Topic : Teen Dating

I am a single mom, of a 15 year old daughter.  Recently, my daughter has gotten a senior for a boyfriend.  He's 17.  He drives.   

I have a problem with my daughter driving with a 17 year old.  I have been in several accidents, and want to avoid the teen/teen driving thing for as long as I can.  I've heard statistics that recommend that teens should not drive together.  However, as I thought that was my problem, I've found out that it isn't the only one.   

Before my daughter was able to go anywhere with the new boy, I insisted he come over to meet me.  Even though she didn't think that was necessary, I stood my ground for once.  He seems nice.  I the two of them alone in the living room, so that they could have at least a little privacy (at the request of my daughter).  When I came back in the room, he was sitting the couch, and she was laying across him, watching tv.  The next time I came in, all the lights were off, and I saw them both scramble and jump up from the couch as I walked in.  I was furious, but waited till the boy left before confronting my daughter.  I told her it was inappropriate and she was disrespecting me in my house.  I told her that I know I won't be able to watch her 24/7, but when she's in the house she needs to respect me.   I wanted to flip out because I find it totally wrong and disgusting, and I know that's unreasonable, but as a mother, that's how I felt.  I am trying to deal with this reality though.  So, even after telling her this, the next time he comes over, she goes in her room with him,  Again, it's highly unappropriate and unacceptable so I'm asking for advice.  How should I explain to her that it is unacceptable, and how can I enforce this rule, without making her never want to spend time here?  I would much rather have her here than at his house, where I have no idea if there's any type of supervision.  HELP!!  I want the right words, because I seem to always SCREAM my way through these problems and I'm sure that's just driving her away. 

THANK YOU!! 

I am a single mom, of a 15 year old daughter.  Recently, my daughter has gotten a senior for a boyfriend.  He's 17.  He drives.   

I have a problem with my daughter driving with a 17 year old.  I have been in several accidents, and want to avoid the teen/teen driving thing for as long as I can.  I've heard statistics that recommend that teens should not drive together.  However, as I thought that was my problem, I've found out that it isn't the only one.   

Before my daughter was able to go anywhere with the new boy, I insisted he come over to meet me.  Even though she didn't think that was necessary, I stood my ground for once.  He seems nice.  I the two of them alone in the living room, so that they could have at least a little privacy (at the request of my daughter).  When I came back in the room, he was sitting the couch, and she was laying across him, watching tv.  The next time I came in, all the lights were off, and I saw them both scramble and jump up from the couch as I walked in.  I was furious, but waited till the boy left before confronting my daughter.  I told her it was inappropriate and she was disrespecting me in my house.  I told her that I know I won't be able to watch her 24/7, but when she's in the house she needs to respect me.   I wanted to flip out because I find it totally wrong and disgusting, and I know that's unreasonable, but as a mother, that's how I felt.  I am trying to deal with this reality though.  So, even after telling her this, the next time he comes over, she goes in her room with him,  Again, it's highly unappropriate and unacceptable so I'm asking for advice.  How should I explain to her that it is unacceptable, and how can I enforce this rule, without making her never want to spend time here?  I would much rather have her here than at his house, where I have no idea if there's any type of supervision.  HELP!!  I want the right words, because I seem to always SCREAM my way through these problems and I'm sure that's just driving her away. 

THANK YOU!! 

 I just felt like replying to the main topic on dating with teens.
I'm soon to be 19 in about 4 months. I think that you kind of just need to let teenagers do their own thing, if you set a "certain age limit" on your teen then they'll just feel like being a rebel and go behind your back and date anyway.
I was told by my grandparents (i never lived with my parents until now) that i wasn't allowed to date until i was sixteen. Of course i didnt listen, i dated a few guys, met my "first love" when i was 15 and lost my virginity.
The point of me bringing up virginity and age...all goes to the fact that teenagers will do what they do, and what they want, especially if they really want to date and parents say no, or not unitl you are this old. They will go behind your back and date anyway, which will obviously lead to further things, the most you could do is just trust your child, give them the "alright you can date" but set a lot of rules and they'll definitely follow those as opposed to not being able to date at all, and they'll see it as, well they trust me to date so i'll definitely do what i'm told so i can date. if they make mistakes get heartbroken, be there for them, tell them to talk to you about anything, and even if they do mess up and do something you really dont aprove of, dont scream and holler at them but help them through it, it's one of those things they need to learn on their own, and will probably stop at nothing just to date and of course something is bound to happen....but at least you will be there when it does.
Start off by mentioning group dates , especially if you really dont want your child to date yet or at least just your son/daughter and their "significant other", nothing ever happens on group dates  but the group of kids having fun... joking, watching movies, eating at a resturaunt or what not, when there's a group of people it's easier for everybody to not be shy, they become closer friends and nothing can go wrong when there are many people together such as "comfort levels" being tested.