Topic : I Want to Adopt

After 17yrs of miscarries and having 7 losses our hearts ache with such pain its at times unbarable, one can barely breath. We embarked on the journey of adoption several mths ago and are a state certified ready to adopt couple, however placing our ads and waiting has made us realize that the struggle to adopt maybe harder then we think....and will it ever happen..for us its the parenting experience that we want, to be able to take hold of his or her hand and simply teach the right way to cross the street or tie thier shoe....we want to share life lessons with that special child..allow them to have a great education and experience life to its fullest...If by chance you are pg or know someone who is that perhaps at this time a child maybe not be the best situation for them pls find it in your heart to give a shout, e mail or post here would love to to hear from anyone..Sometimes its so hard for me to know where I fit in..when everyone else chats about thier children I am so at a lost for words... I wish you all peace for those who are going threw the adoption journey weather your a birthmom are adoptive parents... thanking each of you for reading this post.... best wishes Theresa

We are in the process of adopting 3 girls.  Sister's of course, there ages are 9, 8, & 7.  The adoption will be finial by the end of January to mid Feb...It hasn't been easy.  We have both been married previously, and we wanted a family together.  So we decided to adopt.  We had no ideal of what was going to lay ahead of us.   These girls have been in the system for almost 6 yrs.  They were taken away from the biological parents after them letting a know sexual predator stay in the home and not only in the same room as the girls, but allowing him to sleep in the bed with there older sister.  Some of the foster homes that these girls have been in, and the reports that I have been allowed to read.  We do not understand how they could allow these people to become foster parents.  We are going to counseling on a weekly basis with the oldest and and the middle.  We are a work in progress.  All three are so starved for attention, and will do what ever to get your approval.  We have been working on the ways you should treat people, and appropriate actions.  It had gotten to the point with the oldest that my husband had to keep her at arms length, she finally sit her down one day and had a long talk with her and to sum it up, explained to her that he was her father, not her boyfriend.  It had gotten to the point that we couldn't sit beside each other on the sofa to watch TV, or at the table for dinner.  She just didn't want that, she had to be the center of his attention at all time's, after the talk with her and going to counseling twice a week for 2 months, we are finally over coming that.  But there are still alot of issues that are there, all due to the way the girls were treated in past foster home's.  I can't help but wonder why the DSS allows such people to become foster parents.  One home that the girls were in, they used food as a punishment, locks were placed on cabinets, the refrigerator, no talking allowed at the dinner table, hot sauce was poured in there mouths as punishment.  This family had the girls for almost 27 months and were in process of adoptiong them, before it became disrupted.  If the DSS would be more on top of the job that they were suppose to do then maybe some of this stuff wouldn't have happened.  Instead of passing the buck, and sorry this isn't my job, someone needs to be held responsible.  How would they feel if it was there child??  Just because they go to college and get a degree, doesn't make them any smarter.  Alot of the things that we are having to deal with, is all due from the past, and people not be held responsible for there actions.

Has anyone considered surrogacy as an option?

 

I have donated my eggs 2x and have given birth to one surrgate daughter.

 

It is a beautiful experience and I can't wait to do it again.

 

Just a thought!

HI! came across your post and wondered if you can share more of how the procedure takes place and how to find a person? I have a post above... for 17yrs we have been trying to become parents my heart is broken after having 7 miscarriages.. Pls read my post on this thread above its tells you more about us.. anything you can share would be a great thing...being in this situation I know what you have done and you are truly awesome!

My last post I was giddy, Well that placement was crushed. We were on vacation It also happened to be my birthday. Our agency told us the childs case worker had another family they were going to place her with.

 

I wanted to give up............

we agreed that come March , if we were not matched by then , we would throw in the towel.

 

We do have a 2 yr old placed with us right now. He is a sweety. We only wish the best for him.

I know that deep inside my heart I want to adopt him, yet in my mind I know that he may return home, If his mother follows all the rules and meets her goals.

 

We will have him for Thanksgiving, Christmas and NEw years.

His next court date is in Feb. So he is our baby until then........ 

 

My prayers are with all of you ..................

hi DR .PHIL  i just want to tell you that you Source of inspiration really and i hope i find what am looking at here , this is my story

MY NAME IS MOHMMED 25 YEARS OLD from arab world i`m person who have dream , my dream is that i end the University study to become a mechanical engineer have the gerat Ambition and the desire really but problem facing me that i dont have enough money to make my dream is becoming true have a family but they dont have the money so that abig problem and my dream that i can study in the usa or canada really becouse when i study there its mean alot for all here and its better than here so if there any family in the usa or canada want to help to end my study and i will be nice boy i swear to gad but really i want that dont know what to say if there any family accpting me i will work for them until i end my study and after that i will be with them until they so you can leave us now but the family i want them to love me first and am sorry to say that really hope that i find who can help me on that

thank to all

Everyone on these message boards needs to know that Janet and James stole this letter they are using. They forgot to take out the woman's child's name. Please do a google search on "Janet Posey" scam and look at what pops up.

