Hello, my son, is 16 and a good boy. However, last week he stold my car out of the driveway. My daughter had come to visit with her family and we had a family fishing trip scheduled for Sunday to celebrate Mother's Day a week late. My son has always pushed the envelope so to speak. Even though he had done the usual teen stuff (sneaking out, drinking, pot, and failing grades in a few classes). I thought if I gave him positive reinforcement he would start to believe in himself and stop his other actions. Well, about 6 months ago, my car had evidence that it had been wrecked. Because I had blinders on, I thought it was the result of my pulling over a curb/parking stop thing. I dismissed it. Now, I have sent my son to live with his DAD. He has the ability to be stronger and in his face. It hurts so much to think that I have told my son, he can't live here. But, I know that he is just playing the heart strings, when he says "I wanted to leave, but on my own terms". He is a very gifted athelete, and should be the all american kid. The strain of his behavior has put a tremendous threat to my relationship with what would be his step-father. I know my son, plays mind-games. His Dad was excellent at this. I want him to be home with me so much, but I know that he needs a stronger hand. My fiancee, doesn't feel like he can step in, because he has a father. It hurts so much that my son would choose to steel from me, and then be mad at me because I found out. His response to the issue was that he had a license.
When does it stop. I am so fearful, that if I hadn't made this choice I'd be identifying my son in the morge, because Georgia highways claim the lives of at least one teen a month. I love my son, and want to watch him grow, this issue has really caused a stain on my relationship with my fiancee.
Did I make the right choice???
Yes. you were not able to be firm with your son. You spoiled him, saying usual teen stuff is drinking, pot and failing classes. No it's not. If his father will get in his face for doing those things, you definitely made the right choice sending him to his father. Don't let him come back just so he can live with you and get away with doing whatever he wants. Let his father teach him to be a responsible man. Keep your relationship with your son on vacations and talk to him on the phone. Don't EVER let him live with you on a permanent basis again or he will be a alcoholic living in your house when he's 40. If you baby a 16 year old, you are crippling him for life.
