Topic : Stay At Home Moms

This is a story about my SIL and how great of a mom she is .this just touches on some of what she goes through daily. 

   

  

Hi i saw this and right away wanted to post here.my sister in law has to be the strongest woman live today.her and her husband have ten kids .they all have gone through school except for two.she has had it hard also .one of her kids almost dies from menigitis and wass left a little slower to progress .now she looks after everything at home her husband is no help whats soever but wants the glory of the way his kids are raised not his doing for dam sure.It was all her after she had her second last bably ,her dr. told her not to have anymore because she was at risk of dying or the child not being born without anyhandy cap.well what does she do gets pregnant and not her fault either he does not believe in birth control so they were just cautious ,huh !not cautious enough.well her last baby was born with downs first off.then when she was 8 months old had open heart surgury new this when she was born with a heart defect.then if that was not enough she (the baby)gets a bacteria ecoli poisoning not much older maybe a year or so now her husband takes her to hospital baby was airlifted to hospital out of province ,he takes her there waits for some of us to get there and he leaves and comes home.Now his child is fighting for her life and the docs said because she had downs thats what saved her they fight harder than any normal child would so she my SIL is there herself at hospital and hes home working .can leave when he wants has no excuse not to be there the other 9 kids at home were all well looked after and he stays home.anyhow she escaped that one by the skin  of her teeth.but thats not all than because she was so sick from ecoli she is now a diabetic inssulin 4times daily maybe a little less now that she is older.M y SIL has to learn how to give her needles and manage her diet and look after the house and other kids he comes home from work go to bedroom and watches tv.now this little walking miracle has just the fight to live ans she wasn't going out without a fight either.now she's in grade1 almost can talk quite a few words thaanks to my SIL goes to school knowing her ABC'S THANKS TO MY SIL, KNOWS NO#UP TO TWENTY THANKS TO GUESS WHO AND LOOKS AFTER ALL THE REST IN BETWEEN.BOY WOULD I EVER LOVE TO OWN HIM FOR A DAY HE'D LAY IN BED AND WATCH TV ALRIGHT.BUT YET IF THERE IS ANY FUSS MADE TOWARDS THEIR LITTLE MIRACLE HE IS RIGHT THERE TO GRAB THE GLORY.NOW THATS A MOTHER.   

Since i last wrote this my little niece now has a desease called Cielac i believe it is how its spelled .She can't eat anything with wheat or flour so she has to eat gluton free products try shopping for that along with cheching her diabetes as well.I tell ya this kid has been through it all.Now all the family got test because it is genic .And who do you think is the first to show positive THE FATHER good for him now let him have a taste of what she goes through everyday.Some of the other kids tested positive too but are managing well with a proper diet .Thats the update on them. 

  

   

I was trying to see if there is anyone out there who is homeschooling there childern? This is my first year to do this my  son is 13, my daughters are 12 and 7. The problem is i am learning that my 12 year old should not of made it as far in school as she has. I would always help with homework and get very frustrated with her because she could not understand how to do something. Now with homeschooling i have had to start from scratch it seems, my husband tells me she is trying to fool us, by pretending not to know. Is there anyone out there who has any advice on this subject.

My five year old son has begun to make a point of noticing that girls and boys are different. Especially noticing that "Mommy" is different. I have caught him trying to peek in my room when I am getting dressed. He also seems to like playing with his sisters Barbie dolls as long as dad doesn't notice. And he has taken a liking to a little girl that goes to his school and lives down the street from us. He has started asking question such as why do you need a mommy and a daddy to have babies? Why do boys have a penis and girls have a vagina? He came out of the bathroom the other day squeezing his testicles and asked why his stomach hurt when he pinched his balls. I told him I wasn't sure but if he wanted to pinch his balls to do it in his room. I don't want him to feel like touching his own body is bad. But at the same time I don't know how much information to give him about the whole sex issue. When he was three he asked where food went when you swallowed it. When I told him into his stomach he asked how it got there. So after we were done he knew how the whole digestive system worked and he could even say esophagus. So I am a bit worried on how to approach the whole his parts,her parts and why they are there issue. If anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it. I need all the help I can get on this one.

OMG!  You've got one smart little cookie there.  I can relate some although the pinching of the testicles are a new one on me.  LOL!  I think I'd be curious now,  HONEY!!!!!!!  Can you.........  Just kidding.  My oldest was around 5 when his sister was born ( I have 4 kids in all now ) and while changing her diaper, he looked and asked when does her penis grow in?  It was all I could do not to disolve into total laughter.  I also got a bit worried when he asked when his sister could start sleeping in his bed like mommy sleeps with daddy.  Oh My, I was really floored with that one and we had to discuss with him why he and his sister could not sleep in the same bed and why mommy and daddy could.  It cleared it up for him and he never asked again.  Since we live on a farm, how babies are born and conceived weren't to much a concern for him as he saw it from the time he was really little. 

