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Created on : Thursday, June 30, 2005, 01:39:02 pm
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Being able to stay home with your child can be very rewarding, but do you sometimes crave adult interaction? Chat with other SAHMs, share advice, support, tips, ideas, and enjoy a little break from the kids.

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April 25, 2006, 1:19 pm PDT

Stay At Home Moms

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 I have recently become a stay at home mom. I had no idea just how much work went into being at home. I am struggling to find a routine that works. My children are 4 and 15 mnths and my third baby is due in a weeks time. I am trying to juggle the kids and still do the household things and have realised that there is just not enough  time in the day. I am always picking up, packing away, washing up, cleaning up and I am don't know how important all of that is in the long run. Still I feel this pressure to at least have the house in order so it looks like I have actually done something during the day, something that can be seen. I know that I have been busy taking care of the kids but unlike when you work and the in basket is empty at the end of the day I feel that unless I have done everything around the house as well it may seem like I have been lazy. It drives me nuts!
You need to quit stressing. I think the the reason behind being a tay at home mom is to be the one raising and spending your time with your kids. I personally have learned that stressing over getting things done just isn't worth my time and effort. I would much whether enjoy my children then to get stressed.........Do what needs to be done and don't worry about the rest, so what if EVERYTHING doesn't get done in a day, I personally would much wheteher my children remebering me as a mom who spent time with them, enjoying them, interacting with them, the for them to see me stressed out and insecure all the time................Give your self some credit, you have two young children and one on the way and they need to be your top priority. One thing that might help though is to make your slef a list of things that NEED to be done done daily, a list that NEEDS to be done weekly and so forth and go from there, but whatever the case, don't stress, it isn't worth it. Concentrate on the needs of your family and the reasoning for being a stay at home mom. In my opinion, if you are always stressed and worried and working around the house, you might as well just put your kids in daycare because you wuldn't be doing them any good by keeping them home with you..............Sounds like you might be a bit overwhelmed at this point, prpeparing for the new little one, I say, sit down, take a deep breath, relax and play with your kids. Life is meant to be enjoyed, not stressed, I know it is easier said then done at times, I have been there but I am gradually learning that it is ME that makes my life stressful at times and I am learning that it is ok to let things go at times. :)
 
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April 26, 2006, 6:51 pm PDT

Good evening every one

Hope all is well with all of you. We have been keeping busy around here, it has been a good busy. of course been working on some home projects like reorganizing the basement and goin through stuff that needs to gotten rid of.........I have also been doing my scrapbooking during what little alone times I do get, hubby certainly is good in providing those times for me, I have an awesome hubby and my daughters have an awesome daddy. :).........Gonna go fold some laundry and get me something to eat, I skipped dinner today as we had a late lunch and now I am starving LOL.
 
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April 26, 2006, 7:52 pm PDT

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I'm so glad to hear about those great hubbies out there. I to have a great hubby and I hope I don't get bashed for saying this, but I think marriages are sometimes better when there's a sahm because we tend to be very "family oriented" and just as our children are a priority, so are our husbands.  

Out of all the woman I know that are not in cyber space, lol, none speak well of there husbands and I think it's sad to hear them talk. My husband is my best friend and I would never bash him to anyone.  

I feel left out in conversations with other woman, but I refuse to talk badly about my husband to "fit in". I tell them how wonderful he is and they just look at me and don't really say much.  

My family is everything to me and it's wonderful to hear others say the same.  

Sherri 

 
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April 26, 2006, 9:14 pm PDT

Hi Sherri

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I'm so glad to hear about those great hubbies out there. I to have a great hubby and I hope I don't get bashed for saying this, but I think marriages are sometimes better when there's a sahm because we tend to be very "family oriented" and just as our children are a priority, so are our husbands.  

Out of all the woman I know that are not in cyber space, lol, none speak well of there husbands and I think it's sad to hear them talk. My husband is my best friend and I would never bash him to anyone.  

I feel left out in conversations with other woman, but I refuse to talk badly about my husband to "fit in". I tell them how wonderful he is and they just look at me and don't really say much.  

My family is everything to me and it's wonderful to hear others say the same.  

Sherri 

I remember as a newlywed, a friend of mine mentioned to another girl that I and my hubby got along so well and the response to that was 'well, it won't last long" LOL, 13 years later, here we are still happily married. Sure, there have been a few rough spots here and there, but I could never imagine life with out my hubby.I too am a very family oriented person which is not like how I grew up and through all my life experiences and all, I have decided that being home with my children is the best thing I can do for them, I may never get voted as mother of the year or I may not meet others criteria as a mother but I am the the best mom and provider that my children can receive (even when there are days like yesterday when I think some on kidnapped my girls and replaced them with aliens LOL, the thought really did cross my mind LOLLLLL) But over all life is good here and this mommy is staying put :)
 
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April 26, 2006, 9:30 pm PDT

Stay At Home Moms

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I'm so glad to hear about those great hubbies out there. I to have a great hubby and I hope I don't get bashed for saying this, but I think marriages are sometimes better when there's a sahm because we tend to be very "family oriented" and just as our children are a priority, so are our husbands.  

Out of all the woman I know that are not in cyber space, lol, none speak well of there husbands and I think it's sad to hear them talk. My husband is my best friend and I would never bash him to anyone.  

I feel left out in conversations with other woman, but I refuse to talk badly about my husband to "fit in". I tell them how wonderful he is and they just look at me and don't really say much.  

My family is everything to me and it's wonderful to hear others say the same.  

Sherri 

Yes, my husband can be great as well.  I must say that there are some days though.......he drives me crazy!   

