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September 26, 2008, 7:52 pm CDT

New To This

Hi everyone I'm Bailey and I'm new to this board

 

I think I may have an ED but I hate talking about it cuz I don't think it's serious and I know people are much worse off than me

 

I'm almost 5'6 and 21 and since school ended before the summer I wanted to get in shape. I was never overweight (I weighed just over 120 pounds at the time) but for some reason I really wanted to lose weight.

 

Now I weigh around 92 pounds on average and people have been telling me I look really thin but I just don't see it.

 

I know I don't eat well at all and it's getting so hard to hide it from my parents and I always have to make up excuses for why I don't eat dinner or lunch or anything. Sometimes I just lose it and binge on food and then for the next few days I feel awful because I gain like 3 pounds in one night!

 

I don't know what to do anymore because University is so stressful and exams are starting soon and I always seem to eat when I study but I'm so scared to gain weight it puts me in a bad mood thinking about it.

 

What should I do?

 
October 22, 2008, 4:00 pm CDT

Anorexia

Quote From: bailey_xox

Hi everyone I'm Bailey and I'm new to this board

 

I think I may have an ED but I hate talking about it cuz I don't think it's serious and I know people are much worse off than me

 

I'm almost 5'6 and 21 and since school ended before the summer I wanted to get in shape. I was never overweight (I weighed just over 120 pounds at the time) but for some reason I really wanted to lose weight.

 

Now I weigh around 92 pounds on average and people have been telling me I look really thin but I just don't see it.

 

I know I don't eat well at all and it's getting so hard to hide it from my parents and I always have to make up excuses for why I don't eat dinner or lunch or anything. Sometimes I just lose it and binge on food and then for the next few days I feel awful because I gain like 3 pounds in one night!

 

I don't know what to do anymore because University is so stressful and exams are starting soon and I always seem to eat when I study but I'm so scared to gain weight it puts me in a bad mood thinking about it.

 

What should I do?

hey chica

 

i'm no doctor but i am a recovered anorexic. i know what it feels like to think you have a problem but think it isn't important enough for ppl to care. but you said yourself, ppl do care, they notice how thin you are. even in todays world, its a hard thing for people to address. you know, your friends dont know much about it, they dont want to offend you, they dont want to make it worse, they dont want to be wrong, and so on. but even when they dont say something they do care. and it is typical to not want to talk about it with someone. its a fear of being forced to change. last thing an anorexic wants is to do something against their will, hense they say its a control issue. but sweetie, when it comes to your health, sometimes you need help. it isn't a sign of weakness to ask for help or talk about it. i thought that too and i fought and fought to keep going alone. but in reality it shows strength and courage to take back the control that the disorder has over you, and to get over it and move on with your life. i hope that helps a lil...

<3 christy

 
November 8, 2008, 1:59 am CST

For Lep!

I live in England and have what I think is Anorexia.  I married an Englishman and believe me, coming from California this is a real ‘lack of emotion’ experience.  Because of this cultural way of not talking about emotions, I noticed I stopped eating and only eat things like oatmeal.  My weight is at it lowest but still ok.

 

The thing I noticed about this is whenever I feel ‘out of control’ with my home environment or step children, etc…I become much more obsessed with my weight and dieting.  It gives me a feeling of some control in my life.

 

When my husband honestly tries to be supportive and suggest making new friends, going to an interview, doing some writing or work, I feel even more ‘ out of control’ because I feel he’s taking whatever control I have away.  I can react with rage because I feel he’s saying ‘I’m not capable’ therefore making me feel worse.

 

Rationally, I know how fortunate I am- and I think your only trying to love her and help.  But from my perspective, it might help if you ask for her opinion, for her advice in your life, depend on her a little for some comfort…in other words, let her know she’s needed, too….that you depend on her as well and maybe she can gain a little control in her life.  Say to her that you know she can make the decision to find a job and you’ll stop mentioning it because she’s capable and will know when to do this. Say you believe in her and focus on other things that don’t take control from her life.

 

Eating disorders are about control. Try to support her having control in other areas besides her weight and this might help. Also, she’s lucky that you love her so much- so I would also seek advice from an Eating disorder specialist asap.

 

 
November 10, 2008, 1:29 pm CST

confused??

hello, hola im a litlle confused because im ok with my weight, im think im on the right size, i keep a healthy diet, almost all the time.. sometimes i have cravings and eat anything i like... but after that i feel awfull, like very heavy and sometimes i look myself in the mirror but still look at me fat.. when im no fat at all.. is this a disorder? my family, friends and my boyfriend tell me that i look great! but sometimes only sometimes i feel like if wanted to be more and more thin. i really want to feel ok with my body... what can i do?

p.d.: excuse me if there are some mistakes in my message, thats beacause i speake spanish but im learning english. thank you!

 
November 15, 2008, 3:16 pm CST

Help

I am 30 yrs old. I'm hooked on deit pills and not eating. When I do eat. I feel that I'm doing something wrong. How do you learn how to eat again?
 
November 19, 2008, 4:21 pm CST

anorexic/bulimic daughter

hello ,im new to the boards.My name is sharon ,and i have 3 beautiful girls.My middle daughter has suffered from anorexia/bulimia now for the  past 5 years.

I have tried every docor ,therapist i can find ,and at the moment ,she is receiving one session (50mins) per week.

