Topic : My Adoption Story

 hey every1. back in july i found my mum. ever since then my life has changed for the better. i have found out i have 4 other siblings. 1 brother and 3 sisters. when i found that out i was in shock, but in a good way. befor i found them i was chatting in the searching for birth perants section and just to let you all know it has gone amazingly. sure my siblings can be abit of a pain but i love them for it. thank you all for giving me the corage to go through with finding them

 Simon, congratulations!  Kind of a surreal experience, isn't it?  I don't know if you've had any "down" moments yet, but they usually do come.  Reunion is a rollercoaster ride, but I wouldn't have missed it for the world!  It's been 3 1/2 years for me, and in some ways it seems like yesterday, and in some ways, it's like I've known them for years.

I never realized what was missing in my life before I met them!  The greatest joy for me has been the inclusion of my mom into my natural family.  The fact that they have never asked me to severe the ties to the woman who has been my mom all my life has really sweetened the deal!  I hope your reunion continues to go well.

 17 years ago I gave the gift of life to my child and my child to his adoptive parents. Just recently we reunited and when I got that call it was the best moment of that part of my life. We set up a date to get together and was thrilled with how I felt I knew these people forever and they recipricated the feeling. It was amazing.

The adoption decision was very hard for me. Very hard, but the right choice. In the end God gave me the peace that I was making the right choice. That my child was going to be OK. It was like a promise I held onto for all these years.

NOW it is like hard for me. Although I am still thrilled to be a part of their life, I feel that they have enabled A to be where A is now with A's life. That is not a good place in life. There are no skills that A has to function normally in society. I cannot go into much detail, as this is the internet and it would be devastating if they ran across this and were able to put me with it. In my eye's they enable A to be a irresponsible person. They give A everything and do not hold him accountable as parents should. They love A, but too much and in the wrong ways. I sometimes feel I could of done this or better. I could of messed up A's life and not gone through the pain of missing A for all these years. Shoot maybe A would of had a better chance with me. BUT I hold tightly to Gods promise to me, it may not reveal itself just yet but it will in his time.

A is a teenager in complete rebellion or one with no boundaries. I understand this. I just think that I should of been brought into A's life at a later age. A is a child and being in the position I am in all I can do is sit back and support the family. I feel I have no voice or say, which I don't believe I do or should, but to watch these things go on is very disrupting to my life and my family that I have now. I want to grab A up and take A to my home - there is still time for A to be redirected. OF course I know I cannot do this.

I really wish I knew of a support group. I am on a list for therapy in my town. Really that is how hard this has been and I do not have the life experience to pull me through it or the tools to draw from. I need support 100%. From families that have experienced this or could just relate.

I don't in anyway discourage anyone from the adoption process. We may enter into ourselves looking to adopt a child. It is a beautiful thing.

To adoptive Moms and Dads - Do right by the life you were given. Somebody loved their baby so much to give their baby to you, thinking you could do a better job than they could. Love your child and teach your child. Just don't be so happy to have a child that you lose sight of what a child really needs.

Hello... I am very new to this forum. I am 32yrs old and was adopted at 2 weeks old. I've looked before to find my real parent(s). For some reason I refuse to give up this time. My mom who adopted me tells me when I ask if shemight know of anything about birth mom ,, her replie is she may be dead. Well things are getting heated up because I refuse to believe she may be dead, she gave birth to me at 24.  

  

If anyone could tell me where to start this search I would love to hear from them .  

All the stories I have read here have hit my heart, I feel in alot of ways the very same. 

 hey
the way i found my family was throught the adoption centre. im sure if you asked your mum where u were adoptid from and what adoption centre they went through... they should be able 2 find her for you, when they did for me was sent a letter to my grandperants and they passed it onto my mum, then she got in contact with the centre, so give that a go and u never know u might be in contact with her sooner than later =)

 I'm so sorry to hear that your son is not doing too well.  Perhaps having a relationship with you will help him....

I think you have a powerful message.

WOW! Have you ever thought  about adopting or even fostering? There is no doubt GOD has giving you the gift discernment. Do you now have more children? Your post was breath taking. I think your right about the adoptive parents they over compensated for finally having a child and  ended up spoiled A.  I understand but............We get off  track when our world evolves around our children we need to hold our children to be accountable and responsible and to teach good work ethic. Of course were to be there when they need us. 

I learned the hard way with my 20 year old .....I did everything for him and made a lazy boy at of him! lol Although he is joy . :o) Children......adults need to be taught to put others before themselves. My kids love to volunteer and they leave feeling fulfilled :o) 

Again......you sound like a lady that has a gift.......I'd love to see you use it. 

Cathe' Mommu to my 10 PRICELESS Jewels. Three birth & seven adopted. 

 I do now have 2 boys. I may call A this weekend and discuss things with A as I was A's mother. Does that make sense. There are some issues A is going through and one that is very familiar to me and would devastate me to see A make the wrong choice. I wish I felt like I could go into more detail. Does anyone think that that is overstepping my boundaries? We are close and working on getting closer. I know A appreciates my opinion and advice, but do not want to sound like I am putting A down to A. I want A to know that A has had my love and always will. The love of a mother. I seriously have always had A in my heart as I love my own children.

If anyone is interested in discussing this further with me including details I do not want to go into on this board please leave me you email address.

Thanks and best wishes to everyone

What if it goes well?