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Created on : Friday, July 01, 2005, 12:23:45 pm
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Has infertility struggling left you ready to bring a child into your home through adoption? Are you finished having kids but feel the need to share your home with one more child? Share your reasons for wanting to adopt and love for children with us.

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July 23, 2005, 1:00 pm CDT

Wishing & Praying To Openly Adopt

Hi Dr. Phil and friends,
We are Bill, Nicole and Faith and we are a fun loving Christian family living in San Diego, Ca.
After years of infertility treatments and surgeries we choose to parent rather than give birth to our daughter. One day in 2000 Nicole decided to build an adoption website geared to a courageous and unselfish woman looking for an OPEN adoption plan.
Well the rest is history as we were blessed by a wonderful birth family with the birth of our daughter Faith who will be five next month.
We are wishing and hoping to OPENLY adopt another baby into our home so we can forever love him or her. It is so hard these days out here in the adoption world when you are networking and doing everything possible to make that connection. We have come across quite a few scammers that thankfully we never financially helped but emotionally it has drained us. Can you give us some tips on how to keep our chins up when things look down. The power of prayer is a great thing in our lives and we try to let go and LET GOD all the time but sometimes being human gets the better of us!
Sincerely you favorite family of viewers!
Bill, Nicole & Faith
http://www.adoptionprayer.com
WE LOVE YOU ALL AT THE DR. PHIL SHOW!! If only the world could be made up of more people like you and Robin we would be living in a wonderful world!!
 
July 27, 2005, 9:08 am CDT

Adopting Again

We are the hugely blessed parents of a beautiful 5 year old son. He was adopted at birth and we still have a great relationship with his birthmom. When we discovered his special medical needs we were afraid we'd be unable to adopt again, but things have stablized now and we are all feeling the empty space meant for another child. We would love to adopt a toddler or pre-school aged child (our son keeps asking for a brother : ) Please let us know if you are aware of a situation that might fit our needs.

Blessings to you,

Tammy

 
August 2, 2005, 11:51 am CDT

Hoping for help to adopt

Dr. Phil~

I absolutely love your show and how you help people each and every day.  Now, I hope you can help my husband and myself.  We are, unable as of yet, to get to get pregnant after almost 3 years of trying. I watched the show in which you helped set up the couple with a teen that was going to give up her child.  I hope that perhaps you could help us do the same.  Thank you for your time.

 
August 8, 2005, 8:27 pm CDT

Please, Don't Dump Anymore Babies

  It makes me sick and breaks my heart to hear everywhere and anywhere that so many unwanted babies being thrown away like yesterdays trash. I have wanted more than one child but the man upstairs, God, has other things in mind. I have one biological son Brett, three wonderful (legal step children),Tony, Heather and Jenna but by heart they are mine and claim to everyone they are mine. Their mother has nothing to due with them in years. I have wanted to try and have more but my heart fell in love with a wonderful man that has had a vasectomy and we cannot have any even though we desperately want more. The laws make it so expensive to adopt that people like us can't and so many unwanted babies waiting for perfectly good homes and families ready and able to raise them as their own, can't get adopted. These teens aren't willing to take them to be adopted they just get rid of them however they see fit for them. Please contact us we will adopt no questions asked nothing, just a happy, loving safe home. We have four, plus any and all neighborhood kids that want to come over and stay the weekends and/or play at any time possible. We love and take care of, at times, our Autistic 4 year old nephew, who is our joy! 

  Please if you are or know someone that is not ready or able to take care of or raise their baby before or after birth, Please contact us through this message board. We are a loving family in Ohio. 

  Dr. Phil any adviced would be greatly appreciated. 

 
August 23, 2005, 1:03 pm CDT

Mother without a baby!

 Dear Dr. Phil and Friends:

I'm a 32 year old female desparate to be a mom but can't have a baby.  All my life all I've ever wanted is to have a family and be a mom.  I wanted six kids, like my grandmother.  We couldn't walk by a stroller without me stopping to take a peak.  My husband and I have been together since I was 19 and started attempting to get pregnant right after college.  It wasn't until about three years ago that I started seeing an infertility specialist.  I had surgery two years ago and learned that I had severe endometriosis.  My right fallopian tube was completely mangled, and the left doesn't look too much better.  My uterus was attached to my bladder and I had a tremendous amount of scar tissue.  My doctor told me we could attempt IVF but he wasn't sure that we'd have too much success. He said we may have to do the procedures five or six times before ruling it out as a viable option.  Unfortunately I am not one of those women who can spend that kind of money on IVF treatments.  My husband and I don't have that type of money and insurance doesn't pay for the procedures.  I know Dr. Phil must receive a million requests from women wanting to have children who cannot conceive on their own.  But I honestly don't know where else to turn.  I am so desparate and feel that time is just slipping by.  My maternal instinct is so strong and I feel as if I'm a mother without a baby.  My husband and I are very option to adoption.  This is where our second hurdle comes in.  My husband got into trouble when he was 18 and is now a convicted felon. He got several DUI's including one after being declared a habitual offender which is a felony.  He was also caught with drugs and was charged with the intent to distribute, also a felony.  We are unable to adopt.  We can't even become foster parents.  My husband is now 35, has since graduated from college with a degree is psychology, and we now run our own business.  Yet he is still being punished for the foolish things he did when he was younger in life and preventing us from having the family we so desparately want and long for. 
I have a 21 year old brother who has all of these female friends getting pregnant and treating their babies as if they were some throw away dolls.  Most of them are being rasied by grandparents and other have had abortions.  It makes me so angry that all of these girls take for granted what God has given them and they don't appreciate the miracles they have.  Then you have others like me who would do anything to have what they have and can do nothing about it. 
I too have seen the show where Dr. Phil has brought pregnant teenage mothers to women unable to have children of their own. I saw how Dr. Phil helped other people have the family they so much wanted.  I hope Dr. Phil can help me as well.  Or maybe some pregnant teenager is out there reading this and would be willing to let me be the mom I know I am.  I feel as if I'm out of options here and this is my last resort.  Thanks for listening.
 
