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Created on : Friday, May 19, 2006, 10:38:31 am

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The beach, bathing suits and vowing to get in shape -- all signs summer is approaching. Dr. Phil's guests are trying to overcome the roadblocks that keep them from their best bikini bodies. Helen hasn't worn a bathing suit since she was 12. Dr. Phil cameras follow her as she tries on bathing suits for the first time in 30 years. Hear from other women who also have issues wearing swimsuits. Next, Julie has lost 165 pounds, but her husband, Kelly, says she's not skinny enough, and he would be embarrassed if she wore a bathing suit. Kelly says he needs Julie to weigh 150 pounds. Can this marriage survive Kelly's demands? Then, Melissa is getting married in October, so she challenged her sister, Kim, to a friendly weight loss competition, but it's turned into a fierce battle. Both girls will stop at nothing to win. See the antics they use to one-up each other and sabotage each other's efforts. And, Ed wants to be a trophy husband in time for his anniversary this summer. Can he learn to say no to the foods that call his name and tempt his tummy? Plus, big surprises for the guests and audience. Find out how you can get in on the action. If you need to shed some winter weight and slim down before stepping on the beach, this show is for you! Talk about the show here.

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mctncanada

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frustrated

May 26, 2006, 5:56 pm PDT

Kelly - Goodbye! You're the weakest link....

Julie, don't put up with what Kelley is doing to you. Do you really think he loves you? He does not accept you for who you are because he does not accept himself. Once he realizes who he is really attracted to, he will be much happier with his life.

I have been struggling with my weight all my life, so I am familiar with guys like Kelley. A previous boyfriend of mine suggested that if I “dropped” a certain amount of weight that we would get married. Do you know what happened? I gained 100 + pounds between three to four months. Nobody will tell me what to do, when and how to do it. It just proved to me that he just wasn't into me at all.

We don't need a man to be happy. All we need is self-esteem and good friends to support us along our journey through life. Do yourself a favor, be happy.

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celmom

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May 26, 2006, 5:58 pm PDT

Debra, hang in there

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i my friends im a 298 pd women ive been over weight all my life as a child i was hurt when i was child un loved by my mom n friends i have tryed diets and still im not loseing i dont eat much very little my bf says like a bird i have tryed all kinds of diests but nothing seems to work im hoping i can find some friends on here that will help me im a 43 women what kind of mother can give u up at the age of 9 when she walks in to c her bf rapeing me then keeps him i dont have time for her i feel unloved by my mother ty my friends for stoping by reading this ty debra

Debra, I think you will find friends here. I would like give my opinion of your mother for the way she failed you, but I doubt that the moderator would consider it clean enough to post. I am also struggling with weight, as are several friends. Keep writing. God bless you.

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shirleysee

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May 26, 2006, 5:59 pm PDT

Amen!

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Julie, congratulations on your weight lose and good luck on the rest "you" want to lose. You look great. You are beautiful and sweet and you need to find someone that loves you for you. Kelly seems to want the "trophy" wife; however, he's no "trophy" himself. He's worried about you breaking your promises. What about his promises to you? "love, honor, sickness and in health, etc." You need to be treated with love and like a queen by someone who will love you. If Kelly really loves you, he would support you and help you achieve your goals. Not bring you down or verbally abuse you because that's what it is. I was in a relationship where I wasn't good enough. I was always too fat or not thin enough where I was constantly exercising, not eating well to the point that I looked sick. I got out of that marriage for my own well being. Hopefully Kelly will open his eyes to see how far you've come, ears to listen to your pain, and his heart to love you for you! Good luck.

Julie should lose the weight for herself and not the selfish man that she married. I was appauled at the way he treated her and talked about her. I would say, lose the weight you want, and get rid of the dead weight....the nasty husband! He is not anything to write home about! Good Luck, but don't put up with it.

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nylorac

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surprised

May 26, 2006, 6:01 pm PDT

Stunned

I realize that today's show was about weight loss, but I was stunned that Dr. Phil did not put this husband in his place. I was very angry when Kelly applauded gleefully over the fact that Dr. Phil was going to help Julie with her weight loss. It was as if HE were being given a gift. When Dr. Phil opened with "Does insanity run in your family?" I thought I would be seeing him do what he does best....put someone in their place. I was disappointed. The things he said to Julie were all good and true...about weight loss. But he did not address the obvious problems in this marriage. I wanted him to turn to Kelly and say, as only Dr. Phil can say ...."What are you thinking?????" I hope that Dr. Phil will not only help Julie with her weight loss, but will help her like herself enough to not tolerate this abuse by her husband. Dr. Phil, please allow America to see this man be embarrassed about HIMSELF at some point in the future!!!

