Topic : Teens and Sex

I really think you should tell your husband in private to get the shock value out of the fact that his 13 year old is having sex.  Dad's just overreact to this because they are guys and know what guys want out of girls.  They also know the social implications with girls having sex this young.  So his worry and shock has validity to it.  But he has to handle it in private.  Whatever you do don't lie to him. This sends a clear message to your daughter that men are not to be trusted and you don't want to teach that to her.  She has a dad who loves her and has the right to know if she is becoming destructive with her own behavior.  If I were you I would be chaperoning you daughter with her friends at all times.  Teenage pregnancy is a very serious problems facing teens.  She is too young to have children.  I would sit down with your daughter, the boyfriend and his parents to discuss this.  This is the most mature way to handle it.  I would also give your daughter sex education and give her all of the facts about sexual activity.  Tell it to her very clinically and explain the difference between, emotinal sexuality and sex.  They are different.  I hope this helps.

WOW! Kids these days are having sex younger and younger. 13! that's unbelievable! 

  

There is something terribly wrong if your 13 yr old daughter is having sex at her age. The problem is paradoxical. The more you try to prevent it, she may have sex more out of rebellion, and if you allow it, she'll continue to have sex. There is no way of preventing a sexually active teen in a relationship from having sex. If you ground her, she'll run away and have sex. 

  

It's a real conundrum! 

  

There is nothing you can do to prevent sex, but make sure she and her boyfriend use protection and other things that protect against pregnancy and STDs. 

  

If she does get pregnant, she can always have an abortion. 

maybe he'll flip out, maybe he won't 

  

I had to tell my extremely anti-drug parents that I was a drug addict and it didnt turn out to be so bad. Im in councelling now and have been clean for 22 days now 

  

This is sort of similar to your predicament. 

  

You have to tell your husband sooner or later, because the truth will come up 

If there is one thing I learned from my experiences as a drug addict "THE PARENTS WILL ALWAYS FIND OUT." 

Hello 

  

My name is Tracy I have a 13 yr old daughter. We found out this past yr she was having sex we put her on the pill then she kept forgetting to take it so then we decide to get her the shot birthcontrol we were in the process of all this and then it happened we found out 3 wks ago she pregnant and 13 and only in the 8th grade. She wants to keep the baby this is so hard to figure what the right thing to do is. 

  

  

                                              Thank you- Tracy 

You SHOULD NOT be allowing your child to have sex at such a young age. You cannot rely on her being responsible enough to remember to take her birth control pills. You should have educated her on the dangers of unprotected sex and promiscuosity at such a young age. Pregnancy, STDs its all out there and its all dangerous. 

  

Education, discipline, and re-inforcement is the key 

  

She should NOT keep the baby because you, will end up looking after it, not your daughter. Tell your daughter that she needs to grow up first, and at least get married before having a child of her own. If she wants what is best for the baby, she should not keep it.

Tracy, I am an 18 year old who is 34 weeks pregnant, I will be graduating in May and although I know I will have a tough time raising my baby, going to school and working part-time I never thought of giving my baby up, NO way. Its hard for teens now a days, I started having sex at 14, my mom was very strict and always trying to keep me on track but sometimes these things happen. I am sure everything will be fine, just make sure you support her and encourage her to finish school and go to college. Obviously you will have to help her, but I am sure she will gain some responsibility with this child and realize she is a mother now with responsibilities.  

The father of my baby is living in another city trying to finish career training and although we stress tremendously, every day, over money, where we'll live, etc.. we couldn't be happier and more greatful that we will soon have this baby.   

Many people will judge you and your daughter but nothing and no one in the world will make you regret this little miracle. This is ultimately your daughter's and family's decision but remember don't make a decision that you'll end up regreting, don't let social opinions get in your way of loving this baby.  

Congradulations to you and your daughter and I wish you the best with whatever decision you make.  

before i begin, let me start by saying im from the neatherlands, europe , so my english could contain some serious grammar mistakes.  

  

i can imagine that it was a shock at first. you don't suspect that your twelve year old son and his friend do these kind of sexual acts.
 

i do understand that you would want to talk to him about it, but i don't think you should have asumed that you would get an honist answer.  the e-mail really isnt any real good proof.  dont think that this is the alternative route for him because girls aren't ready for those things in his environment and at his age. these are clearly, as the others allready said just excuses to not receive any punishments or to avoid a difficult conversation and to make thinks ok.  

  

dont make all those hard decissions of punishments. just give him the proper knowlege of being hetro and/or homosexual. and just let him be free. it isnt something like a sin.  

  

i wish you the best. 

  

byebye. felicia. 

  

Tracy, I am an 18 year old who is 34 weeks pregnant, I will be graduating in May and although I know I will have a tough time raising my baby, going to school and working part-time I never thought of giving my baby up, NO way. Its hard for teens now a days, I started having sex at 14, my mom was very strict and always trying to keep me on track but sometimes these things happen. I am sure everything will be fine, just make sure you support her and encourage her to finish school and go to college. Obviously you will have to help her, but I am sure she will gain some responsibility with this child and realize she is a mother now with responsibilities.   

The father of my baby is living in another city trying to finish career training and although we stress tremendously, every day, over money, where we'll live, etc.. we couldn't be happier and more greatful that we will soon have this baby.    

Many people will judge you and your daughter but nothing and no one in the world will make you regret this little miracle. This is ultimately your daughter's and family's decision but remember don't make a decision that you'll end up regreting, don't let social opinions get in your way of loving this baby.   

Congradulations to you and your daughter and I wish you the best with whatever decision you make.  

Have fun staying up 24 hrs of the day trying trying desparately to juggle the responsiblities of school, working part time and looking after a demanding child. It is a rough job, and at 18 you could be enjoying your life. Enjoy your teenage years while you still have them. 

  

I'm not criticizing, I'm just stating my honest opinion. You do what you want, but expect to be up all hours of the night with a screaming baby, while your trying to make ends meet on a part-time job while studying for tests and exams. 

How on Earth is she having sex?  Why is she left alone with boys?  KNOWING she was having sex you still let her be alone with boys?  

  

She can't remember to take a pill, let alone take care of a baby.