August 31, 2005, 10:20 pm CDT

adopting

Quote From: mama2faith

Hi Dr. Phil and friends,
We are Bill, Nicole and Faith and we are a fun loving Christian family living in San Diego, Ca.
After years of infertility treatments and surgeries we choose to parent rather than give birth to our daughter. One day in 2000 Nicole decided to build an adoption website geared to a courageous and unselfish woman looking for an OPEN adoption plan.
Well the rest is history as we were blessed by a wonderful birth family with the birth of our daughter Faith who will be five next month.
We are wishing and hoping to OPENLY adopt another baby into our home so we can forever love him or her. It is so hard these days out here in the adoption world when you are networking and doing everything possible to make that connection. We have come across quite a few scammers that thankfully we never financially helped but emotionally it has drained us. Can you give us some tips on how to keep our chins up when things look down. The power of prayer is a great thing in our lives and we try to let go and LET GOD all the time but sometimes being human gets the better of us!
Sincerely you favorite family of viewers!
Bill, Nicole & Faith
http://www.adoptionprayer.com
WE LOVE YOU ALL AT THE DR. PHIL SHOW!! If only the world could be made up of more people like you and Robin we would be living in a wonderful world!!
I am a foster parent and see children placed in foster care that become available for adoption.  Have you considered that option as a way to add to your family?
 
September 5, 2005, 8:12 am CDT

Searching for a baby to love

     Hello we are Rob and Tressa from Lima Ohio.  We are unable to have a biological child of our own so we have choosen open adoption as a way for us to share our lives and home with a child.  We understand that it must be a hard decision on your part, but we believe open adopton makes it a positive opetion for all.
    If you are a birthmother considering adoption you can learn more about Open adoption by logging onto www.adoptionhelp.org/birthmother.html or you can contact the Independent Adoption Center at 1-800-877-OPEN
    If you would like more information on us you can contact us at rtgatchel@woh.rr.com

    We wish you the best of luck,

Rob and Tressa

 
September 7, 2005, 7:38 am CDT

I Want to Adopt

Quote From: marsh70800

  It makes me sick and breaks my heart to hear everywhere and anywhere that so many unwanted babies being thrown away like yesterdays trash. I have wanted more than one child but the man upstairs, God, has other things in mind. I have one biological son Brett, three wonderful (legal step children),Tony, Heather and Jenna but by heart they are mine and claim to everyone they are mine. Their mother has nothing to due with them in years. I have wanted to try and have more but my heart fell in love with a wonderful man that has had a vasectomy and we cannot have any even though we desperately want more. The laws make it so expensive to adopt that people like us can't and so many unwanted babies waiting for perfectly good homes and families ready and able to raise them as their own, can't get adopted. These teens aren't willing to take them to be adopted they just get rid of them however they see fit for them. Please contact us we will adopt no questions asked nothing, just a happy, loving safe home. We have four, plus any and all neighborhood kids that want to come over and stay the weekends and/or play at any time possible. We love and take care of, at times, our Autistic 4 year old nephew, who is our joy! 

  Please if you are or know someone that is not ready or able to take care of or raise their baby before or after birth, Please contact us through this message board. We are a loving family in Ohio. 

  Dr. Phil any adviced would be greatly appreciated. 

  It really upsets me to hear about young girls who just get rid of their babies. I am a 27 year old and I can't have any of my own children but eventhough all of it  my husband is still with me. We really love kids but will never have our own. If they don't want them then they should at least try to find someone that will love and take care of the baby. Children don't come into this world on their own. When I read in the newpaper or see it on the tv I start to cry for the baby. All the children want is to be loved by someone that will love them. Dr. Phil please tell me what I can do.  

 
September 11, 2005, 7:35 am CDT

CHOOSING

 It really irks me when ppl say they are choosing to adopt when they can't have any kids.  Choosing to adopt is when you can have have kids but are unselfish and decide to adopt.  Ppl who can't have kids who adopt have no other chose but adoption. 

 
September 15, 2005, 7:43 pm CDT

I Want to Adopt

k first i wanna say to those ppl writing on here to dr. phil that (as far as i know from what ive heard) he doesnt check these boards! write to him via letter and you'll have better luck. 

  

k i need some advice please. i dont think i wanna get married cuz i dont think i will meet the right person at least until im like 40 or 50 or even older. i've always really wanted to have kids though so having chlidren is a higher priority than getting married. 

  

so um do u think im crazy? is this a realistic future? ive heard adoption takes years and costs a lot of money. so if thats true, even if i do finally get to adopt wud i have any money left to give the child a happy childhood??? 

  

background info: im under 20, im a guy, im bi, im in university/college studying engineering first year, im volunteering for Big Brothers Big Sisters... 

  

please any advice would be good. thanks 

 
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