Topic : 05/29 Parenting Dilemmas

Sexual abuse is happening way too much, by teacher,s coaches, counseller, church goers, the so called civil society, what's wrong with the system? These people get months probation and hardly any jail time at all because the prosecution needs more hard evidence. We are scared for life, we will never be ok...survivors must come together and draw strength, unit and get the law changed..preverts are to be jailed, for life, the victims get a life sentence of the horrible ordeal the molester deserves the worst...

How did I miss that?  The show was such a "hodge podge" of topics.  Then you get that lady with MS selling her book.  Always tell when Sweeps are over for television series!

Careful -- we used to think that we would never allow women to wear pants in public, we used to say we would never accept a man with a pierced ear, or long hair, or a woman with short hair, or women in certain occupations (and men too -- like nursing and teaching) --- the list goes on.... 

  

Never is rarely accurate.  We change all the time -- and if you look back 100 years you would be amazed at how much we have changed in terms of what is "acceptable" in society and the workplace in terms of appearance.  

  

Tattoos and peircings are becoming more and more mainstream -- and will most likely be considered non-problimatic in business situations within the next decade.  

  

  

I posted yesterday, congratulating Nancy on the way she deals with her MS and made a few comments about my own battle.  I may left the wrong impression.  I know that I'm extremely fortunate that I do as well as I do.  I do attribute some of that to attitude and behavior but I also know that most of it is just "dumb luck."  MS takes many forms and is really a different condition for everyone that has it, which makes it much harder for people to understand.  Some of the most hated words I hear from people are "but you look just fine!"  They just don't get it and never will.  MS and outwards appearances have very little to do with each other and just because you look great doesn't mean there isn't anything wrong.  I know people who have really worked at defeating their MS, have kept a positive outlook and struggled with their everyday activities.  Yet, no matter how hard they try, their bodies are destroyed.  I have a friend with MS who was a university professor.  After his diagnosis he kept working, kept up his daily running schedule and never gave up or let it get him down.  He is now in a wheelchair, totally paralyzed from his neck down.  It wasn't because he didn't try to fight,  it's just a horrible, unpredictable disease that does minimal damage to some people and wreaks total havoc with others.  He still doesn't let it get him down and with the use of electronc aides, he is writing his second textbook on economics.  I do appreciate Nancy and what she has done to raise money for reasearch, etc., but  in some ways she is doing a great disservice to those people with MS who haven't been as lucky as she has. I do think that Dr. Phil should have said that the disease does take many different forms and although Nancy is definitely to be admired for her attitude and work, she cannot be held up as a typical example of what people with MS can do if they just try.  It can make life much more difficult for others with MS when people see her and think that everyone else should be able to do the same.  It just doesn't work that way.  Good luck with educating people as to the true nature of the disease.    Jeanne

I didn't get to see the show.   I forgot to set my DVR.   

But I wanted to toss in my $.02  

I am 37 and have always been against tattoos.  I always wanted one when I was a teen but never had the guts (nor were they as "popular" as they are now)   THANK GOD I never did that way back then.   3 years ago I got my first tat.   It will probably be the only one I ever have.   It's on the back of my neck so it's well hidden behind my hair unless I put it up to show it off.    Had I put something on me when I was a teen I would surely hate it now.   I have changed so much since then - I'm more mature, I like different things, my direction in life is different.     

My husband has 1 tat.  It's easy for him to hide it as well.   

  

I do think it can become an addition just like anything else in life.   I've met alot of people who have regretted certain tats they've put on themselves.   

  

I have 3 children, only one has the desire to have a tat and both his father and I are doing everything we can to encourage him to wait until he's at least 25.   There's just too big of a maturity growth between 18 adn 25 and then again from 25 to 35 that we would like him to have before he makes such a big decision.    

  

  

I know many girls like getting tatoos on their backs. I think they would reconsider if the knew that many doctors in Canada will not give an epidural during childbirth if they cannot find a spot of normal skin.  There is some worry about the toxic nature of the dyes in the tatoos.  

  

  

I thought I'd be suprised at some comments from people about tats.  I am 43 I have three grown children a wonderful husband and I am a professional!!!!! I have three tats on my back and I am proud of them I am not seeking attention my husband  gives me all I need and I ride a Harley too!!  I can't understand why people JUGDE other by their looks. We will all have our judgement day and you will not have the gavel in your hand!

Responding to this show, I can relate entirely to this girl and tattoos.  I was married at 20, and got a tattoo with my husbands NAME on my shoulder (DUMB!!).  We were married for 7 years and divorced.  At that time, I chose to cover it up with a professional one.    Now I am going to be getting married and I have decided to get the tattoo removed completely.  This has NOT been a painless process.  I am having it done by laser, and it is costing me $150 per treatment, of which I was told I have to go thru about 6-8 treatments.  I can say that getting the tattoo was a piece of cake as far as pain compared to getting it removed.  The only way to describe it is - it sounds like someone is welding (sparking noise, light, sparks), and it feels like someone taking a sharp piece of glass and digging it into your skin and takes your breath away at times.  When he is done, you can guarantee it will feel like a 3rd degree sunburn for at least an hour or more.    

My daughter, who is 17 wanted a tattoo, and after going thru my experience of getting it removed, she has now realized the importance of waiting, and knowing for sure that's what she really wants.  Fortunately, any reputable tattoo artist in our area will not give a tattoo to anyone under the age of 18, regardless of parental consent.    

I just wanted to share my experience with people, because I know people think they can just get them removed and it's a simple process. Unfortunately, it's a long process (mine will take almost a year), and expensive and painful.  So my advice is to really THINK about it before getting one. Don't just think about life in the present, but think about life in the future. I don't have anything against tattoos, I think there are alot of great artists out there, who can do beautiful work.  I'm just advising to think before you put something pretty-much-permanent on your body.