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Topic : 05/22 Predator Sting

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Created on : Friday, May 19, 2006, 10:22:05 am
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With the Internet right in your home, pedophiles have an easy way to make contact with your children. The only way to protect your kids from predators is to know how, when and where they operate. Dr. Phil uncovers the secret strategies of sexual predators. First, he teams up with former detective sergeant Rob Nickel to perform a serious and potentially dangerous undercover operation: to out a sexual predator working the Internet.  Follow the surprising turn of events when Dr. Phil gets the Las Vegas police involved. Then, social networking Web site MySpace.com boasts 73 million members, many of whom are kids. When a Dr. Phil producer sets up a fake MySpace account posing as a 15-year-old girl, you won’t believe the response she gets. Next, a concerned mom takes MySpace into her own hands. Learn her sneaky strategy for keeping tabs on her kids and see how far they are willing to go online. Plus, with over 750,000 predators on the Internet, wouldn't you like to know who might be living on your block, in your neighborhood, possibly even next door? Dr. Phil shows you how to find out, right from your own home.

To find registered sex offenders in your area, visit familywatchdog.us.

Staying Safe In A Wired World: A Parents Guide To Internet Safety  by Rob Nickel.

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May 21, 2006, 2:20 pm CDT

I do not give audience to people who yell and scream

Quote From: etiamwiam7

  

I TOO WAS OFTEN QUITE CONFUSED AND LOST IN READING MOST MESSAGES FROM OTHER COLLEAGUES THAT SEEM TO BE AWFULLY CRAPPY AND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND. 

 

YOU ARE ENTITLE TO YOUR OPINION AND I GLAD THAT MESSAGE DESPITE BEING IN UPPER CASE HAS EVOKED A RESPONSE THAT I WAS HOPING FOR. 

 

As adults from your point of view, watching naughty videos as you put is O.K. and believe I have heard similar comments from people I knew about the distribution of pornography.  I once out of curiosity saw such naughty pictures in a public cinema at stage in my life when my self-esteem was very low and I been a victim of sexual abuse and so forth.  Believe it certainly made me very sick and totally disinterested in such nonsense, because it destroys every goodness or light in you.  It does something to your morale and self-esteem.  I totally disagree with you when you say that there is a huge difference between adults enjoying naughty videos to spice up their sex life then people watching children.  

 

As far as I am concern there is no difference.  From a Christian point of view, having your husbands and wifes watching full on naughty videos to spice up their lives, in my view, is encouraging adultery and the need to watch someone else engaging in sexual pleasures in order for you to get in the mood.  Why should you watch another man or woman engaging in sexual pleasure in order for you and your partner to get in the mood of things, when, you are both adults that have brilliant creative innovative minds to create pleasures for your own sex life or love making.  You may need some spice in your sex life, but, why pornography? 

 

My second has been excluded which actually includes this book by Anna Salter called "Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders—Who They Are, How They Operate, and How We Can Protect Ourselves and Our Children"  

that may dispute your argument that these individuals cannot be rehabilitated.   

 

As for the tattoo idea not everyone is keen on such an idea.  Because in my religious belief, one of the golden rules, is that you cannot have tattoos and I am really not a fan of such a practice.  Further to this reply I want add the following: 

 

THESE SORTS OF TOPICS ARE PARTICULARLY TABOO ISSUES IN VERY CHRISTIAN BASED COMMUNITIES OR AMONG CHURCH GOERS.  OFTEN PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY ARE VERY SHY AND EMBARRASSED TO EVEN MENTION ANY VIEWS OR DISCUSSION ABOUT SUCH ISSUES FOR FEAR OF ALIENATION AND CRITICISM.

  

 

 

  

 

FORGETTING OF COURSE, THAT, THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE PEDOPHILES AND SEXUAL PREDATORS ARE HOPING THAT THEY WILL DO. 

