Quote From: msfitmom50I really would appreciate advice about this.
My son is 15 and frequents a lot of porn web sites. I just confirmed this tonight when I made him show me the history on his web surfer software. He bought the computer for himself a couple of years ago with money he earned from a summer job, so just like not opening his mail, I let him have his privacy with his computer.
When he was younger, about 7-12, he had gotten into a nasty habit of stealing his sister's underwear, wearing them and soiling them, then hiding them. I was baffled for years and my daughter (who is 3 years older) was convinced it was him.
One day I found the stash of dirty underwear... and a video tape that he had secretly made of my daughter getting ready for bed over a few nights. I made him erase the tape and banned him from TV for a few weeks, put a lock on my daughter's door, and tryed talking to him. He was angry with me He hated me He denied having a problem He promised he would never do it again...
Daughter was gone for a year, just returned. She suspected that he was wearing her underwear again, which is when I confronted my son and found out about the porn and again told him that porn encourages disrespect of women and that sneaking into his sister's room and wearing her underwear indicated a problem with sex and that I would like him to see a psychologist about the problem.
He denies he has one.
I am sick about this for both my kids. Please let me know what you think.
Hello,
Even though this such an old post, I thought I should still say my opinion for anyone who's reading.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with him watching porn. I'm 15 myself, and I started watching porn very early (like 11.) [Of course my mom doesn't know I watch]. I think I entered puberty too early, sense I got my period when I was 9 (I think girls start puberty when they get their period, don't mind me if I'm wrong). Being completely honest with you, I'm very reserved, respect people equally, and have my beliefs very clear in my head. I'm not interested in sex right now, nor do I plan on having sex in the next few years. Maybe in some good 5-8 years I will consider. I like to think I'm more mature than more teens my age (as you can see by my grammar) and I know that having sex is not good at this period of my life. Just in case it's important, my mom never gave me 'the talk.' I've learned all I know about sex by myself, reading books and some reliable medical sources on the internet. Of course, some common sense helps too. The point of this long paragraph is that porn doesn't make you disrespect anything or doesn't make you evil, in my opinion.
About your son wearing girl's underwear. I've (obviouly) never met someone like this, but I don't think it's a big issue. Even though it's a different kind of situation, I can relate to your son. Even though I watch porn, I have to interest what-so-ever in trying out sex. Even though I like to watch both straight and gay porn (men only), I don't consider myself bisexual. The point is, don't think that because he likes girls' underwear that he's a pervert of any sort. By the way, I don't consider being gay to be a perversion. Just in case that was important to clear out.
That's all I have to say for you. This is an old post, so an update of your situation would really be appreciated. I spend 45 minutes trying to find your original post, until I discovered that clicking on your username will drag me directly to it.
I wish the best of luck for you and your son.
Best wishes,
Nataly from Canada.
