Topic : I Want to Adopt

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This is Tracy again.

      I am a potential birthmom who lives in South Carolina.  I cannot say that I'm a certified birthmom yet because I'm married and I'm having a hard time getting my husband to agree to an adoption for our child.  In our state, the other spouse must agree to the adoption or it simply will not happen.  I am very frustrated by this.  He acts like he doesn't even want to stay married to me anymore, but yet he wants to keep this baby.  Hello!!!  I flat out told him that he can't have it both ways, but he won't listen. 

      Now for my comments regarding some of the other stuff said here.  It is my opinion that if you want to adopt a child, you shouldn't be so picky as to insist on a newborn only.  If I personally was going to adopt, I wouldn't mind adopting a toddler or even grade-school aged child.  I think you have to be realistic at the same time, though.  Nobody is asking anybody to be a hero and adopt the child with the largest number of special needs in the agency/currently in foster care.  I don't think I could handle a child with Down Syndrome or (certainly not) cerebal palsy.  If this makes me a bad person, then so be it.  But a five-year-old with a brief history of abuse or neglect wouldn't be so bad.  I could do that.  Think about the bonuses of adopting these kids - no 4am feedings, little or no potty training, having a kid that could talk to you right off the bat.  I know I'm considering placing a newborn myself, but to the poor adoptive parents who've been "screwed" I suggest that maybe God has a different plan for you. 

       Somebody said that this "placing want ads" for kids is disgusting.  I say that it's no different than than "placing want ads" for a date or applying for a job online.  I prefer to think of it as information sharing.  I have info you need, so I'll tell you what I know.  Simple as that.  Now, there's no doubt that it may get out of hand, particularly in this situation, but i think that if you start here and then move to a "face to face" sort of situation, then it's fine. 

      Well, I think I've said all that I want to say.  I wish I could help somebody, but like I said, I can't until I can get him to understand where I'm coming from.  Good luck to all of y'all in your search for children.

Tracy