Topic : Stay At Home Moms

One of da women here wondered if it a a big sacrifice 2 b a SAHM, and i think it is.   

I am not sayin wot u do is rong, infact i think its wonderful. I just think dat women tend 2 put  their families 1st, and like totally 4get about them selves!!!! y? U deserve 2 have fun, c da world, etc.   

And y do women always sacrifice while men hardly care?   

I noe ma opinion doesn't rly matter, but i hate it wen women always sacrifice 4 every 1 else, and dey hardly get rewarded.   

Hi there.  You must not have children and that's okay, I can understand how it would be hard for you to understand what we do if you haven't done it or felt the love of having a child or raising that child.  I had my children young, because I wanted to have children and I wanted to be in my 40's when they left the house. LOL  Hopefully it will all work out. LOL  

Anyway, I don't know if you're female or male, but I found this fairy tale and thought you'd get a good laugh about it.  You seem to be an independant person who does not want to things if you don't want to.  So here it is, hope you like it.  

NOTE:  TO THE STAY AT HOMES MOMS, THIS IS NOT TO YOU, THIS IS TO THIS POSTER, BECAUSE WE ACTUALLY LIKE WHAT WE DO, BUT MAYBE YOU WILL GET A GOOD LAUGH AT IT TOO.  I DID, IT IS FUNNY.  

A fairy tale for the assertive woman of the millenium.

Once upon a time, in a land far away, A beautiful, independent, self assured princess, happened upon a frog as she sat contemplating ecological issues on the shore of an unpolluted pond in a verdant meadow near her castle.

The frog hopped into the Princess' lap and said: Elegant Lady, I was once a handsome Prince, until an evil witch cast a spell upon me. One kiss from you, however, and I will turn back into the dapper, young Prince I am and then, my sweet, we can marry and set up housekeeping in yon castle, with my Mother... Where you can prepare my meals, clean my clothes, bear my children, and forever feel grateful and happy doing so.

That night, as the Princess dined sumptuously on a repast of lightly sautéed frog legs seasoned in a white wine and onion cream sauce, she chuckled to herself and thought:


I don't f****** think so!  

I find myself wondering who you are and why you are on this thread? Are you a sahm? Are you a bitter sahm?  

As far as men hardly caring, have you met all the men in the world? As woman we don't like to be told we are all the same and I don't think men like it either. My husband is a wonderful family man and when he isn't at work, he is with us, his family. Anything he does outside of work, he does with his family. He works hard in this house and pitches in with the daily tasks right along with me and the kids. We all work together and I'm not the maid of the house.  

What brings you to this thread? Why are you passionate about this subject.  

I will make a strong statement here. I think the world and all the people in it would be better off if one parent stayed at mom, whether it be the mom or the dad and I feel your view is what I'm always fighting against. 

So funky 9, tell us, do you work outside of your home? Or did you stay home all your life and are bitter about it? 

Sherri 

terrific post. I also need a break and who doesn't whether they work or not. People in the workforce need a break and they get vacations, lunch breaks, etc and we work way more hours. I also miss my kids, husband and house when I'm away, which is a great thing because we are happier for them when we return.  

My oldest is now 12 and sometimes babysits my 5 year old which is great for all of us. I get soem time with hubby all alone and she gets some money and my 5 year old loves it when her big sister watches her.  

Have a great day with your wonderful children! 

They are a BLESSING, not a sacrifice. 

Sherri 

 Hi all. I am new to the boards and have been a SAHM now for almost 2yrs. However, it wasn't by choice at the time. Let me explain that statement now, because I do not want anyone to get the wrong idea. When  I became pregnant it was  rough on me. There is 8 yrs difference between my girls. And while I had often wished I could SAH with my oldest, it just was not ever financially possible. I did take precautions to make sure I was home after school with her though.   

Anyhow, after a rough pregnancy I was induced at 38 wks. Long story short, my daughter was injured at birth. She has Erbs Palsy, or an left obstetrical brachial plexus injury if you want the full description. My daughter requires daily range of motion, Physical and Occupational therapy and electrical stimulation as well as several splints and casting and trips to specialists. Nobody wants to take the responsibility of doing these "everyday part part of life" things she needs done. I am the one who does these thing in order for her to improve what function sh enow has.So therefore, the statement not by my choice.   

After my 18mo old was born we found out my 9yr old has mitral valve prolapse, on top of her ADHD and OCD. So more speocialists. If I would have been back in the work force, I would have missed lots of time off work for both my girls. And since they need me, being a SAHM has worked out fo rthe best. I can make sure my daughters get the care they need, the love they need, and the peace of mind knowing nobody is messing with my children. I have to honestly say I would have a hard time going back to work after being home so long.   

Yes like most SAHM I sometimes find myself wishing for 1 minute of adult conversation. But I honestly could not imagine life any other way now. And to boot, my husband is happier casue I am not so tired like I was when I worked outside of the home.   

That is my experience with being a stay at home mom. And it is not for everyone.  

"Every obstacle presents a opportunity to improve our condition"  

  I agree with you I too am a stay at home mom that homeschools, and I find that I have some of the same reactions from people. It is very hard to make some adult friends, and like you say "connect" with other people. Just because we choose not to do things the way that other people do them we and chose to go a more traditional/ Biblical route we are "weird". I say AMEN to you for staying home and also for Homeschooling....Keep it up, and God Bless you!! 

My son is three and I guess, you can say that I homeschool him now.  We go for nature walks and talk about the trees and what kind of trees they are and he is also very good with colors and his alphabet and numbers, so I guess that could be considered home schooling.  I was thinking about doing homeschooling, but I think he will go to school.  I don't get where you say that staying home is a more traditional/Biblical route, but, hey, if that's what you want to call it.  I have been looking into private schooling for my son, but there aren't any that are of any interest to us.  So public may be the way to go.  Either way, as long as our children are learning, that's what's important.  You sound like you are doing a great job.  Being a mom is definitly hard work, but I wouldn't have it any other way.