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psquared

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frustrated

May 26, 2006, 6:02 pm PDT

Life is too short

Life is too short to put up with "bad vibes" from a husband that can't or won't be supportive. Julie has already had monumentally good results and everything she has lost should be for herself!! I wish I could do the same - everytime there is a weight loss show on the TV I immediatly hit the refrigerator. It's as if I HAVE TO sabotage myself.

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tinamarc1

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confused

May 26, 2006, 6:02 pm PDT

Not sure what the problem is

I am not sure what to do. My husband says that he thinks my weight is fine wven though I am about 30 pounds over weight. However, he has no time to spend with me. He is always too tired for me but has plenty of energy to spend with friends and on other issues. I don't know if it is wthe weight or if he just don't care anymore. WWe are both in our 40's and I think that we should have a bit better personal life then we have right now.

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sweet_jess

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May 26, 2006, 6:10 pm PDT

Despret

Hey everyone !!! First of all sorry for my bad spelling lol I am originally french! I am from

Montreal and I love Dr.Phil... I have a problem I am 16 and I weight 190 pounds :S I really hate my-self ... I am in a relation of 2 years and 6 months ... My boy-friend says I am fine but I just cant be happy within myself! I would love weighing 155 pounds but that seems imposible. I tryed everything ... I made my self starved ... I made my-self vomitte ... I Started drinking only shaks and stuff ... I excersied but it seems that my motivation fails everytime ... I cant do it my-self ... I need suport ... I went to see doctor ans dietitichiens but money is the problem ... Can someone help me ???

A despret 16 year old kid xxx

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celmom

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May 26, 2006, 6:14 pm PDT

05/26 Summer Slim

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Kelly said:

I do love Julie, but I feel like because of the weight issue, I cannot be head over heels in love with her

Julie, if Kelly doesn't love you "head over heels" at 175 or 275, he won't love you at 150 or 125. He just doesn't love you. He may be more interested in having sex with you when you are thinner, but he doesn't love you and that won't change with your weight. You deserve to be loved by your husband and Kelly isn't going to be that for you.

Being loved by my husband all of my life (for the past 28 years anyway) has been one of my greatest joys. He loved me when I was puffed up from taking prednisone, when I was pregnant with our children, when I was thin and skanky due to illness. He loved me in spite of me having an ostomy 12 years ago. He loves me now even though the skin on my thighs and arms isn't tight any more. And to my eyes, my 50 year old husband is the sexiest, most gorgeous man in the world, too. When we are 90 and in a nursing home gumming our gruel, I guarantee you that we will feel exactly the same way about each other. And neither one of us is "being nice"-we really do love each other and the way we each look. You deserve to find a man who can love you. sadly, Kelly isn't capable of anything but superficial lust.

BRAVO!!!!! I know how you feel: I feel the same way about my husband of almost 31 years.

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okrahoma

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May 26, 2006, 6:15 pm PDT

Work on yourself, Kelly!

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I'd like to warn Kelly that I'm right about at his "ideal" weight (about 145) and I still have batwing arms and flabby thighs. Oh yes, I workout six days a week and I give it my all. The thing is you can't diet or exercise away your skin. Only surgery would make my excess skin as tight as Kelly thinks a woman's skin should be, and then there would be scars and Kelly probably couldn't deal with that either.

I wonder about a guy like Kelly who can't get aroused unless the woman he's with is flawless. Thank heavens all men aren't that "sensitive' or the population would be really, really small.

I wish Dr. Phil would have said more to him about it being his problem, not hers. He needs to work on himself, & he did say he wanted to not feel that way. Why do so many men say, during their appearance on Dr. Phil, that they're sorta starting to understand how their comments might, just might ,be more hurtful than helpful? Do they have no Emotional intelligence? No empathy? He must have very low self-esteem if he loves somebody, but is embarassed to be seen with her? That is his problem, not hers. I am not pretty or thin, but my husband has never acted like he was ashamed of me, I think because I am me, & he is himself, & we are proud & confident & happy of ourselves, in our world--does that make sense?! I can not understand a whole, confident man treating his wife this way, any more than I can understand physical abuse

I think many men would be proud to be seen with this woman--this guy has the problem, not her. .

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aflwrchld2

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happy

May 26, 2006, 6:17 pm PDT

weight loss - plateau

Hi, I have never posted on this board before. I tape and watch Dr. Phil every day. Last year I decided it was time to loss the weight. I have lost 35 lbs. And now I am stuck. I just lost motivation. I dusted off Dr. Phils weight loss book and decided I better re-read it. It would be great to have to just get to the bottom of my eating. I think I got it...but I know that I don't. I am looking for support on this board. I really love to down ski! but hate to exercise. I wish I could get into exercise as much as I enjoy skiing. Well tommorrow my goal is to drink more water :)

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