Quote From: randi08okay, i see where you are coming from, but then again your daughter has to learn somehow. Invasion of privacy is only going to push your daughter away, telling her what she can't do is just going to make her want to do it more. Your her parent for life i know but once shes 18, she can do whatever she wants to do. You want to teach your daughter to be a strong, independent young lady and by looking at her myspace or invading her privacy isn't the way to go....trust me.....i know.....! the best mistakes in life are the ones you make but learn from......you can't live life without making anymistakes, because your not perfect......and it sounds to me that your daughter has no where to breathe no one to talk to.....but you say your not "invading" her privacy when you check her myspace but hunny, checking anything of your daughters that she doesn't want you to look at is invasion of privacy....loosen the reins and let her be a teenager or a young girl.....you only live once....and if your a good parent, you don't want your daughter to have any regrets in life....trust me i've been there and i've done that!
Perhaps you misunderstood, or maybe I wasn’t clear, but regarding my daughter’s myspace account- she has it set to ‘private’ and the only way I can see it is to be on her list of friends, so she knows that I check it from time to time. I see this from a different perspective, I guess, because my daughter has shown me that she has nothing to hide, that she could care less if I see her myspace page- after all, the rest of the world could see it if they wanted to, why can’t I?
I agree that learning from our own mistakes is valuable life experience; however, it isn’t the only way to learn what not to do- if you look around, you also can learn from other people’s mistakes.
My daughter has proven to me that she is trustworthy by being where she says she will be, and doing what she says she is doing, etc., and that couldn’t happen if the ‘reins’ were too tight. There have been times in the past when she wasn’t honest, and from those mistakes she has learned dishonesty only makes life harder. When she has made a mistake like that, she has a consequence and then we start over, building trust with each other. I feel that she has to trust me, too- trust that I won’t tell her secrets, trust that I will support her always. She wants to do well in life, and she has a lot planned out for her future. I have trust in her, but that doesn’t mean she is mature enough to always make the right decision, its just impossible. We’re not talking about saying something inappropriate on myspace, that doesn’t really phase me, I’m talking about giving out any identifying information, etc., things that a pedophile could take notice of- that’s what I am looking for. Do you still think that is suffocating her?
