Topic : Teens and Sex

Well in the last paragraph you've probably answered why you dream about your daughter coming onto you. You are busy with her and her boyfirends during the day so this comes back in your dreams. Dreams are how your brain processes the information it got during the day.

I can inmagine you want your daughter to stay litlle for ever but you do need to get used to her being loved by others aswell.

For the dreams that you die in it indeed is strange that you actually die in your dream. Most people wake up just before they die since the brain can't handle processing it's own death. I can't really say why you do die in your dreams. On a far leap it might be that you once almost died?

As for changing the outcome that takes practice. First you need to remember your dreams. To maximize the chance of you remembering the dream you need to wake up on your own (no alarmclock for instance) and when you are awake just lay with your eyes closed still and with a bit of luck you will remember your dream.

Then when you remember your dream start altering it fantasize about it how will it be more what you want. Try practising on "good dreams" aswell.

There are more methods of controlling your dream but this is the only one I remember and use myself when I have had a bad dream. (or a good one that I don't want to end just yet.)

The diffeculty with altering dreams is that you need to be awake enough to be able to alter your dream but asleep enough to still be dreaming.

Wow jeez you really had a bad first experience with boys, but not all boys are this way most do know how to behave properly. He was just an *ss.

I'm not saying you have no right to feel how you feel however, it is understandable that if something like this happens that you start feeling the way you feel. But don't let him ruin your life either, he is not worth it to stop you from experiencing the pleasures of a relationship with boys that are truely interrested in you.

I suggest that you write your feelings about boys and him in particular in a letter so you know for yourself what you exactly feel and for whom and what your scared of. this might help yourself getting insight in what you feel so that you are able to deal with those feelings. After you've done this and reread the letter a couple of times burn the letter as a symbolic gesture of burning the negative thoughts.

It might help a bit so that you feel free enough to start liking guys again and then you can hopefully see that there are good guys in your neighbourhood. Just listen to your body it will tell you how far you dare and want to go, don't go any further then you want to. There is no need to rush things your still young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. You are the only one who can push yourself so just don't. Explore is the word only go there when you dare to go there.

Good luck, Oet Gäöl

I live in the UK with my husband son aged 16 and daughter 15.  My son spends a lot of time on the computer and I have been checking to see what he has been doing.  I found out a 30 year old woman in the US has become very friendly with him on a forum.  And she says she and he are in love and planning to live together when he becomes 18 and moves to the US.  I understand from the conversation log they are getting naked on the webcams in front of each other.  I need help.  I am very worried what this could lead to.  I have hid his passport!  In the UK aged 16 is the age of consent, is it different in the US and can I warn her off him by quoting anything in particular i.e. child predator?

I'm personally more concerned with the naked on the webcam then with him travelling! Those pictures can be recorded and sent out over the web unfortuinatly many people want to see underage boys and girls getting naked on the webcam. He wouldn't be the first to get on the web that way!

If she is recording it it is child pornography by the way and therefore illegal (that is only legal from age 18) She doesn't have to be who she says she is either webcam feeds can be manipulated and don't have to be live feeds. So be warned!

He will not travel to the US that easily since that costs money and a lot of it, (app P350 or E726) so that will take some saving presumably.

As for US law I can't help you since I'm only across the channel since I live in the Netherlands.

Maybe you should talk to him and make sure he is aware of the fact that she doesn't have to be who she says she is and that he can wind up on the internet for all to see. Also try to explain that 14y is a lot of age difference and that he should be aware of that. How you want to handle this I don't know it is a tricky conversation at best

Good luck,

Oet Gäöl

ashly first

im a guy and have a girl your age as ya may have seen. I am gonna give some advice to you take it as you wish. not all guys are bad and the ones you may think are bad may not be so, some guys cant controle their actions as of attraction. it is some what strange this guy would go for you then after rejection go to your friend he  apearntly dosnt care for  you or her. we know what he wants and the bottom line is guys like that are all over they arnt bad there just dumb and horny. best advice IGNORE him and warn friends of his intentions. you dont need to fixate on him or other guys that look or say stuff. boys and men will do it always not all of us but some will and remember keep an eye out for them since they want one thing, wich is not the right thing.

mother from UK

i got some advice you can attempt to block the woman from your pm and email if you want to go that far. I think it may just be a perverted woman wrapped up in a fantasy in cyberspace, hopefully your son notices shes mile and miles away, has a job and has a life outside the pc possibly even other lovers outside cyberspace and on. just set him straight reality and fiction, internet love is just that. theses words are a paradox coming from me but I really dont think its true love. A few ? though. 

how long do they talk?

how often?

and do they call one another by phone?

if  they seem really in deapth with one another cut it off asap predators take advantage of navie people and spoon feed lies to get what they want, you need to protect him from that type of munipulation. as of reporting ask the local police and see what they think but dont let your son know he may retaliat in an extream way.

why aren't all guys different.

Why are they all after the same thing?

Sex?

-Theresa

maybe you wan't to be a bit more specific? You don't just say this but you probably say this because you've been hurt somtime? what happened?

xx

Oet Gäöl