Topic : I Want to Adopt

Awesome post!

I am sorry that you lost your daughter to adoption. Have you been able to find her?

I come from the baby scoop era myself, and found my parents years ago.

I keep thinking that maternity homes should be reopened, but with the goal of education and training so that young mothers can learn a skill so they can be employable, learn how to care for their child and other skills like finances, cooking etc. This way maybe we could keep mothers and their babies together.

 It really irks me when ppl say they are choosing to adopt when they can't have any kids.  Choosing to adopt is when you can have have kids but are unselfish and decide to adopt.  Ppl who can't have kids who adopt have no other chose but adoption. 

Hello, I am very pleased that Dr. Phil has a message board of this kind HOWEVER after reading some of the posts, I have found some of the messages very insensative, and sometimes cruel.

Just know that my husband and I have looked into the possibilty of adoption recently, and I have found that every state has a Dept Of Social Services that can and will provide assistance to those seeking adoption/fostering, and the monetary cost is very minimum. The state basically takes you through the steps required as you prepare to adopt/foster. My husband and I sat in an initial interview that gave us information on what is required to legal adopt/foster in this state. Firstly, you must of course pass a criminal background check, then the state provides your family with a social worker that will work with until the process is completed. Your home will be evaluated to make sure that there's no safety issues, and if there is, you will be required to address them before the process can be completed. Your family, those over the age of 16 years will have to be trained in CPR/first aid. Then you will have to set up an appointment for the fire marshall to come out and inspect for any fire hazards. Then you are required to participate in a 10- week program, 30-hours of training which includes parenting skills, and how to deal with misplaced children.

After that is completed, you will have to undergo several other minor details before you are liscensed to adopt or foster in the state/country in which you reside.

In this state alone, there are more then 500 children in the state's custody, both infants as well as older children that are in need of placement.

You must be atleast 21 years of age, be willing to be fingerprinted, have a stable home and income, maintain a drug-free environment, complete all required training, and not have any sustantiated abuse/or neglect reports.

You do not have to be married, or have an enormous amount of money to adopt-foster in this state. If you are residing in my State which is North Carolina and are interested in adopting/fostering, you may contact www.dhhs.state.nc.us/dss/adopt , I hope that this information can and will be helpful to anyone here looking to adopt or foster a child.

Respectfully,

Lashawnna A. Burney

Hello, I am very pleased that Dr. Phil has a message board of this kind HOWEVER after reading some of the posts, I have found some of the messages very insensative, and sometimes cruel.

Just know that my husband and I have looked into the possibilty of adoption recently, and I have found that every state has a Dept Of Social Services that can and will provide assistance to those seeking adoption/fostering, and the monetary cost is very minimum. The state basically takes you through the steps required as you prepare to adopt/foster. My husband and I sat in an initial interview that gave us information on what is required to legal adopt/foster in this state. Firstly, you must of course pass a criminal background check, then the state provides your family with a social worker that will work with until the process is completed. Your home will be evaluated to make sure that there's no safety issues, and if there is, you will be required to address them before the process can be completed. Your family, those over the age of 16 years will have to be trained in CPR/first aid. Then you will have to set up an appointment for the fire marshall to come out and inspect for any fire hazards. Then you are required to participate in a 10- week program, 30-hours of training which includes parenting skills, and how to deal with misplaced children.

After that is completed, you will have to undergo several other minor details before you are liscensed to adopt or foster in the state/country in which you reside.

In this state alone, there are more then 500 children in the state's custody, both infants as well as older children that are in need of placement.

You must be atleast 21 years of age, be willing to be fingerprinted, have a stable home and income, maintain a drug-free environment, complete all required training, and not have any sustantiated abuse/or neglect reports.

You do not have to be married, or have an enormous amount of money to adopt-foster in this state. If you are residing in my State which is North Carolina and are interested in adopting/fostering, you may contact www.dhhs.state.nc.us/dss/adopt , I hope that this information can and will be helpful to anyone here looking to adopt or foster a child.

Respectfully,

Lashawnna A. Burney

The baby we were praying to adopt-- well, the mother had an abortion yesterday. She was like 16 or 17 weeks along. She had 2 ultrasounds and we were told over and over she wouldn't end the pregnancy!!!

We are so broken hearted... I am truly at a loss for words.

Dear Disneyfamily,

I was very sad to hear your news. That is awful. Had she already promised to give your family custody of the baby after she gave birth?

Things like this makes me re-think trying to adopt. I am working with the The Dept Of Social Services here in the State that I live in. Private adoptions are too up and down for me. I have an Aunt, and Uncle that went through 4 attempts using a private adoption agency. The last time for them was the very last time. She and her husband were choosen by this young lady to adopt her child, they prepared the nursery, bought everything that they could think that the child would need, and then some.

Everything was still set to go until she delivered. They went to the hospital, and picked their little girl up, and then about 3 weeks later, the birth mother decided against it, and wanted her daughter back. Needless to say that it devasted them both. They gave the little girl back to her birth parent, and decided never again to try and adopt.

I truly hope and pray that your family will find that special little baby to enjoy, and love. May God bless you.

Respecfully,

Lashawnna A. Burney