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snowwhite1962

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September 21, 2006, 11:55 am PDT

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I know exactly how you feel, My self and my husband are in the same boat as yourselfs. My husband also has a vivid past (for lack of a better word) and we have been told that we are not eligable for adoption either. We have been told that I could adopt but I would have to leave my husband. I have always wanted to be a mom and I think no wait I know I would make a VERY good mother to a child that no one else seems to want or care for. as I am sure you know that about yourself. please dont give up I know there are children out there somewhere for woman like us to love and care for and for us to be the best mommies we can be. I hope Dr. Phil reads our messages and can somehow help us fulfill our dreams. so please keep looking up and looking for that special child that can be all yours. cause I know I wont stop looking for a child that we can call our own.

hi drop me a line at misswhitey7@aol.com there are ways around these things espeically in interenational adoption,there are many countries that will let you adopt if not a baby then a toddler.....and really what's the difference? ok ,drop me a line also the older the crimail charge is......the more likey they Will let you adopt.

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snowwhite1962

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September 21, 2006, 12:11 pm PDT

hi there

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Hey there....my partner of 12 years and I would like to adopt a Tsunami orphan. Do you know if the laws in those countries are as accepting of my lifestyle and they are in in the States?

HI GET IN TOUCH WITH ME ABOUT INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION. I WILL GIVE YOU THE NAMES OF SOME VERY GOOD AGNECIES IN THE UNITES STATES.THERE ARE COUNTRIES THAT LET ALTERNATIVE COUPLS ADOPT,BUT USUALLY AS A SINLGE PARENT.I DON'T THINK THE TSUNAMI COUNTRIES HAVE GOTTEN TO THE POINT YET OF INDENTIFYING ANY CHILDREN CLEARED FOR ADOPTION.CLEARED MEANS NO PARENTS INVOLVED. OK, I'LL EXPLIAN IT TO YOU. MY EMAIL IS MISSWHITEY7@AOL..COM

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September 25, 2006, 9:50 am PDT

Wanting to adopt

Hello we are Beth and Travis and we are 23 and 24. We have been looking into adoption and it cost a lot, but money is not an issue. But I do wonder why it cost so much to adopt when there is sooooo many kids out there that need a loving home and just to feel loved. What makes me mad is to see these ppl who have kids and dont need them. They cant take care of them and are not mature enough to know the real responsibility it takes to take care of the. I have a syndrome called PSOS and what that is is my body makes too much insulin and when i start to ovulate the insulin killes the eggs b 4 it can really produce into n e thing. I dont have a regular cycle and i have to take meds to make "ant flow" visit each month. Does anyone feel the same as i do or does anyone have any advice?? We are willing to do what ever it takes to become parents.

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October 13, 2006, 2:49 pm PDT

state adoptions

Hello to all,

My husband and I are in the process of adopting through the state. I would like to hear from parents who experienced this type of adoption. We would like to hear the good and bad. Any advice that you have I would be glad to listen....

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October 14, 2006, 9:56 am PDT

Dr. Phil We Are Wishing To Adopt

Dr. Phil some of us out here in message board land would love to know when you are going to be doing another show on adoption? With your status and power I would think that one or two shows like the original adoption show you did would help some of us become complete families through adoption. Whether you have not been able to conceive, or have adopted the need and want to complete your family through the miracle of adoption is great when you are infertile. Please think about creating another show for infertile couples who have adopted or who have not that want to complete their family.
We love your show!!
Nicole in San Diego :)
Wishing to adopt and complete our family with another blessing!
Adoption Prayer
http://www.adoptionprayer.com

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firstmom3

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October 15, 2006, 3:48 am PDT

affected by adoption?

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if you are thinking about adoption or are affected by adoption

go to http://mothers-in-exile.tripod.com

Hello: I think ran over by adoption would be more like it. I think it is important for young Moms to consider the fact that adopters are no better and no worse than the average population and their child could end up being abused in their adoptive home.There are stories in the media all the time about children abused in adoptive homes and adoptees who are returned when they ended up disapointing the expectations of the ones who adopted them... Also, don't fall for the open adoption ploy because many open adoptions are closed within the first 3 yrs. of a childs life.Adoption is a permanete solution to a temporary problem in most cases. Adoption could be replaced by guardianship for those children unable to stay in their natural family.Have a nice day :)

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October 19, 2006, 4:10 pm PDT

I Want to Adopt

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Hello: I think ran over by adoption would be more like it. I think it is important for young Moms to consider the fact that adopters are no better and no worse than the average population and their child could end up being abused in their adoptive home.There are stories in the media all the time about children abused in adoptive homes and adoptees who are returned when they ended up disapointing the expectations of the ones who adopted them... Also, don't fall for the open adoption ploy because many open adoptions are closed within the first 3 yrs. of a childs life.Adoption is a permanete solution to a temporary problem in most cases. Adoption could be replaced by guardianship for those children unable to stay in their natural family.Have a nice day :)

why would the media report normal successful adoptions? "today in our news, we have a story about an adoption. theres nothing interesting to report but we dont care about ratings."

