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April 24, 2008, 12:25 pm PDT

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I feel slightly better now knowing im not the only one who feels like a nit picker. I have 3 kids ages 17, 12, and soon to be 10. I am a single mom....have been for many years and the last 15 months I have been working the graveyard shift. With this being the case I am usually always tired because I like to be awake before they arrive home from school and often I am the only one who does the housework. It was always so easy for me to do it when they were younger that now im paying the price! We rent our house furnished so also im always worried about things getting broken so I do nit pick. Sometimes I wonder if I should just go on medication but I dont feel that is the cure....I want a miracle....for my kids to see how hard i work and to help out. They want to do fun things and get stuff but I dont think its appropriate when they dont help so that causes further problems especially with the eldest. I would like to just see his room clean without me hounding him. Am I wrong to want this? I too can use suggestions.

I too was a single mom and I am an orphan, so I am always feeling like people don't understand how much effort I put in to things. But what I need to remember about with my nit picking is, I can always worry about what could happen but I should save my energy for when something does happen. I think I nit pick out of boredom, cuz even if she cleans her room I will most likely find something that I am not happy about. I think my real issue is being a negative personality. I find that I don't like a lot of people I know.  And I am always unhappy about something they have done or not done. Instead I should just accept them. But I let everything snow ball I think. I really wish I knew how to stop it. I don't know I need some serious help. But as for you YOU ARE A GOOD MOM!. Kids don't realize what you do is out of love, but they will later on down the road.  I once read that what you are waiting to hear you may never heat it so say what you need to hear to yourself.

 

 

 

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July 12, 2008, 7:09 am PDT

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Hey there.  I have never been on any of Dr Phils message boards although I have been on Oprahs from time to time.  Just had my third baby.... he is now 10 weeks old.  I have been married for 9 years and have another two sons, one who is 8 and one who is 4.  I just want to connect with other mums out there who also juggle working outside the home aswell.  I go back to work after Xmas and am dreading the thought as it was hard enough when I had two children.  If anyone out there has any good advice I would really appreciate it.  It will make the next few months easier to relax with my new baby instead of worrying!!!  I am mailing all the way from Scotland.... but if there is one thing every mum out there has in common, it is that it is the hardest job in the world.  Right? 
Hey, i am in a similar boat so to speak. I am married with a 5 year old daughter and 6 year old step son. I love them both very much. I too work. Actually I work 7 days a week at two jobs so that we can provide for our children. Good luck with everything!  This is def the hardest job out there.
 
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July 12, 2008, 7:14 am PDT

I feel like I am a bad mother......

I need advice. I am currently reading Dr. Phil's Family First book and am loving it. I have a 5 year old daughter. Currently I am working 2 jobs, seven days a week. I see my family in the evenings after work. I am struggling to make the most of my time with her. But it is hard. I suffer from Depression pretty bad and am on medication for that. I feel that my daughter is acting out because of my lack of being home. I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place so to speak. I have to work to pay the bills and provide for her but at the same time feel that I am not there like I need to be. She is argueing with me a lot and not listening. Am I alone in this? It sure feels like it. I don't know what to do to make things better. We are financially strapped and can't afford to not work so much. I love my daughter but feel that I may resent her for things beyond her  or my control. I am very short with her and am quick to snap. I feel like I have no time to do the things with her that I want to. Can anyone give me suggestions on how to make the most of my time with her? Or basically how to be the mom that she needs and the mom that I used to be?
 
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