  

 

 

  

 

WHICH IS SHUT UP AND PRETEND IT DOES NOT EXIST OR HAPPEN TO OUR YOUNG CHILDREN OR ANYONE IN OUR COMMUNITIES. 

  

 

 

  

 

THE SILENCE ALLOWS PEDOPHILES TO DO AS THEY PLEASE WHILST AT THE SAME TIME GETTING AWAY WITH IT UNTIL ONE DAY IT'S ALL TOO LATE.

  

 

  

Sorry I cannot conform to your lower case culture.  I hope you will continue to learn from reading my messages. 

  

Peace Out! 

  

ET 

it isn't a matter of "conformity" it's a matter of manners and being in control.  You don't need to scream, we cal all hear and read.  And I'm sorry you've trouble understanding the difference between adults doing things that children are not ready to.  I can have a drink, have sex, or watch a naughty film but my kids cannot.  As an adult we're responsible and children are not they're children and innocent.  As an adult those very things I spoke of could be harmful but as an adult hopefully I'm able to make adult decisions.  If you've a problem with self esteem it's that that is the problem and there will be many things that will add to that and there will be many things you'll be suseptable to unless you work on yourself.  We've all even as adults have something to work on and crosses to bear in life.   Rather than focus on the things that do add to a low self esteem (in my mind an excuse to stay in the same helpless place)  seek help to build up your self esteem.   

  

Again I'm sorry I could only get bits and pieces of your answer to me and frankly I wasn't even sure if I'd addressed any of the things you'd screamed out in your original post or if I'd addressed the real point you were trying to make.  I don't allow people to scream at me in 3D I'm certainly not going to do it online.   

 
May 21, 2006, 2:29 pm CDT

powaygrl please just be careful

Quote From: powaygrl

i'm 16 and i go on myspace and talk.thewb.com i chat on the internet with strangers i don't know, i think the show will be helpful to me

I'm sure that this show is going to be very interesting and informative.  I wish more young people would watch and please tell your friends to watch it too ok?  You know the best way to protect yourself is to know what means is being used to trick young women such as yourself.  This doesn't end in your teens but through to adulthood.  Who would have ever guessed that you could be anywhere and have someone slip something into a drink that renders you unconsious?  You don't even have to be at a bar drinking alcohol but you could be at a party with a bottle of water and they'll slip something into it.  This was uncovered a good few years back and you've probably already heard all that, but my point is that every time we hear about something and we're unguard for it something new comes into use.   

  

The latest I'd heard about "myspace" is that even if you don't put your whole name on there or what town you're in that because of all the "friends you have listed" they may mention things not realizing that they're giving away where you all go to school and live.  So say you and a girlfriend named Jane are on the wildcat cheeryleading squad & then through janes online list of friends others mention the school name.  If the school has a web site and a perv looks it up and there's a current list of names for the cheerleaders now that perv has your picture and may be able to wait and watch for you after school etc.  I hear they really "prey" on the young women.  If you're already talking to strangers you have to be real careful how much info you give out if you're chating with them.  Please don't meet anyone alone ok?  

 
May 21, 2006, 4:13 pm CDT

On and On

     People go on and on, talking on  this discussion page but no one stops and thinks that just saying something on a discussion page wont make much difference. Parents need to be cautious about their kids on the Internet. Most people just think that their kid is old enough to protect himself but these Predators team up on kids. The point i am trying to get across is that you need to know what is happening on your son/daughters computer. My Space is definitely not a safe website for kids. Predators just go on, jump into a discussion and track each of them and say "that kid lives withing half a mile of me" and stalks that kid and finds out a lot of information about him or her. I think that every parent should watch Dr. Phil on Monday and really get to understand the Internet. Until you watch that show, you don't really know anything about the Internet and what can happen on it. Make it a family thing and get your children to watch it with you. I know that any child who views that episode will never have a picture of themselves on MSN or My Space again. 

