridge, the stove - everything.  She left a shell of a house, my step-father (who I'd known a few years but never liked) and me.  Within months, I was in foster-care.  

The difference is your mother found a beter hiding spot.  Mine stayed in the same general area, but has not called my phone to this day.  I see her sometimes when I make the effort because curiousity gets the best of me and I am wondering what she's doing.   She acts the same as your Mother.  Completely oblivious to anyone but herself, wild and rambling, and just plain crazy.  Your mother is the same as mine.   It is difficult not to feel like she's a huge disappointment and the main source of shame and embarassment on my life.  

However, she is her own spirit and is here to do whatever it is which is meant for her.  I see her as a sad human that doesn't realize what ditch she has herself in, and I resolve that there is nothing I can do about that, because she lacks reason.   I try, as I see you do, to make good choices, be a good person, be proud of who I am, and cherish my child.   Perhaps I am wrong but what I seen while watching you was  the same lack of understanding on your face, that I wear on mine some days.   Like you just don't get it -  how can someone be that way?  I don't get it either, and probably never will.    Some things are not meant to be got.

Be proud, your wife looks lovely and supportive, as do your parents.  Feel blessed, because you are.   Dr Phil had some really good points about filling the holes in our hearts, and you certainly look like you didn't need that advise, you have long been doing that.    I try to do that in my life with my son, and I know he has saved me because of the opportunity to love him.    Good luck Michael, you are not alone.

Cezel.

i was just wondering when the new season will be starting, i watch dr.phil everyday but i need some new shows to watch

My name is Jillian. I was left at the Ohio State Fair when I was five years old. My mom took my twin sister and I to the the fair on one of her weekend visits. I wanted something and she pulled my pants down in front of everyone and began beating me. She dragged me to where it says OHIO really big at the enterance. She called my social worker Peggy and told her she couldn't handel me. She then hung up the phone, asked me for my hand and slid my hand down the cord of the phone. She said just wait here honey, someone will stop or come get you. So I stood there at the pay phone and watched my mom and twin sister walk away. I had no idea what was going on, like I said I was only 5 yrs old. I can only imagne the pain he has struggeled with over the years as I have

Jillian Ann D.

That's so sad.   I hope you are happy and healthy  now.  

Blessed Be.

Cezel.