We are a french couple from canada and we are wanting to adopt,
but my husband his military and we moved and its hard because of the waiting list that takes years, so we have to start all over gain everytime we move.
I'm 35 now and our dream is slipping away we changed province last year and we are moving god knows were for next summer hubby is promoted, no place for him here .
We want a children because we a have a void in our life, we have so much to give and show and teach, we miss the daily activy, like for example the first snow we think if we would have a child we would be so happy to go se him play in the snow and get him dress to go making a snow man whit her or him, and making whit the child snow castle like at the beach in the summer and be proud all togheter of what we did, the first time to skates,the fisrt time on the bycle, the first tooth ,the first lost thooth, the first day of school, the fisrt boyfreind or grild freind, the first everything we are missing, this is what I mean the void that missing in our life, we know about all the responsability and the sickness and the tantrums but we miss it so much and we are sads when we see other parents that are not gratefull for the life that was lended to them, we are sad when we see other couple whit a young child and dont take there responsibility and put the child need in the bottom of prioritys, we are sad when we see drug addict that neglect there kids, we are sad when we see children sick in an hospital and the parent complaint about the kid beeing sick all the time BECAUSE we wich we would have that chance and we think that some parent dont even deserve children, we love children so much, children are pain in the but sometimes but it is joyfull more ofthen and we beleeve that a normal healty child will alway be happy when parent love them and diciplin them and give them attention ( and WE KNOW attention dont alway mean play time but disicpline too) we have so much to give. but no one to give too.
I want to grow old and be a grand mother but until then I have a neice we spoil and she's 12 years old and it make my heart melt everytime she call me to ask me for my advice or help when she's all by herself ( her parent are starting to leave her home for about an hour or two once a will),she even calls me for no reason just to chat because she's alone and we have our talk about life somethime and there are questions that are not easy . and when she was younger I had to discipline her too and she know my limits too.she has her way whit everyone home but not me and even tough I'm the one she calls about 3 times a week when she need someone to talk too.
So I realise the impact and the difrence I make in her days even tough she's 5 to 8 hour of drive away and it's has alway been like that since she was 2 years old. she know I'm there even tough I'm not realy there in her home I hope it will never change and I hope she will come to visit when she has her own grown up life and I think she will,I missed her fisrt days at school,but I was home for her fisrt theater show in kindergarten,I was not there to see her first ride on her two wheel bycle,I was not there when she lost her tooth, but maybe I' ll be there later when my hubby retire, me and my sisters are close and the rest of the familly too, aunts and grand parents my aunts were there for me and they are still, I'm there for my unique and only niece but for my cousins too, my god child his having a baby in early january I never taught I would see he's child before mine.
We wish we had one of own.
we wish we had our own child to make memorie of our own. and we find hard not to have a child sometimes.
