I am the proud mother of 11 year old identical triplet daughters. One of the issues discussed on todays show was how to get the boys to decide on a game piece. Landon wants blue and so do the other kids. I went thru that very same issue with my girls when they were about 4 and I came up with an idea that still works today. This theme should sit real well with all of Dr. Phils theme's.
My daughters are Ashley, Brianne and Christina. By the simple nature of their 'A,B,C' names, I was constantly getting accused of ALWAYS doing things for Ashley and NEVER doing anything for Christina. I began something called "FIRST DAY". Each girl has their own first day, we rotate daily, and on their first day, they get to make the choices that are to be made that day. For example, which chair they sit in at the dinner table, who goes first at the game we play, who gets to choose the seat in the car. All these things seem rather simplistic to most but when you have 3 competitive girls all the same age, it is important that they think they have their own time to make decisions.
This has worked successfully for us for the last 7 years. They way I see it, I'll buy one car for them when they turn 16 and whoevers' first day it is will get to drive that day. It has saved so many arguments and the peace of mind that I get by knowing that I DON'T PLAY FAVORITISM is fantastic!
And about the dressing alike.... I dressed my girls alike until they were about 5 years old. At that time, they began to take on different styles and tastes and I let them. There have been times when we were in large crowds that I dressed them in the same clothes, simply because if I need to see them quick and take a count, it was easier if they were in something alike. So I can somewhat sympathize with dressing them alike in that scenario.
One more thing that I thought I should mention is if you can do it, think about spending one on one time with each child. On Friday night, one daughter stays with me, one daughter goes to her grandparents house and the other goes with her Dad. We rotate weekly and it gives each of them time alone with the people they care about the most. It is our special time to bond and just concentrate on that one child. It has been great for our family, and it could work for yours too.
Triplets are a blast. Not everyone gets to experience their uniqueness. The joy I get when I see someone look at my girls and just smile is more joy than any woman could ever ask for!!!! Take care of those boys, and constantly tell yourself what a great woman you are that you were blessed with triplets. What greater joy!
Proud to be a mother of Beautiful Young Triplet Daughters.
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