Topic : Teens and Sex

uuuhhh...yeah they are gay...

and WHO CARES???!!!!

what's wrong with being gay, lesbian, bi, it doesnt make her a bad person

Well there are four possibilities:

First she's straight: In todays (youth) culture it is considdered 'hot' if two woman kiss (as opposed to boys for whom it's gross) I know some woman even go as far as kissing each other to get interrest from the other sex. In this environment it is easy/easier to experiment for once.

Seccond she's Bisexual: She might like boys aswell but fancies a girl every so often.

Third: She is gay, this is about the time people tend to come out since this is the first time they have sex (between 16 and 17 lies the average) but some come out well after their 40's

Fourth: She doesn't know yet, she might feel something for either sex but doesn't know what exactly, in this case all she needs is time and support.

Ofcourse it is allways important to support your daughter whatever she turns out to be. (I'm avoiding the word choice becuase sexuality is something you have and can be influenced from outside but it is defenetly NOT a choice)

I don't think that you need to offer her proffessional support because it is not an illness only if she feels depressed or comes with it herself it is important to talk to a professional.

As for no sleep overs: teens can do 'it' when your to a grocery store or at school or in an allyway or in a car or in a field or ... (you get the point) so don't expect it to have much effect if they really want it they will. And the no boys over rule again here it happens all of the time if they don't want anything to happen nothing will if they do it will regardless of either of those rules.

My son (16 yrs.) told me he was gay 2 yrs ago. My ex won't talk to him and now I'm finding he is looking for father figures on line or anywhere else.  It is scaring the tar out of me. He has no friends at school, at least from what I can see. We moved to another state this summer to be closer to my older daughter. Thought we could use a new start after the divorce. Its just him and me. My ex has my daughter that he will not let me see. My son has no contact with my ex at all. He has been to counclers and was in hospital a few months ago for depression. He is now on medication and doing better in school. I love him and he says he is fine. He just needs time. I don't know how to deal with all of what is going on. I don't date because I'm afraid of other men judging him. I just feel so alone.

Its hard to let go, but sometimes you just have to trust your kids and what you've taught them. What your daughter does IN your home goes by your rules, but what she does OUTSIDE is something else. At 18 its hard to put a curfew, but she does needs to come home at night. Thats where trust comes in. You could explain that she could tell you where she is, not because you want to know, but because you need to know. Just for your own peace of mind. I'm sure she is all ready on birth control, so right now you should guide not demand. Your not in the dark ages, your just a mom that loves her daughter.

Well it just isn't easy being different from everyone else you might want to get him in touch with gay support groups which can help him fit in somewhere. (here we have the coc but that is in the netherlands so not helpfull for you)

Btw don't worry that everyone there will jump the "fresh meat" they form the same relationships as hetrosexuals. It is a fear I sometimes sense especcially in men that a gay man will try to jump him  or fall in love with him I guess just as any woman want's him (sorry for the irony but I just needed to make that point)