Quote From: flmarijanePlease help me. I am the single mom of a 17 year old girl. The first week of summer a boy down the street came to the house and started talking to her. He told her he was 19, I felt like he was a little too old for her, but she really liked him and all they were doing was talking in the yard at my house or his parents. To make a long story short he isn't 19, he's 23! My 25 year old son found out and went to his parents home and told them to keep this man away from his sister!! My daughter was heart broken, didn't eat or sleep for days. Mad at me, mad at her brother, and mad at the world. He soon disappeared from his parents home and she convinced herself he was living in a box somewhere. This went on for 2 months, Wednesday night on a routine walk she ran into him. He was doing a neighbors yard, he no longer lives with his parents but has moved in with a friend and his mom. There is a reason men aren't suppose to be with young girls, my daughter is so hungry for the attention of the man she won't listen to me anymore. He said things to her a boy can't equal. He made a few attempts to kiss her in the past and always wanted to hug her. The kissing never happened but recently she confided in me she wishes it had.This is a girl I have had no trouble with in the past. At this very moment I don't even know where she is...but I have a good guess. What do I do? This man is not a good influence. Did I add she is a virgin and he isn't. He has no job and gets high....I am so inexperienced in anything like this. Do I just listen to her when she wants to talk but not inter fear? I'm afraid if I stop her, I'll lose her!!!
Hi, I am 18 years old and live in Sweden. I guess you know that the Swedish and the American look at sex is very different, and it is very hard for me to understand why Americans are so afraid of their children having sex. Pregnancy, of course, but there are condoms, and I think that young kids are smart enough to use them..I don't know anyone that have sex without condoms or other birth controls. I don't understand either why the age difference is sych a big problem to you? I would have understood if he was 33, but 23? If your daughter is an adult, which most 17-year olds are, I think that she could handle it.
But I do understand that you don't like him because he uses drugs, and that's a big problem. Maybe you should tell the police? I understand that your daughter would get mad at you and think that she hates you, but it definetely would be worth it, and she would thank you when she's older and can look at things in a different way.
Well, I guess that's all I have to say. But I would like to know the thing I wrote first; why are Americans so afraid or their children having sex?? If they want it, and they use condoms or other birth controls; let them enjoy it!
Linda