Thanks for listening to my concern 

 
May 21, 2006, 10:55 pm CDT

05/22 Predator Sting

Quote From: mitch1208

     People go on and on, talking on  this discussion page but no one stops and thinks that just saying something on a discussion page wont make much difference. Parents need to be cautious about their kids on the Internet. Most people just think that their kid is old enough to protect himself but these Predators team up on kids. The point i am trying to get across is that you need to know what is happening on your son/daughters computer. My Space is definitely not a safe website for kids. Predators just go on, jump into a discussion and track each of them and say "that kid lives withing half a mile of me" and stalks that kid and finds out a lot of information about him or her. I think that every parent should watch Dr. Phil on Monday and really get to understand the Internet. Until you watch that show, you don't really know anything about the Internet and what can happen on it. Make it a family thing and get your children to watch it with you. I know that any child who views that episode will never have a picture of themselves on MSN or My Space again. 

Thanks for listening to my concern 

 I have to agree with you on many of your points. Too many parents do not understand how free and wide the internet really is. The internet is a PRIVILIGE and not a RIGHT that so many kids think they need. I didn't have the inernet until I was 17 and that was back in 2001 but I did just fine. I had a 12 year old cousin on myspace (she was WAY too immature to handle that responsibility and I refused to add her as I don't deal with young children on there) and ended up getting herself into trouble in school as a result. She scoffed at the numerous warnings she got but in the end, her mother really couldnt do much more  (I for one would have had the internet cut right then and there and taken her comp away) and yup, threatening phone calls, photo shopped pictures. You bet she learned a lesson. Her mom took away her cell phone and switched to dial up so she was unable to upload all that information.

Also to parents that condem sites like myspace, what do you think of parents that post pictures of their kids in their signatures? They are not provocative and are no different than some of the pictures younger kids put on their myspace pages (yes not everyone on there is tasteless and sick). For example, I have seen mothers post pictures of their little ones in only diapers, dressing up, or in bathing suits...ect and honestly I think that is just plain wrong.

A lot of these kids aren't as innocent as many adults think either. When speaking to a group of 11 year olds, many of them admitted to posting less than appropriate pictures of themselves online (not only myspace but personal websites, xangas, livejournals) and knew EXACTLY what they were doing. The girls have already figured out that they will get attention from MEN and on some strange level find it cool. I read them the riot act and told them exactly what could happen if you get yourself into trouble with a stranger. More parents need to let them know that it is possible to end up raped or dead. If they think they can handle the responsibility of the internet then they can most certainly handle the possible reprecussions of  doing something dumb.
 
May 21, 2006, 11:04 pm CDT

05/22 Predator Sting

Quote From: etiamwiam7

  

I TOO WAS OFTEN QUITE CONFUSED AND LOST IN READING MOST MESSAGES FROM OTHER COLLEAGUES THAT SEEM TO BE AWFULLY CRAPPY AND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND. 

 

YOU ARE ENTITLE TO YOUR OPINION AND I GLAD THAT MESSAGE DESPITE BEING IN UPPER CASE HAS EVOKED A RESPONSE THAT I WAS HOPING FOR. 

 

As adults from your point of view, watching naughty videos as you put is O.K. and believe I have heard similar comments from people I knew about the distribution of pornography.  I once out of curiosity saw such naughty pictures in a public cinema at stage in my life when my self-esteem was very low and I been a victim of sexual abuse and so forth.  Believe it certainly made me very sick and totally disinterested in such nonsense, because it destroys every goodness or light in you.  It does something to your morale and self-esteem.  I totally disagree with you when you say that there is a huge difference between adults enjoying naughty videos to spice up their sex life then people watching children.  

 

As far as I am concern there is no difference.  From a Christian point of view, having your husbands and wifes watching full on naughty videos to spice up their lives, in my view, is encouraging adultery and the need to watch someone else engaging in sexual pleasures in order for you to get in the mood.  Why should you watch another man or woman engaging in sexual pleasure in order for you and your partner to get in the mood of things, when, you are both adults that have brilliant creative innovative minds to create pleasures for your own sex life or love making.  You may need some spice in your sex life, but, why pornography? 