I am desperately  worried ,i dont know how to help her anymore ,and i dont know how much longer i can cope with the daily stress ,of watching my precious child ,slowly ruin her body ,and possibly kill herself

how much more can her system take?
if theres anybody out there  in a similar situation ,i would love to hear from you ,i`d also like to help you in any way that i can.

thanks for listening ,sharon

 
November 20, 2008, 7:39 am CST

How do you learn to eat again?....

Quote From: hopeless1978

I am 30 yrs old. I'm hooked on deit pills and not eating. When I do eat. I feel that I'm doing something wrong. How do you learn how to eat again?
Hi there, i totally understand what your going through. I
had anorexia for a number of years. I was a dancer so i never thought it was that big a deal, it was just what everyone did to look the way the industry wanted us too. I took diet pills all the time, basically lived off of suger free candy to make me feel like i had something in my stomach and very rarely ate. When i did i would throw it up right away for fear that it would "lock" onto my body and i wouldnt be able to get it off. I ended up in hospital for a while and even thought ive "recovered" now i still have health problems from how sever it was. Im only 20 but i have athritis, no immune system, a very serious problem with my gag reflex and i have weekly injections to help my body with everything it is deficant in.

I guess in the end you need a real wake up call to make you stop.
I struggled for years, but when i met ryan (who would turn out to be my future husband) i realised how precious life is. I didnt want to die, i wanted to be around to be with him.
I got help and we worked through it together.

Im sure you have people out there that love you, just go to one of them and tell them whats happening.
Tell them that you arent happy with the way things are anymore and that you want to make a change.
You need to get help as soon as you can...
Once you figure out why your doing this then you can make a change.
Take care.
 
November 28, 2008, 1:13 pm CST

Teen Anerexica ( age 13 )

Hi.

My name is Angie, i'm a 13 year old female and going through one of the roughest times in my life, and sometimes .. I think it's killing me and that i'v lost myself. I'm still not convinced i'm anerexic even thoe I was diagnosed of it 2 times (by my family physition, sick kids, and north york eating disorders hospital which i am currently an out-patient of)

 

Height: 5'2

Weight in May 2008: 116lbs

Lowest Weight (now, Nov. 2008): 93lbs

Total weight lost in 2 months: -23lbs

 

During March 2008, i was surronded with skinny girls all around me.

I was the chubby one of the class as i considered myself to be.

I always thought of loosing some weight but never went along with it, until the end of summer.

I was 'very' active. I descided before school, I would show everyone who called me fat what I can be.. and that is skinny.

My breakfast consisted of 100cal curves bar, 1 fat free activia yogurt, and 2 strawberries.

After that 15 minutes later I would be at the gym with my dad working on the strider machine for 60 minutes lv.6 burning 700-800 cal's an hour. Next I would work on abdonimal machine, and then the tredmile.

Lunch consisted of a sugar-free jello (5cal), and a small apple.

Dinner, was a advantage turkey entree (110cal)

 

No snacks, no dessert.

It was time for my yearly physical at the doc. my mom had noticed a change in my eating patterns and had brought it up. I totally disagreed with her. I was 102lbs. My doctor was confussed. I didn't look 102.. but I was 102. He wanted to see my 1 month later to make sure my weight was ok. a month came and I had 'lost' -5 pounds. I was now 97lbs. He gave me one more chance, and I would see him in a week. If I had lost anymore weight he was going to send me to the North york eating disorders hospital as an impatient.

 

A week came - He took my heartrate. It was 48. For my age and my gender my heart-rate he said should be between 80-90. I was sent to emergency at sick-kids. I then had lost another 4 pounds in 1 week.

Now,  I am currently an out-patient at north york. I continue to count calaries. i cannot help myself. The doc. at the hosp. has put me on these nutritional shakes "ensure" and I have to take 2 a day plus 2500 calaries. No sports. It kills me.

 

Please help me. I still do not follow the rules that she has set out for me, and If I loose anymore i'll be an impatient there. People at school now make fun of me as they used to except for the exact opposite reason.

Please help.

 

- distered confussion of a anerxica .

 

 
December 12, 2008, 1:24 pm CST

Am I Ill ?

Im so confused. Each day i have a different opinion. Sometimes i think im ill and i know i need to change and other times i know im not ill. I dont think i can be because im not skinny and i do eat but then most people say i dont eat enough but i think i do. I mean i eat about 900 cals a day which isnt that little. And im not collapsing or anything. And i fit size 0 clothes but im not that underweight. And ive missed periods but except from one time when i missed 7 in a row but i think that was just teenage hormones i only ever miss like one or two periods in a row. And i do make myself sick sometimes but i dont think its really that big a deal.
 
December 27, 2008, 7:16 pm CST

This is it.

Hello,
I'm Mathiya and i'm fifteen.

I was always a thin kid, but my luck turned as i started turning into a teenager - now i'm 5'9' and weigh 140 pounds. I loathe myself.
Ever since i was a little girl, i've seen living skeletons being glamourized, being it , and it's brainwasked me into believing that being that is beautiful, and nothing else.
Every single day of my life, i think about my weight, my body, and how much i hate it. How much i hate being so insecure about myself that i'm not even able to go outside without thinking everyone else is disgusted by me
Eating always makes me feel horrible, mirrors make me want to kill myself; i can't eat in public, and compliments make me cry.  I've lost myself.
I've destroyed that sweet little girl i used to be, and it makes me hate myself even more.

What the hell are we doing to our little girls? Why would anyone ever want ANYONE to feel like this?
F*** society.
 
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