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May 18, 2006, 10:13 am PDT
It just got much worse
Quote From: hollowpoin I have my best friend's son, who is 17 and will be 18 in june. I have raised him for 5 years after his dad died, because his mother and new step dad didn't want him. now after almost 5 years they call and say they want him moved back with them, by the end of may, and they will carpool him 75 km one way, each day. this is right smack in the middle of his diploma exams. that was march, 10 days ago his mother calls him to say she won't be able to attend his gr 12 graduation because they dcored a great deal on a trip to cuba, at the same time of his grad. this past sat they call to remind him they are off to montana, driving, for a 12 day shopping trip. so thats the big expensive trip they couldn't possibly get out of to attend his grad. now they love him soo much that they want him under their wing again? it just so happens he turns 18 in june, coincidence, not likely. when he turns 18 he becomes elegiable for his dads inheritance, that we know for a fact was spent by these two over the last 5 years, so why then would it matter to get control of him at this stage? they paid the utilities for the last 5 years and I covered the rest, so its not about costs? he knows he has three options, stay with me and they'll cut him off we're certain, go with them and live under an alcoholic roof that is just bizaare at the best of times, or go and at the first sign of trouble return here. with that knowledge he is still paralyzed by fear. this isn't the first pschological abuse inflicted by her but I think it's the last, in his eyes, which ends their relationship and he doesn't go there yet, despite the obvious. I'm out of ideas. he is, and will continue to be safe, while with me. the money involved from his dad is not significant and certainly not worth becoming enslaved to their control in order to get a chance at the prize. I know through contacts that the money was spent by her in the first three months after the death, but I am not sure if the lad totally believes it. I guess I'll see if my influence gave him enough tools to reason through the bs and believe what he see's, not what he's told. any ideas out there? any other speculation as to why they would suddenly flip like this? my lads' step brother, 19, Jim (lets call him jim, step father vermin, bio mom loretta, the lad I have, micheal and me orvil) was hit head on friday by a semi-load of gravel, at 100 km/hr 60 mph. he suffered a broken neck, punctured lung, open compound fractures of every limb, every bone in his face was broken, broken ribs-open compound, and is bleeding into his brain and it can't be stopped. the doctors can't operate as he is too unstable. they are keeping him comatose and in cryo while pumping him full of antibiotics to try and head off the obvious infection risk. the parents were called friday night. on sunday they (loretta and vermin) called me from their "shopping trip" to say they couldn't get home until very late monday, by air? they were 700 km from home, they drove there, and there's two drivers, who could take turns to drive the 700 km in a maximum of 7 hours. so from friday afternoon until late monday to get home, while his oldest son jim lays in life threatening condition. this was important for micheal to witness, because it showed him that he wasn't being singled out by them for their abusive behaviour and they really don't care about anyone but themselves and alcohol. he was, of course, very upset at the news of the accident, but seems somewhat more at ease with himself now. he is not as scattered either which is my signal that something is up.
his mother called micheal this morning, at school, on his cell phone. not to update him on his step brother's condition, but to ask if we were moved out yet. she hasn't been back to ICU since arriving late monday. the step father vernon, was escorted out of the hospital for dunken behaviour. its a good thing the poor boy has a sober mother and sisters, to stay with him or he would die alone.
I had to laugh when micheal said to his mother that "we could've moved faster if orvil was able to afford a powerchair, instead of the manual wheelchair he has, but then, he wouldn't have been able to pay you rent". I couldn't stop laughing at his wit. it was the first time in my knowledge that he has challenged her so perhaps he has a sense of boundaries after all.
If he can keep his head through all of this then I know I have a survivor on my hands, but right now I am still keeping vigil.
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