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April 5, 2007, 6:49 pm PDT

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My daughter just turned two, but a couple of months ago we started potty training her because she would stay dry in her panties and go Pee and poop in the toilet 95% of the time. We took a break because she would never tell us that she needed to potty. So Yesterday was her b-day and I am now dedicating today official potty training day.. We have the potty baby party supplies, drinks, and snacks!! I have two boys and they were easier than this... They were already potty trained by now.. If some could offer me some advise on how to get her to tell me when she needs to go would be AWESOME!!! Thank you everyone!!

She just might not be ready. Some kids aren't ready at barely two years old. Their language skills might not be advanced enough for that kind of communications, all kids are different.

My daughter will be 3 in a few weeks and we potty trained her a couple months ago.

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April 26, 2007, 3:43 pm PDT

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You have tried everything? How about being consistant? You are letting your child know that if she hangs in there, then you will give up and move on. She is in control. There should be no tolerance when it gets to this point. Stickers, gum, and spanking??? So do you really have a parenting method or are you just shooting in the air? My two year old knows exactly what her limits are. Refusing to do anything is not an option. I am considerate when I know she cant control certain things, like wetting at night, but during the day it is absolutely not tolerated. The one time she pooped her pants during the day I made her clean it. It was very traumatic for her, but she never did it again. I dont worry about it anymore. I dont buy pull ups or chase after them like a ninny asking if they have to go potty. They know that it is their responsibility. I have taught them what they need to know and I refuse to accept laziness.

YOU REALLY SEEM TO HAVE EVERYTHING FIGURED OUT! YOU HAVE A VERY BLACK AND WHITE VIEW ON CHILDREN. NOT EVERY CHILD IS THE SAME. YOU COME OFF VERY JUDGMENTAL, AND CONDEMNING TO THESE PARENTS. DO YOU REALLY THINK THAT THESE PARENTS ENJOY CHANGING THEIR 4 YEAR OLDS' DIAPER... SERIOUSLY? BUT TO KEEP ASKING THEM OVER AND OVER, "YOU HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING? HOW ABOUT BEING CONSISTENT?" WHO ARE YOU? HAVE YOU PUBLISHED ANY BOOKS ON POTTY TRAINING? DOUBTFUL! UNTIL THEN, TRY HELPFUL HINTS INSTEAD OF MAKING FRUSTRATED PARENTS FEEL LIKE FAILURES. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU RUN A VERY NURTURING HOUSE HOLD. WHEN YOU REFERRED TO THE TIME YOU MADE YOUR DAUGHTER CLEAN HER OWN MESSY PANTS YOU SAID. "IT WAS VERY TRAUMATIC FOR HER..." GREAT CHOICE OF WORDS. BUT OH YEAH, YOU "REFUSE TO ACCEPT LAZINESS". SHE'S TWO!!! NOW THAT YOU HAVE POTTY TRAINING UNDER CONTROL, MAYBE YOU CAN SPEND THAT EXTRA TIME TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN TO BE GRACIOUS TO OTHERS WHO ARE REACHING OUT FOR HELP AND A LITTLE SUPPORT. GET OVER YOURSELF!

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May 3, 2007, 11:47 pm PDT

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You have tried everything? How about being consistant? You are letting your child know that if she hangs in there, then you will give up and move on. She is in control. There should be no tolerance when it gets to this point. Stickers, gum, and spanking??? So do you really have a parenting method or are you just shooting in the air? My two year old knows exactly what her limits are. Refusing to do anything is not an option. I am considerate when I know she cant control certain things, like wetting at night, but during the day it is absolutely not tolerated. The one time she pooped her pants during the day I made her clean it. It was very traumatic for her, but she never did it again. I dont worry about it anymore. I dont buy pull ups or chase after them like a ninny asking if they have to go potty. They know that it is their responsibility. I have taught them what they need to know and I refuse to accept laziness.

You have a 17 month old (according to you profile, but here you say you have a two year old, there is a big difference between the two btw) and suddenly you are an expert on 4 year olds? Amazing.

