I want to warn you taking it to slow is also possible. My friend who grew up in a place of the Netherlands where most are devoted Christians. She has told me stories about those same teens and tweens that got married at an earlie age because they didn't want to have sex before marriage. When they then had sex they found themselves incompattible and got devorced not long after.
You take it one step further and not even kiss though I don't want to force you I do want you to rethink your decission, whatever the outcome. Kissing is something I never heard about being forbidden, maybe because in roman times it was even more common then it is now. But still a kiss is something very personal which you share with another person it is something which makes you feel connected... or... not. Not kissing right is a real turn of for both men and women.
What if your partner isn't right for you kissingwise? You may not think a big deal of it but I think a good kiss is even more important then good sex. Sex is nothing more then sport with a bit of pleasure mostly at the end (unless you do it with the right person at the right time etc.) but the kiss can make it special... or... not.
Besides where are you gonna find a man who is willing not to kiss untill marriage? He want's to show you he loves you he wants to connect with you and a hug or a carress can only do so much. I think that not kissing might make you inavailable for any man, or woman whatever you prefer.
Now some Biology Sociology and Psychology. The topic learning. The Homo Sapiens is a specie which has the capabillity to learn just as our ancesters had before us. The way we learn is as follows we observe and we imitate, we fail and try again untill we succeed.
Babies don´t just walk they start with learning they have limbs which they can controll then they learn to control them they sit upright then start crawling after that they´ll pull themself up so they can stand and only then they´ll start walking wobbly at first strong and confident later on.
If you do not learn to have relationships then you cannot maintain them, I´m sorry but life´s no fairytale, there is no prince on the white horse you´ll meet and everything is ok. But relationships need work. As with any work you need to know how you need to use the tools if you want to make money (or love ;-) )
Now for some history. I would like to explain where this rule no sex before marriage comes from. in ancient times you did not have children, or at least they werren't seen as such, they where mini adults working like adults as soon as they could. and got children as soon as they could. It wasn't uncommen that they married at age 12 when puberty set in. So they married when they where biologicly ripe for having children.
Only when people got richer they had the time and money to see children as such. So boundries where pushed back more and more so that now we live in a civilization where we don't marry untill they are over twenty years old but there hormones say they want sex at age 15 or 16. artificcialy we keep this a bit later at 17 but marriage isn't realistic anymore.
Though the way it was isn't good either children now aren't ready for sex at age 12 because we imform them at their level rather then letting them in on all aspects of life (egyptians for instance encouraged teens to have sex with each other so they could practice for marriage)
I'm not saying you should give it up, as long as you believe it is right it is okay by me but I'm just making sure you know the whole story and I want to make sure that you make an informed decision and hopefully be a little bit less strict (go out and kiss, it's truly great!!!)
Don't worry you'll regret it, I remember my first kiss like it was yesterday and even though she isn't my girlfriend anymore and that technicly I sucked at it (no pun intended) I still feel it was like heaven. The only regret I have is that I didn't do it sooner .
I hope I didn't ramble on to much, but I think that you should live as a teen and feel free for those years that you can.