 

My second has been excluded which actually includes this book by Anna Salter called "Predators: Pedophiles, Rapists, and Other Sex Offenders—Who They Are, How They Operate, and How We Can Protect Ourselves and Our Children"  

that may dispute your argument that these individuals cannot be rehabilitated.   

 

As for the tattoo idea not everyone is keen on such an idea.  Because in my religious belief, one of the golden rules, is that you cannot have tattoos and I am really not a fan of such a practice.  Further to this reply I want add the following: 

 

THESE SORTS OF TOPICS ARE PARTICULARLY TABOO ISSUES IN VERY CHRISTIAN BASED COMMUNITIES OR AMONG CHURCH GOERS.  OFTEN PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITY ARE VERY SHY AND EMBARRASSED TO EVEN MENTION ANY VIEWS OR DISCUSSION ABOUT SUCH ISSUES FOR FEAR OF ALIENATION AND CRITICISM.

  

 

 

  

 

FORGETTING OF COURSE, THAT, THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT THE PEDOPHILES AND SEXUAL PREDATORS ARE HOPING THAT THEY WILL DO. 

  

 

 

  

 

WHICH IS SHUT UP AND PRETEND IT DOES NOT EXIST OR HAPPEN TO OUR YOUNG CHILDREN OR ANYONE IN OUR COMMUNITIES. 

  

 

 

  

 

THE SILENCE ALLOWS PEDOPHILES TO DO AS THEY PLEASE WHILST AT THE SAME TIME GETTING AWAY WITH IT UNTIL ONE DAY IT'S ALL TOO LATE.

  

 

  

Sorry I cannot conform to your lower case culture.  I hope you will continue to learn from reading my messages. 

  

Peace Out! 

  

ET 

 Unfortunately, branding or using chips wouldnt be possible as that would be a violation of their rights. However, I think it is safe to say most people would agree with me when I say that once you violate another member of society in any illegal way (rape, robbery for example) you don't deserve those rights anymore.
 
May 22, 2006, 2:10 am CDT

Overkill

I'm a fourteen year old Navy veteran (stationed in Japan ) with a 14 years old son and a ten year old daughter.  I watched your show this Monday on child predators and I started wondering; what if these sex offenders watching your show decide to take another route and post on the internet as 15 years?  What then?  I really don't like the fact that you are showing these sick people how you go about catching them.  Don't you think the will wise up and find ways of getting around these stings?

  

 

 
May 22, 2006, 2:50 am CDT

Offender list

I am a mother of four and will be moving soon. Before we find our house I would like to check out the neighborhood. Anyone know the web address that Dr. Phil mentioned on the show for the registered offenders list?
 
May 22, 2006, 4:27 am CDT

05/22 Predator Sting

The really scary thing about these predators is we only know about 10% of these people. The 90% that is still out there unknown is the ones that scare me the most.
 
May 22, 2006, 4:35 am CDT

As a suvivor,

Quote From: robnickel

This is Rob Nickel the Guest on the show who did the Undercover work and I encourage any parent to watch this show to see just how predator's and pedophile think and act.  It is a real eye opener, and I want to thank Dr. Phil for having such a show to help show parents the dangers that lurk online.  

  

I appreciate that Dr. Phil cares about these issues and I was so impressed with his staff.  I cannot say enough good things about the producers and other staff that work on the Dr. Phil show... Thank you so much.  

  

All the best - and Surf Safe!  

  

Rob Nickel  

I want to thank you for what you are doing. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
May 22, 2006, 5:35 am CDT

Offenders

Quote From: reddq1

I am a mother of four and will be moving soon. Before we find our house I would like to check out the neighborhood. Anyone know the web address that Dr. Phil mentioned on the show for the registered offenders list?
The site is familywatchdog.us, at the top of this message board is a link that will take you directly to that site.
 
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