  

  I think those women that you are talking about that talk bad about their husbands are just being honest.  Or maybe they were having a bad day?  I don't talk bad about my husband because I don't feel that I need to.  I mean, he's 23 years old, has a good steady job and takes care of his family.  How many other 23 year old men do that?  I also respect him too much to say anything to anyone.  If I have a problem I talk to him about it. 

  

Anyway, I better go, time to spend some "alone" time with him right now.  =) 

  

Take care everyone. 

Elffie 

  

 
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April 27, 2006, 4:13 am PDT

Hello from Australia

Hello to everyone.  I am a stay at home mum from Queensland, Australia.  I have been reading some of your posts and I must say I agree with most of them.  Being a SAHM brings much joy and pain.  

  

 My mother was a SAHM as well and it did our family good to know that when we got home from school, she was there for us.  Money was always tight, but  my siblings and I never did without.   

  

Dad worked very hard to put food on our table, but Mum managed the finances and decided what the food was.  She took us to any place we wanted to go and made sure we were always dressed appropriately.  With her as my example, I never thought I would be anything else.  My children are my life and I can't imagine being anywhere else. 

  

I'm also very lucky to have a husband who lets me be just what I want to be.  I don't know how long we would have been married if he wanted something different. 

 
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April 27, 2006, 7:22 am PDT

Stay At Home Moms

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Hello to everyone.  I am a stay at home mum from Queensland, Australia.  I have been reading some of your posts and I must say I agree with most of them.  Being a SAHM brings much joy and pain.  

  

 My mother was a SAHM as well and it did our family good to know that when we got home from school, she was there for us.  Money was always tight, but  my siblings and I never did without.   

  

Dad worked very hard to put food on our table, but Mum managed the finances and decided what the food was.  She took us to any place we wanted to go and made sure we were always dressed appropriately.  With her as my example, I never thought I would be anything else.  My children are my life and I can't imagine being anywhere else. 

  

I'm also very lucky to have a husband who lets me be just what I want to be.  I don't know how long we would have been married if he wanted something different. 

welcome to the board. Raising a family is certainly a lot of work but well worth the time and effort. Sounds like you came from a great family atmosphere and that to me has got to be priceless. There are times when I look back and wish I had that good family background but I don't but it certainly helped me to be where I am today, I most definetly want a lot more for my children then what I had and I am not talking material things though they do have all their needs and a lot of their wants met. I think I am a better mom to my children becasue of how I was raised.............................
 
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April 28, 2006, 8:09 am PDT

Welcome!

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Hello to everyone.  I am a stay at home mum from Queensland, Australia.  I have been reading some of your posts and I must say I agree with most of them.  Being a SAHM brings much joy and pain.  

  

 My mother was a SAHM as well and it did our family good to know that when we got home from school, she was there for us.  Money was always tight, but  my siblings and I never did without.   

  

Dad worked very hard to put food on our table, but Mum managed the finances and decided what the food was.  She took us to any place we wanted to go and made sure we were always dressed appropriately.  With her as my example, I never thought I would be anything else.  My children are my life and I can't imagine being anywhere else. 

  

I'm also very lucky to have a husband who lets me be just what I want to be.  I don't know how long we would have been married if he wanted something different. 

I think that was one of my reasons to be a stay at home mom.  You see, my mom worked all throughout my childhood, not because she wanted to, but because she had to.  I do have good memories of her when she was home and that is what I want my children to have as well.  Memories.  I wanted to work also, but after I had my son I couldn't imagine leaving him.  Fortunatly I can stay home with my children. 

  

I let my children explore, they get dirty, it's fun. LOL  We take day trips to the park and so.  The other day we were at the park for close to three hours!  It was fine because I packed food and we didn't have to go anywhere that day.  It was a nice relaxing day.  I love that I can be here to do that with my children. 

  

Welcome to the board, feel free to pipe in whenever you want.  We're pretty good listeners. 

Elffie 

  

P.S. When we were at the Zoo I saw an Australian Walking Stick.  Those things are huge!   

  

Australia- Home of the Big Bugs.  How do you do it?   

 
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May 1, 2006, 7:09 am PDT

Hi Rose

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Hi my name is Rose, I am a 26yr old mother of 5. Girl 10, twin boys 8, another boy 7, and another girl 5. they are a real handful. I love my kids very much and would not give them up for nothing. I do have problems with my boys stealing at their such of a  young age. I also have a great husband. I have been married a little over a year now. I was married before to my kids father for over 10 years. He left us to ourselves and I had to live with my parents for almost a year before I found my husband now. We met online in a chat room. Knew eachother a little of 3 months then married. He is great and also has a heart of gold. He tells me I am gorgous every single day of his life and that he loves me. He loves my kids and takes care of us the best way he knows how. Well hopefully I will get a response because I haven't yet from anyone else on here. Thanks!
Welcome to the board. I am basically just skimming over the messages at this time but will probably be on later.Sounds like you have a housefull but most imporantly it sounds like you are happy and that is awesome. Have a great day.
 
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May 1, 2006, 8:32 am PDT

Hello

I am a Stay-at-home mom from Genoa, Illinois. I have 3 wonderful boys (6, 3, & 5mos). They keep me very busy. Could not image my life any different. When my oldest was born I worked F/T. When my second was born I worked P/T. I quit 3 mos before my third was born. I do not plan on going back to work anytime soon, if our situation allows me to. I would have to agree that there are days when I get bored. With having 3 boys there are even days when I want to run out of the house screaming. That is when my husband steps in and takes over. He either takes the boys somewhere or tells me to go do something, anything just to get out of the house. I have just recently started to go to the gym. Boy, has that help. I go, sweat, and feel so much better when I come home to my family. It relieves alot of stress. I just wanted to introduce myself since this is my first time on here.
 
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