Topic : 05/26 Summer Slim

we are all pleased with Julia, but for you, hang in there.  Congratulations on your engagement.  Have you set the big date?  You sound like an amazing person.  Why aren't you being your own cheerleader?  At times, things can get us all down.  This world is crazy but we don't have to be.  Please try to look at one thing at a time in your life, the good things first.  Next tackle a hard thing.  If we try to deal with one thing at a time, things seem more manageable.  You have a wonderful man who loves you, you are reaching out when you need it, and you aren't giving up!  See, you are doing better already.  I'm not trying to make light of anything you are going through, but when we get down on ourselves things can seem overwhelming.  Just to this minute, know that you are loved and are thought about.  Hang in there are write soon. 

spanky89 

How could a guy say something like that to his wife?? I just dont understand how anyone could be so shallow....... 

  

By the way, does anyone know where the sign up page is for the summer slim down program???? 

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!   

   

I really would like to have a go with Kelly.  What a manipulative, selfish, insensitive, pathetic excuse of a man.  This guy - his looks - his attitude -  literally made me sick.  I was infuriated when he said Julie *NEEDS* to lose 25 pounds.  Where does this *need* even fit in to any part of a loving, caring, nurturing, healthy relationship - especially when it comes at the expense of Julie's feelings and emotional well being?  I really wish Dr. Phil had come down harder on this baffoon.  I think their marital problems and Kelly's need to humiliate and hurt Julie FAR outweigh any weight issues.    I really think I know where Julie is coming from.  Having been very heavy prior to meeting this creep, she seems to be acting like Kelly's *the last cookie in the jar* - like she's got to please him because no one else will have her.  I am guessing that when Julie weighed 165 pounds more, she had a limited social circle.  She was probably starved for affection.  Now enter Mr. Insensitive.  Sure, it's great being with a guy - but she shouldn't have to "transform" herself to be worthy of feeling loved and respected.  Love shouldn't be conditional.  I can imagine how much his rude and insensitive comments hurt.  These were not words of encouragment or motivation, they were insults, put-downs, cheap shots.  Kelly's embarassed to be seen with Julie?  Give me a break!   Not only is this man well below average looking (at best) - he has an ugly soul and black heart for being able to be so cruel and so self-centered.   I don't think losing the final 25 pounds should even be on Julie's radar at this time.   She can most certainly continue her efforts, but to put a firm number on it and have her manipulative mate try to make her feel less than lovable unless she hits that number is insane    I think Julie should be focusing on being happy.  Period.  She should be SO PROUD of her  accomplishments and be on the top of the world.  Look how far she has come - honestly - it is so inspiring.  Yet, this selfish boob can only point out what's wrong and how much further she needs to go?    What really p*ssed me off about Kelly the most is, he dated and married Julie FULLY KNOWING she was not thin.  Why, OH why, did Kelly, who says he's repulsed by her shape and size,  simply not pursue someone who was more his liking?    Here's why.  It's easier for him to be in CONTROL.  Once the weight is gone, there will be another obstacle for Julie to overcome, like the skin-sag.  After the surgeries, there will be other faults found.  I would hate to see someone like Julie - someone so beautiful, so strong and motivated -  throw away a happy life to try to please someone who cannot be pleased. No one should put their life and love on hold to please someone else.    PS - PLEASE - don't think that after all weight is gone - that plastic surgery will be the silver bullet to solve all your woes. While the world of plastic surgery has revolutionized the way we deal with body problems, there is no guarantee that results will be perfect or that complications will not occur.  Good luck, be proud,  be happy.

To join the challenge:  

   

You must have NO medical condition preventing your weight loss.  

You must be willing to make a commitment to a program that will occur over a period of months.  

You must be willing to participate in an upcoming taping if selected.   

1. Read Dr. Phil's book, The Ultimate Weight Solution: http://www.drphilstore.com/
2. Join a Weight Loss Challenge support group: http://www.drphil.com/messageboard/category/142
3. Tell us WHY you want to lose the weight: http://www.drphil.com/plugger/respond/?plugID=10352

 

 Hello Dr phil 

my name is habiba, I'm a new comer in canada.i miss my family very much 

  

last few weeks, I had very hard experience.I gave birth of a little girl after a hard labour, forceps, c-section...I did not find my family who take care of me....I drawn in the post partum depression for 04 month......Now I start to feel that is mandatory to  stand up..to take care of myself, I always watch your show, it is very inspiring....you 'll notice that my english is not so good, but I try hard to undestand what  do you say..I hope  to regain my shape prior to the pregnancy... because the  bad body image lead to low self esteem and that one lead to more depression.... 

You speak the truth.  If we could only put as much effort into becoming the best that we can be rather than being this perception of perfection.

I am a diabetic and loosing weight is a matter of life and death, I have tried all diets lost a few pounds but gained it all back and more. I have no sweet tooth but I can never have enough of breads and cheeses, at times I'm a bottomless pit and that depresses me even more thus I eat more etc....

and  i rellyyyyyy  hope kelly is as well   glad im not the only person that sees him for what he relly is .