Topic : Troubled Teens

my son is 17, will be 18 in a week.  We have had major issues and fights with him.  he is very sexually active, meets girls on myspace, talks to them on cell phone, texting, and then goes to meet them and have sex.  well, tonight, although my son lives with his father, he was angry with his dad, so he comes to my house, dosent like my rules, so he goes back.  he told his father that he was going to see a friend in a certain community, his father called to see where he was and a police officer answered his phone and stated that he was caught parking and having sex with this girl he just met today.  they went to the girls house with the officer and the parents told him that he had best not ever show his face again.  during this time his father calls me and lets me know what happened.  he arrived home and his father tried to discuss what happened and of course mr. its not my fault smarted off, his father popped him on the face and the fight was on, my son kicked his father in the head with a steel toe boot, and my son got a bloody nose, then went to his fathers truck, busted his taillights, kicked the door and busted a side mirror.  he went to his grandparents house which is right in front of his fathers, and called me, with the pity me, i didnt do anything and dad attacked me, and you need to take my side story.  nobody loves me...etc.  my son races on sat nights has 2 cars, a truck his father gave him, cell phone...which his father took everything away, and states that all of it will be sold to pay for repairs.  my ex husband called the police after all this amd they told him that if my son comes around trying to start something they will put him in jail.  he has a previous charged from 3 years ago, which nothing ever happened with it, but it is on his record for 5 years, cause a little 12 yr old girl says he touched her.  he was not where he said he was gonna be and was riding a 4 wheeler when this happened, if he goes to jail, the state will press charges.  my son is adhd, odd, and just plain smart mouth.  he has went after his father with a axe, knives...etc.  his father is a very good parent, and my son was welcome at my home until he lived here a few weeks ago and i caught him having sex in my backyard with a girl he had just met...he knew he was in trouble and went back to his dads house.  I am out of ideas, he is out of control.  his father told him he can not live in his house any longer and my husband will not let him live here because of the disrespect, and the fact that if he dosent get his way, he will attack, verbally and physically.  He is at his grandparents house and his grandmother enables him, so it will not change.  I dont know what to do...my mother instinct says help him, but I cannot take being abused, and can not trust him.

My 17 yr old son and his dad are at it again.   Finally last night was the last straw. dad told son when he turns 18 he is throwing him out of the house.  Son baits dad, he takes the bait and yells back.   Son does not respect his dad AT ALL.  He says his dad does not deserve any.  Even hates just the sound of his voice.   causing uproar for me.   I am not choosing between them!  13 yr old daughter emotionally a wreck because of the fighting.   I am at my ends....  what to do?   They totally need a therapist.....

I'm new to the website, but I saw you're comment and immediately wanted to answer, even though It's such an old post.

 

If you're not ready to tell you're parents, I suggest going to an nutrition specialist, or at least a doctor, at first. That way you'll be able to talk to your parents with facts, and not the probably-exaggerared-and/or-uneducated ideas they have about people with bulimia. I also think that by learning the facts yourself, you can some strength (from knowing what's ahead of you). Plus,  You have privacy rights, so I think they wouldn't tell you're parents if you don't want to, or untilyou're ready.

 

Since this is an old post, would you mind giving me an update? Thanx ^^

 

I wish you the best of luck in the road that's ahead of you. Never give up!

 

P.S: I'm 16 too.  

 I'm new on this site, but your post caught my eye.

 It might sound harsh and out-of-line for me to say this but perhaps he should be sent to boot camp or let him be arrested.

It sounds to me that he has two upstanding parents and if he can't learn respect from you then he needs to be taught respect by those who enforce it and make him understand that it isn't right to do what he's been doing.

As for meeting girls on MySpace you should go onto his computer and block MySpace and put more restrictions on him.

As for his violent behavior towards your husband and yourself I think both he needs anger managment. If he won't go to counseling on his own perhpas get a court order, because then he can't defy it without dire consequences.

There are teen work programs that he can help him with his anger and at the same time he can help build homes for the needy. You can find additional info at http://www.projectme.info 

My son is 17,he lies about little things and big ones.Its getting to the point were i question in my mind every thing he says.What worries me,he finaly found a good friend,but his starting to tell this stories to him,and he called him on it.My son got real angry and left.I let him know that noone will believe him if he keeps up with hes lies.How can i help him