  

Have you had a talk with your boy's pediatrician?  That is a good place to start as the doctor can explain lots of physical things to your boy and give it to him in a matter of fact way that may make it not so facinating anymore for your son.  I had a good pediatrician who could talk with the kids on their level of understanding.  Your pediatrician can also let you know what information is too much for him and even what is normal behavior for your son.  To me, he sounds really normal to me so far.   

  

Both my hubby and I come from really good stable homes with lots of family who have stable marriages.  In my daughter's school class, I think most of her classmates live in homes of divorce.  My daughter asked me, while she was in second grade, where would her daddy go when we got our divorce.  Would he live in Dubuque, IA like many of the other daddies of her classmates.  That was a fun one to explain. 

Oh, thank you for making me feel so lucky with mine staying dry at nite early on.  LOL!  While potty training for some reason all of mine would decide to pee on me in my Sunday best!  Nothing like having an after service conversation and feel something very warm and wet go across your hip.  Gee, did I say I missed mine being babies?  I must be getting that selective memory that usually happens when you give birth.  You instantly forget the pain you just went thru to squeeze them and you want to have another baby right away.  LOL! 

  

When potty training, well, actually before while they were still in daipers, I was one of those odd balls that actually used clothe diapers.  I think that may have had something to do with it.  I went even as far as ironing the darn things!  No, I don't think I was that bored.  I hated the gerber cheese clothe types.  I did, however, love the ones my in laws sent me from Europe.  They were thicker and bigger and way more durable.  I don't think I have one single intact gerber one but have all of the European ones and that was thru 4 kids!  Pins and all.  No, I was not super mom.  We did it to save money. 

  

Did/does yours ever go hide in the closet to go potty?  my third one did and not in his training pants either.  I'd find neat little piles in the closet of the boy's room hidden under a shirt or something.  Drove me nuts.  some how I think it was his was of trying to say he wanted to potty his way; everyone else used the bathroom in the bathroom so he wanted to be different I guess.  

I am not homeschooling my children this year, but I did try it when my children were younger.I don't know what state you are in, but this state has a charter video program. They also aid with getting a computer to use as an aid  in teaching your child.  Contact your local homeschooling group. Usually your school administration building will have a contact name.  Are you using the books from the school? Or are you usung your own materials.  Is it possible for your to speak to your child's last teacher to ask how she did in a particular subject? What was that teacher's particular teaching style? Some use the book, some use their own material.  It is possible that maybe the material you are trying to teach her was taught differently, which could mean you might have to teach her from scratch.  

Take care. 

My now four year old used to hide in a corner when she was filling her diaper, The first time I saw her doing this, "I asked her, what are you doing, Amy?" her response, "making mommy sad!" LOL, my husband and I both laughed at that one for a very long time. The child was only two. But at least we knew she had to go and I started picking her up and taking her to the potty. With my now 2 1/2 year old, she just goes and doesn't think a thing of it, she just keeps playing then after she is done, sometimes she will tell us that she is ukky but other times, she just ignores it, she doesn't care. Oh well, we will get this sooner or later. :)

vhegar 

  

I agree with the above.  most definitely go back to her teacher or teachers.  Your daughter's trouble may also have to do with a lack of confidence too.  My oldest had huge troubles in the 4th grade and a large part of it was just a lack of self confidence. 

  

good luck.  I really do admire those who choose to teach their kids at home.  I think mine would drive me insane if they were home all the time. 

Well, Mom, she was just too busy to stop and potty.  It would have taken to much time out of her activity!  LOL!  My oldest was like that and the more tired he got, the fast he would play too.  My dad was in stitches one day while baby sitting my oldest as a toddler.  He said my son would pass gas and it would sound like he ripped a hole in the pants but he would just keep on playing thru it and afterwards like it never occurred. 

  

Yea, she'll get it sooner or later.  If its later, it'll be when she realizes that everyone else her age doesn't mess their drawers.  Peer pressure sure can help in that area.  It did with my 3rd one.  I told him he couldn't go to school if he could not use the restroom like everyone else; that was just the rules.  Boy, that day, he would announce everytime he went to the bathroom because he wanted everyone to know he could do it and he could go to school. 

   Hey i have some questions about homeschooling. I read your message that you have homeschooled in the past and i just have some concerns. Maybe you can give me some insight.  I'm just not sure about homeschooling. It seems so many people are turning to that these days. I'm a stay at home mom of 2 girls. They are 2 1/2 and 12months. I see the reasons that moms stay at home with their preschoolers but I'm just not seeing the advantages to home schooling.  I know all of the reasons that they get one on one attention and all of that.  But we send our teachers to college for a reason. To teach and I am not a teacher. I want my kids to have the best education. I just dont see how someone without a teaching degree  can provide that.  Also i want to provide my kids with life experience and i dont see how homeschooling is doing that.  I dont mean to sound critical, i'm just wondering why so many people are going to this.  please give some insight into your reasons. I have a new friend that chooses to homeschool their kids and they don't seem to be open to discussing this.   Thanks for your help