Topic : Teens and Sex

Well birth control would at this point give the wrong impression I think, more or less you would say go ahead and do it, it also doesn't protect against HIV and other STD's so it is not an ideal solution. But do do the education talk with her about the pleasures of sex when you should begin with it and that you should always where protection and why. 

Now about the boy: What you should do is indeed let them only come over to your house because there you know they won't have sex. and you indeed watch them but don't let em know you watch them read a book, cook or something even though you then won't be able to see them for a hunderd percent you know that nothing will go on. You can also leave the room for a few seconds or a minute because boys are quick but not thát quick. 

If they kiss it is not a problem, kissing and boyfriends starts around 13y (based on the experience from me and my surroundings)  

Then also talk (at a different time let's say a week apart over the time she had had sex) Then also talk to her in an adult way and give VALID arguments why you think she should wait with having sex (and don't say till she's married because that is a utopia) and why it is a really special thing. but do not forget to hear her side of the story why she did it but also how it felt. And let her talk till she's finished, this wil make her more open towards your arguments.  

And make sure that you take the time for the conversation, sit down with her and make sure she understands where you are going to talk aboutand why (express your concerns towards her) hear her side first and when she is finished you give her your side but all in a calm manner so she wont think "whatever" and at the end of the conversation make sure she knows it's the end (but dont cut the conversation short) and continue with whatever you are doing. 

Again back to the boy: 

How old is he? I mean an age difference between 13 and 16 would be a huge age difference, while 14 and 17 might be alright. I say this because 16 and 17 year old are emotionally ready to have sex a 13 or 14 year ol does not but a 14 year old has a better defense against pushy boys. Remember that when your in puberty your body makes rapid changes so a year makes a lot of difference. So if there is a large age difference you might want to confront that boy why he goes out with such a young girl. I myself wouldn't go out (at age 16)with a girl who was more than two years younger or older, because age is a lot of difference in puberty. At age 17 it became 3 years older younger and at the moment it still is (no I'm not a parent though an adult but I do have a strong opinion on matters like this) 

I'm new to the message boards...so bare with me! I have an idea for a form of birth control and I wanted to get some opinions on it...I am a stay at home mom with two daughters, one six years and one 9 months. The other night while my nine month old was crying through out the night (She's teething) I thought to myself..."I bet Abby won't want children for a long time after going through all these loud nights!" Once I got the baby settled, I couldn't get back to sleep. So, I started thinking...I should record Emma crying over and over and over again and sell it to parents to play to their teenage daughters while they're in a deep sleep to encourage birth control, or possibly abstinence!! What do you think? Would you buy it? I'm certainly not a "Business Woman", but as a stay at home mom, the extra money would be wonderful!!! Any suggestions? 

I appreciate any responses!!  

Thanks in advance! 

Raegan 

Well though it seems a good approach it won't work: Simply because teens do not always oversee the consequences of having sex (depending on their age) and second it wouldn't take away the problem which is unsafe sex so the only proper solution is good sex education from an early age (see posts below.) 

I wont say you won't make any money off of it but it won't work, maybe even be harmfull to the teen (it is a form of brainwashing having played the cries over and over again which will result into sleepdeprevation.) 

I don't  no, I know I wouldn't have minded if that was asked taken by surprise yes but wouldn't mind it. But again you don't want to be the angry mom that tactic will backfire (remember yourself as a teen how many times didn't you think "whatever") Also avoid that you're daughter is around at the time but discuss it with her first and give arguments why you do what you do. And again be sure to be resonable he may be 14 but he does have an opinion. 

But I don't know if it is touching/feeling that is necesarrely going on think about how you would've dealt if you're mom walked in while kissing wound't you stop doing it as fast as you could, pretending nothing was going on? And if it is above clothes it might not be that bad but just normal you cudle/couress aswell with your parter right? but don't put away your feelings completly keep an eye open and notice if something different is up, then you can always take more extreme actions.