I would never let my (gasp!) 3 year old daughter clean up her own poop...that is unsanitary for one thing, and it's just over the top for another. My daughter did that once, and I had her watch me clean it up, and I put in her potty and then I flushed it down the toilet. Guess what? She pooped in her potty the very next day and has never gone back. I didn't have to traumatize her by making her clean up feces...she was 2 at the time, yeah, TWO YEARS OLD. They aren't poop cleaners...WE are the poop cleaners.

You sound like you like to rule by fear..."absolutely not tolerated"..."knows exactly what her limits are"..."refusing to do anything is not an option"..."there should be no tolerance"..."She is in control"..."they know that it is their responsibility"..."I refuse to accept laziness"...

I don't even think toddlers are CAPABLE of "laziness"...you are what I call a "scary parent"...your kid will learn to hide things from you because they are afraid, not trusting.

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May 7, 2007, 2:02 pm PDT

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You have a 17 month old (according to you profile, but here you say you have a two year old, there is a big difference between the two btw) and suddenly you are an expert on 4 year olds? Amazing.

I would never let my (gasp!) 3 year old daughter clean up her own poop...that is unsanitary for one thing, and it's just over the top for another. My daughter did that once, and I had her watch me clean it up, and I put in her potty and then I flushed it down the toilet. Guess what? She pooped in her potty the very next day and has never gone back. I didn't have to traumatize her by making her clean up feces...she was 2 at the time, yeah, TWO YEARS OLD. They aren't poop cleaners...WE are the poop cleaners.

You sound like you like to rule by fear..."absolutely not tolerated"..."knows exactly what her limits are"..."refusing to do anything is not an option"..."there should be no tolerance"..."She is in control"..."they know that it is their responsibility"..."I refuse to accept laziness"...

I don't even think toddlers are CAPABLE of "laziness"...you are what I call a "scary parent"...your kid will learn to hide things from you because they are afraid, not trusting.

i totally agree to you, letting your kids clean up their own poop is really awfull. they didn't have to do it when they wore diapers, and just because their mom wants them to get potty trained, they suddenly have to clean it up themselves, when they probably can't even totally control it!!!!

you should be consistent, but do it with a lot of love, and let your children know it.

i wouldn't want to be one of her kids, thank god i had better parents

for every kid that doesn't want to get potty trained right now, my advice for the parents is, just wait untill the summer, make sure the kids know that you'll help them get potty trained, but don't push it, because they might start resisting if you push too much. maybe when it gets hot, they want to get out of that diaper, and into much cooler panties. you could let them try it on a very hot day, like an hour without a diaper, so they'll see it feels better, and then just wait, and see.

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May 14, 2007, 9:15 pm PDT

Potty training 2 year old boy

Hey I am soo trying to potty train my son. He is so much harder than my daughter. Sometimes he shows interest and sometimes he says "No I mam's baby-diaper" then there are days he says " I am mama' s bigboy-potty"

Why the mixed signals and what do I do about them? Do I push or let him decide?

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May 22, 2007, 3:33 pm PDT

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Hey I am soo trying to potty train my son. He is so much harder than my daughter. Sometimes he shows interest and sometimes he says "No I mam's baby-diaper" then there are days he says " I am mama' s bigboy-potty"

Why the mixed signals and what do I do about them? Do I push or let him decide?

I gotta say, I am a HUGE fan of just letting kids decide when they are ready. I didn't push my daughter....and I let her take her time with it. She's 3 now and 95% potty trained. I don't trust her still on long shopping trips or long car rides to tell me that she has to go, so I bring extra clothes or I just put her in a diaper. I was never in a mad dash to the potty training finish line...I actually enjoyed diaper change time...seemed like a close bonding moment to me (not the poop and pee exactly) but cleaning her and the fresh diaper and sitting on the floor with her...anyway...that's just me. I was pretty laid back about the whole thing.

