Topic : Working Moms

               I used to be in the workforce.  I have a two and a one year old.  I hated not seeing them and someone else raising them besides me.  I lost my job a little while ago, and I honestly wasn't sure what I was going to do.  Most jobs barely cover the cost of child care.  I found a wonderful job that I can do from home.  I run my own business, but I still work with lots of other people.  And I love the interaction and support.  My email is in my profile, if you would like more information.   

Help! 

I am a 35 year old mother of three beautiful girls ages 3,5,and 7.  i recently got married for the second time to a wonderful man.  My biggest problem is that my mother doesn't allow me to be the mom to my daughters.  I am an RN and work three nights a week, my new husband works out of town during the week, and their father is incarcerated.  We live about 100 yards away from my parents and my mother watches the girls at night while I work.   When I try to discipline my children they sometimes run out the door down to my parents or call her to tell her that I won't allow them to do something, or am trying to make them do something they don't want to do, etc.  I need my mother , so how do I ask her to back off some and let me be the mom? 

HELP 

I was very honestly unsure where to post this because after being in the work force for a long time  and having only been off during maternity leave with my two children *Daughter 3 and son 15months* I wasn't sure what to do really I've been laid off work  when i knew i still had two months left because of a gallbladder attack i had to take time off work as doctors were scared it would endanger my pregnancy*due in september* now it looks like I am about to become a stay at home mom  as husband has found a great full time job .. But I  still miss work, I love being home with my kids but Am so worried about not being able to swing things moneywise. Cause it was taking my check and his*EI*check before  to pay things and have money left to buy what was needed.. I'm not sure if i should try to get back to work with the doctors warning I shouldn't  or just enjoy the time off with the childrenand the preggie and focus on things at home..  I was going to start staying home after baby was born anyways because I would not be able to afford child care be it day care or private babysitter for 3 children... 

Anyone got some advice??? 

Cryssie 

I'm not sure where to start, but here I go. 

I am a mom who works full - time.  I leave my home at the same time as my husband and get home about 2 hours after him only to find that he has done nothing to help the evening go smoother.  He would rather disappear into the back yard by himself , while my mother in- law  is in the house with our 2 year old daughter waiting for me to come home.  And when I get home I am supposto cook dinner ( with her in my hip) , bath her , clean up after dinner, do laundry and have a nice lovey converstion with him about how he had to cut the lawn for the 4th time this week!  And I am then to stay awake till he comes back in from doing what ever it is that he is doing so we can have sex, on his terms!  When I started chatting on line w/ both male and females he lost his mind and told me I was cheating on him and he could never trust me again.  I don't understand what I was doing wrong I need an outlit and some friends.  Does anyone else live this way ?  We went away for the weekend with our daughter and it was soooooooo crazy, he complained about every thing I did, eating to much drinking coffee with sugar etc...  Even complained when our daughter said she was hungry!  Can anyone give me a little insight on this I think I'm going crazy or maybe I am already crazy! 

I am lost! I don't know what to do anymore. I had my 3 year old in preschool. My husband and I had to take her out for finical reasons. I work from 8 am to 5 pm. My husband works from 11pm to 7 am. He watches our daughter while I'm at work and then I take over so he can sleep. I know it is probably her age and that everyone deals with this, but she is just uncontrollable. She doesn't listen to anyone. She runs and runs around the house and is as hyper as can be. If I tell her no, she will tell me "but I said I wanted to!" She will repeat it over and over. I have tried every kind of discipline I can think of. Nothing seems to work. I have tried sitting her down and talking to her. She will scream and yell at me. I am pregnant right now with another child and her behavior is stressing me out. We plan games with her and spend a lot of time with her. I have run out of ideas. Please help me I don't know what to do anymore.

Christin

Christin,

It does not sound like your crazy, just stressed. I'm a mother of 2 boys and can only offer "mommy" advice. Have you monitored the sugar intake? Is she getting enough sleep and enough exercise? Do you offer structured and scheduled play time?  I hope things are going better for you.

Take Care

I'm 22, I only have one child.  I work only 40 hours a week, but the hours are 4-10 hour days from 10am-9pm...Mondays, Tuesdays, Fridays, and Saturdays.   My baby just start back to school, she is 6.  I want to be home more to help with homework, give her a bath and make sure she got a good meal to eat.  I also want to still be involved with school...going to eat lunch and helping out when needed.  I feel as if I'm missing her grow up.  I have a really good helping and supportive husband, and he is a wonder father.  He is not the same as mom.  I want so bad to be a stay at home mom but we can't afford it.  If anyone has an advise please help.  I'm have no clue how to handle this....

I do know what you are going through, I feel the same way.  I'm jealous!  I feel like someone else is raising my only baby and I'm missing so much...Just always remember you can never get the years miss back.