Topic : 05/24 "Get My Groom to Grow Up!"

Listen here doc, the antics are an amazing band. one of my personal favorites matter of fact and from going to numerous shows tyler (t.rexxx) is brilliant!! they are all high energy guys who like to have a good time and through their music and attitudes they make other people happy.. it's also clear to me that he loves his son and family very much and wouldnt do anything to harm them intentionally... so whatever you are going to say to him on wednesday it better not involve ditching the band... otherwise we'd have some serious beef!!  

LONG LIVE THE ANTICS!!!!  

The one who needs to be more mature is Angee.  Bill's just doing what he's programmed to do because the outcome is what he wants - no responsibility, no commitment.  How does a woman with a functioning brain end up with an immature, selfish, self-centered person like Bill.  And, having taken him on as a project, why allow him to father a child.  It takes a second to father a child, but a lifetime to parent one -- Bill was physically mature enough to father a child, but not emotionally and mentally mature enough to parent one.   It's up to you, Angee -- you can have it hard raising a child on your own, or your can have it much harder trying to parent a man who should be an adult at the same time you parent a child.  And, the child will be the one to suffer. 

The one who needs to be more mature is Angee.  Bill's just doing what he's programmed to do because the outcome is what he wants - no responsibility, no commitment.  How does a woman with a functioning brain end up with an immature, selfish, self-centered person like Bill.  And, having taken him on as a project, why allow him to father a child.  It takes a second to father a child, but a lifetime to parent one -- Bill was physically mature enough to father a child, but not emotionally and mentally mature enough to parent one.   It's up to you, Angee -- you can have it hard raising a child on your own, or your can have it much harder trying to parent a man who should be an adult at the same time you parent a child.  And, the child will be the one to suffer. 

Angee is foolish to continue on with these marriage plans.  It's too risky to take the chance that he'll grow up and be a man for you.  And once you have children, it'll be too difficult for you to leave.  You need to prove that you are a grown up and realize this is a bad plan for your life. 

Angee should run while there is still room out there to get away.  

Rachel is taking care of the baby now plus paying all the bills. She can do it all herself, so she should get away from her situation as well.  

From what I have read it looks like the show will be about two irresponsible, not grown-up boys. They are still in their mother's pockets. By this time I doubt whether they will ever grow up.  

These young ladies have both made wrong decisions, from the sound of things.  

Ladies get some selfworth. Pick yourselves up and get going. If you don't, you will be dragged down right along with these men.  

You, and others like you, are in such situations because you allowed it.  

I do not want to be judgemental, but people have to want the best life for themselves.  

Well, let's wait and see what Dr Phil says.  

You wrote my story.  After 32 years I divorced my husband and I recall saying aloud as I stood in the living room alone after the judge awarded the divorce, "Well, you finally got him back Mama.  He's all yours."  With a mama's boy a wife will never win.  I could never come in first because he hadn't divorced his mama yet.  I became convinced that there was even a sexual component to his attachment to his mother, though I doubt that he was aware of it and he would never have admitted it even to himself.  For any young wife who discovers she's married a mama's boy, I would advise her to cut her losses and divorce him before she devotes an entire lifetime to a half-marriage where only his mother wins.  

I left after I'd spent 32 years with him and realized he would never truly be my husband if he refused to divorce his mother.  Cut your losses and get out before you've spent a lifetime and all your best years playing a game you will never win.