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October 26, 2006, 12:47 pm PDT

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Hello we are Beth and Travis and we are 23 and 24. We have been looking into adoption and it cost a lot, but money is not an issue. But I do wonder why it cost so much to adopt when there is sooooo many kids out there that need a loving home and just to feel loved. What makes me mad is to see these ppl who have kids and dont need them. They cant take care of them and are not mature enough to know the real responsibility it takes to take care of the. I have a syndrome called PSOS and what that is is my body makes too much insulin and when i start to ovulate the insulin killes the eggs b 4 it can really produce into n e thing. I dont have a regular cycle and i have to take meds to make "ant flow" visit each month. Does anyone feel the same as i do or does anyone have any advice?? We are willing to do what ever it takes to become parents.

Hi Beth,

I am another Beth, and a mother of 5 really great kids. My oldest is almost 21 and my youngest turned 9 back in July. My husband, Phil, and I made a horrible mistake after my youngest child was born. We listened to other people's comments about having so many children. That resulted in my feeling pressured to have a tubal ligation. I almost immediately regreted it, but thought I would feel better over time. A couple years passed, and I admitted to my husband that I felt I had made a horrible mistake. My husband admitted to me that he felt the same way. I had a tubal reversal, and we thought the problem was solved.....but it wasn't. I tried IVF several times to no avail. Then my doctor started using donors. Phil and I believed that now it was only a matter of time before we had more children. The summer before last, I got the news that I was pregnant. Unfortunately, six weeks later, I had a miscarriage. We had 4 frozen embryos left, but they didn't take.

I have considered adoption, but my husband is not so keen on the idea.

I just wanted to let you know.......in my very long winded way........that even though I have been blessed with children, I know how you feel. It hurts when I see a baby. It hurts when I see a pregnant teen complaining about her swollen feet or the fact that she's "getting fat". What I wouldn't give to be her. It also hurts when I hear horror stories about children being abused by their own parents.

So, in answer to your question, you are not wrong to feel the way you do, and I feel the same way. Best of luck to you and Travis.

Love,

Beth

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November 6, 2006, 6:22 pm PST

Adoption

Our son and his wife adopted a baby thru a firm in Indiana - really a legal firm. They wrote a "dear birth parent" letter and were accepted in weeks. They got their baby boy almost two years ago- but the entire cost was about $30,000. They were in Indiana for about 10 days with the baby in a hotel until NC would accept the baby. But, they had been in touch with the birth Mom for months and were at the hospital when the baby was 3 hours old. And, they left the hospital with the baby. The birth mom got $1500 up front and $1500 when the adoption was final. The best thing was that her legal rights were terminated before she left the hospital - so no surprises there. They send pictures when required, but none have been picked up after the first time ( at 3 mo). The legal firm make a ton of money. But,. they consider it worth it - a healthy baby boy.

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November 6, 2006, 6:39 pm PST

I Want to Adopt

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Hello we are Beth and Travis and we are 23 and 24. We have been looking into adoption and it cost a lot, but money is not an issue. But I do wonder why it cost so much to adopt when there is sooooo many kids out there that need a loving home and just to feel loved. What makes me mad is to see these ppl who have kids and dont need them. They cant take care of them and are not mature enough to know the real responsibility it takes to take care of the. I have a syndrome called PSOS and what that is is my body makes too much insulin and when i start to ovulate the insulin killes the eggs b 4 it can really produce into n e thing. I dont have a regular cycle and i have to take meds to make "ant flow" visit each month. Does anyone feel the same as i do or does anyone have any advice?? We are willing to do what ever it takes to become parents.

A lot of the problem is that a vast majority of the children are minorities or special needs children. And the cost is out of sight to raise them. And, it also takes special parents to take a child with mental or physical problems. Downs Syndrome, mental retardation, etc. are not what the young family wants to take on. Everyone wants the healthy, white child with no physical or mental problems. That is certainly normal. But, why are not black families adopting black children who really need a home. There are many affulent black families who could easily take in another child, and it is better for a child to be reared in a family of the same race.

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