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May 22, 2007, 7:53 pm PDT

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I am being as consistent as i can: She wears underwear all day, pull ups at night, I ignore accidents and reward success. I don't believe in shaming a child but yes, she has spent plenty of time in wet pants at the store, park, zoo, you name it. And this has been going on for a year. So you tell me when these wet pants might start to bother her. Don't worry you didn't offend but you might want to be more careful about the words you choose. Judging people and thier parenting when you don't even know them. Don't you think people come to this board when they just don't know what else to do? If we could all only be so lucky to have children as perfect as yours!

My son is only two and half. I've started potty training with him and I'm already annoyed and frustrated. I don't know if I just don't have any patience, but I just don't understand why it's so difficult. I am trying to be patient and give him time and wait until he's "ready". But that is A LOT easier said than done. It is literally holding him back at his daycare. He can't move onto the next class until he gets potty trained.

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May 23, 2007, 10:21 am PDT

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My son is only two and half. I've started potty training with him and I'm already annoyed and frustrated. I don't know if I just don't have any patience, but I just don't understand why it's so difficult. I am trying to be patient and give him time and wait until he's "ready". But that is A LOT easier said than done. It is literally holding him back at his daycare. He can't move onto the next class until he gets potty trained.

Some kids aren't ready until they are 3. His life won't be damaged if he has to wait back at daycare.

But I think sometimes it's hard for us parents to look at kids as kids...we project our adult minds onto them. Using a potty is a very complicated to a tiny child mind. They have to learn how to feel when they need to go, they have to learn to feel it early enough. They have to wrap their mind around the concept of a huge monumental change from everything they have ever known. I just try to spend much of my time thinking as my daughter would, it makes me much less frustrated.

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May 23, 2007, 10:33 am PDT

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Has anybody had this problem with potty training.My older boys were alot easier but my 3 yer old daughter is totally different and strong willed child. One major problem is she wets her panties like every few minutes.She had open heart sugery 1 1/2 years ago to reconstruct her heart and repair a hole in it.As a result of this surgery she was on some medicine that makes her urinate to prevent fluid build up and blood thinners.I asked her pediatrician about her urinating every 5 minutes nd he said that even though she is no longer on this medicine it could take up to a year for evrything to be out of her system.Well over a year and we still have same problem but he just says to be patient and keep working with her.In addition to this problem like I said she is strong willed and hs dugg her heels in and refuses to go.I keep taking her to the toilet every 15 minutes.But she still pees in her panties.I have done stickers, candy,teaching baby doll, and singing,and noise makers.Any advice would be appreciated.

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May 23, 2007, 6:29 pm PDT

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Wow, I can't believe it she is 4 and not potty trained my goodness. I seems to me you are to lenient on her getting her way all the time. I don't mean to offend in any way but 4 years old come on. She doesn't need any therapy you need to be consistant on what you do. I have hree daughters the oldest is 2 and was potty trained at 18 months and the twins are now 18 months are I have started potty training. They now understand what pipi and CACA (Poop) is and are starting to understand it is not riht to use it on there undies. I get them on panties when i get home from work and I am constantly asking if they want to pipi and taking them to the potty every 15 minutes until the pipi (urine) is in the potty. piecs of chocolate as a reward if they do and nothing if they don't.

Your daughter is now 4 years old take her to the potty make her see that she is old enough and how she feels to be in diapers and the other kids in undies. but be consistent. Have you taken her to the store with her pants wet and tell her how everybody is looking at her wet. Just have patience and Consistent if you notice she is needing to go to the rest room take her don't let her run over you and get her way. Kids are very smart and can get you you trained if you are not as stubborn as they are.

Don't give up and keep at it Good Luck!

It worries me that you would suggest shaming your child. Is this a form of discipline for you? I can tell you that I grew up being shamed and it is not going to have a positive effect in the long run. It took a lot of work and therapists to help me see that my fear of people not liking me or the way I look was the result of harsh (and unnecessary) criticism from my mother. There are so many other ways to train your child to use the toilet. I hope the woman with the untrained 4 year old was not hurt by your critique, but I was shocked.

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