This is what Janet and James Posey wrote:

HELLO WE ARE FROM MISSISSIPPI AND WE ARE SEEKING TO ADOPT AND WE CAN NOT SEEM TO BE ABLE I KNOW YOU REALLY PROBABLY DO NOT GET THIS OR READ IT BUT I BELIEVE IN MIRACELS AND IF GOD WILL MAKE A MIRACLE COME TRUE MAYBE YOU WILL HELP US IN ADOPTION. HERE IS A LITTLE ABOUT US: Our family of four lives in beautiful southern Mississippi near Tupelo, Ms..  We live in a two story brick home located in the outskirts of Tupelo in a small town call Saltillo.. There have been many additions to this little house but the charm of the original structure is still evident particularly in the red brick steps around the house.  We love our little piece of land, which backs to alomost two acre  and gives us nightly viewings of the American Deer and other local wildlife.     WHY WE WANT TO ADOPT!   There are two other things that really explain who we are.  First, our goal in life is to raise happy children with good character.  We think that one of the best things we can provide the world is another quality human being – one with decent ethics and values, and with a love for fellow man.  If we can come somewhat close to this, we will consider that our lives are successful.  Secondly, the stay-at-home mom approach to parenting is very important to us,  We think that daycare can be very valuable for families that are in genuine need, but we do not mind sacrificing material things in order to to have a stay-at-home mom that will tend to the children's needs.  Janet makes sure our children have lots of opportunities for socialization, such as Gymboree, gym activities, and play groups. The children will only have to attend as much as they want - not all day, as in a daycare situation.  Janet choose her life to stay home with the children, and is looking forward to devoting her time to trips to the parks, library visits, play groups, gym activities, and family trips. We are unified on what the most important parts of parenting are:  giving love and affection, offering support, giving a good home, instilling a sense of the importance of friends and family, teaching morals, helping to shape character, and instilling conscience.  Education is also important to us both, as evidenced by the fact that we both finished college. A deep sense of the importance of family and friends is important, as well.  And we will have to make sure they know what has true and everlasting value in this life (empathy, love, commitment), and what does not. Also, we will always remain a good example to our children, because it is from our actions that our children will learn their biggest lessons in this area. Enrolling in church and community activities will help in this respect, as will some of the activities in school.  Much hugging and physical contact is also something important to us. Lastly, we will encourage the development of their individual talents. We will spend a lot of time with our children, and as adults, we want our children to say that we are their "trusted friend" as well as their parents. But our ultimate goal is to raise very happy, healthy, and loved children - these are the things we will focus on. Meeting our children's needs is our primary goal. Ava is very spoiled with love and we tear up when we think of one more child as part of our loving, affectionate family. Lots of love, 
James and Janet

 

"Please everyone go to google and type "Janet Posey" scam and see what all pops up."  decent ethics and values isn't what I found.

Ava doesn't even belong to them. They stole this letter from another hopeful adoptive parent. I wish Dr.Phil would do a story on Janet and let her explain how she was wiped out by Katrina when she doesn't live close to the coast. Also maybe he could get her to explain how she adopted in January 06, march 06 and pregnant in July 06 (her tubes are tied) and then adopting from a lady in California in March of 07. What happened to the children if she adopted? There is enough material on this family for several shows.

I hope you are able to adopt. You sound like you would be great parents. I lost my baby several months ago and my due date would be just around the corner. I could NEVER imagine giving my baby up for adoption no matter what I was going through. But hopefully some young girl might find you both. Good luck

Dr Phil,

I want to adopt my best friends baby I haven't told her yet. She is giving her baby up for adoption b/c she doesn't want raise another baby by herself. She also has a little girl that is about 6 years old and it was very hard on her being so young and raising a baby. She is only 21 and is 7 mos pregnant. My husband and I have been trying for 2 years to have a baby and I'm just afraid that i will never be able to have one. I haven't told my doctor that I'm trying to have a baby because i figure that if i was meant to have one it will just happen. I just don't want to let the opportunity pass me by I know that I would be a very loving mother and I have been ask repeatedly by family and friends "when are y'all gonna have a lil one" it's hard on me thinking that it will never happen.  My husband also really wants this baby he is best friends with the daddy. The dad is unable to see the baby due to bad things he has done in his past.