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November 14, 2005, 12:44 pm PST

Children and anorexia

I am asking a question in regards to my daughter. She is 10 years old and very slim, not too thin. However she views herself as being FAT, I have talked with her about this, and she indicates that she is afraid of getting fat, she sees all the other children in her school, and doesn't want to be heavy, because she say's they get picked on.

Now she does come to their defense, we have been given notes by the teacher and principal, praising her attitude in class, and her ability to try and stop what she can, and report what is wrong.

I don't want to cause her to stray away from being able to talk with me, and she talks to me about everything, and I like it. However something of this nature seems to be out of my control and education level (I am in veterinary medicine) good education, but not the right one.

Any input would be great, thank you.

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November 14, 2005, 1:12 pm PST

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I am asking a question in regards to my daughter. She is 10 years old and very slim, not too thin. However she views herself as being FAT, I have talked with her about this, and she indicates that she is afraid of getting fat, she sees all the other children in her school, and doesn't want to be heavy, because she say's they get picked on.

Now she does come to their defense, we have been given notes by the teacher and principal, praising her attitude in class, and her ability to try and stop what she can, and report what is wrong.

I don't want to cause her to stray away from being able to talk with me, and she talks to me about everything, and I like it. However something of this nature seems to be out of my control and education level (I am in veterinary medicine) good education, but not the right one.

Any input would be great, thank you.

Just help make sure she has something in her life that belongs to her that she has control over. Let her know that you treasure her and how amazing she is. Sure that won't take away what people say but it believe it will help her in feeling like she really maters and she has something. Then by you showing her that theer will be less chances she will stop talking to you. I am so sorry your daughter has to hear all that. I feel like there is something else i should say but right now i don't know what it is. If this is something that could be a struggle it isn't to late to keep it from happening.

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November 14, 2005, 6:34 pm PST

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I am asking a question in regards to my daughter. She is 10 years old and very slim, not too thin. However she views herself as being FAT, I have talked with her about this, and she indicates that she is afraid of getting fat, she sees all the other children in her school, and doesn't want to be heavy, because she say's they get picked on.

Now she does come to their defense, we have been given notes by the teacher and principal, praising her attitude in class, and her ability to try and stop what she can, and report what is wrong.

I don't want to cause her to stray away from being able to talk with me, and she talks to me about everything, and I like it. However something of this nature seems to be out of my control and education level (I am in veterinary medicine) good education, but not the right one.

Any input would be great, thank you.

Children can easily have anorexia. I was in the hospital with a 9 year old and 2 ten year olds in the past, and at the clinic I go to there are many preteens being treated. My best advice is if you suspect anorexia, please take her in to the doctor. They can diagnose and treat her if she does in fact have anorexia. I want you to know that if she does have an eating disorde, YOU did nothing wrong! Blaming yourself does nothing........it is not your fault, and she is not choosing to have this illness (if she does). Anorexia's causation is in the brain (researchers are now beginning to see how an anorexic's brain is different from a "normal" person's brain. They have located an area in the hypothalamus!). Therapy is necassary though, to treat her underlying issues. Triggers are what brings an eating disorder out, but the ultimate causation lies in her brain. I want this statement to stay with you if she does have anorexia........you did not cause this. From your post, it sounds like you and your daughter have a wonderful relationship and I am sure she loves you very much. If you ever need to talk, I am here.

Julie

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November 14, 2005, 6:39 pm PST

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this lady and i were talking and she was saying how thin i am and i said it's not like i am bones and she said i was like a sack of bones wrapped in skin and look far from that............. hmmm yeah......... nope didn't eat today.... oh wait i panicked as i ate a small bit of popcorn........ i couldn't stop moving anxiously for the longest time....... also hopeing to burn calories............. i well yeah............ it is hard............. do you hav e msn messenger

Isn't it annoying how we cannot see ourselves the way others see us! It always annoyed/made me ecstatic when people told me how thin I was. I didn't believe them, but it still fed into the anorexia. It sounds like things are very rough for you, and for that I am sorry. Having a voice inside your head that tells you all those lies is anything but easy and relaxing, no wonder you are so anxious! I've been there girl......I'm still there, it's getting a little better, but I am still there nonetheless. Yes, I do have msn messenger. My email for that is behindgreeneyes67@hotmail.com, you can add me anytime and I'll be on there to chat more! I'm not online too often, but when I am, I'll be sure to see if you are on too! Here's to tomorrow being a better day for the both of us :)

Julie

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November 14, 2005, 6:47 pm PST

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Isn't it annoying how we cannot see ourselves the way others see us! It always annoyed/made me ecstatic when people told me how thin I was. I didn't believe them, but it still fed into the anorexia. It sounds like things are very rough for you, and for that I am sorry. Having a voice inside your head that tells you all those lies is anything but easy and relaxing, no wonder you are so anxious! I've been there girl......I'm still there, it's getting a little better, but I am still there nonetheless. Yes, I do have msn messenger. My email for that is behindgreeneyes67@hotmail.com, you can add me anytime and I'll be on there to chat more! I'm not online too often, but when I am, I'll be sure to see if you are on too! Here's to tomorrow being a better day for the both of us :)

Julie

i added you...... no i am not doing good at all........ i have crawled under my covers and hide so many times today........ i am here at my desk with my head laying on the desk.... didn't go to any meal to eat today again...... the cook asked my room mate if he should bring some food to me she saiid she won't eat it and he said what about if i take her some brooth...... i would be surprised if people weren't starting to see somethiing is going on by now...... someone came to my room earlier and theywere like are you ok you look so tired all the time you don't look like your doing well........ grrrr ahhhhhh it's frustrating...... can't wait until it is time to go to bed but then is when i won't be able to sleep that's how it works...... even if i layed in bed now i probabley wouldn't be able to sleep...... but here i can hardly hold myself up because i am so exhausted

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November 15, 2005, 10:39 am PST

OHHH SO TIRED of FIGHTING THIS MONSTER

I'm tired of fighting this losing battle with this monster i've called my friend for YEARS. I've tried hospitalization, pills, counselling, what is left to do ..I'm 39 years old and I'm so scared right now that the next step in my life is DEATH cause it just seems that NO ONE UNDERSTANDS what I am going through and how hard it is to continue fighting this monster. I've been aware that I am a Anorexic for many many years now and it seems that it has been nothing but a big fight. IS IT WORTH IT? I've asked questions to everyone, Like WHAT TRIGGERS HUNGER? And No ONE gives me a response. Is it because we are suspose to live as a Anerexic our whole lives? Can anyone feel what i'm saying. Why does Treatment have to COST SO MUCH so that NO ONE can AFFORD IT? Is this how my life is going to end? Or Why can't I find someone that wants to HELP get this Monster out of my LIFE without Costing a Arm and a Leg, Do they not realize people are DYING of this MONSTER!

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November 15, 2005, 10:43 am PST

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I'm tired of fighting this losing battle with this monster i've called my friend for YEARS. I've tried hospitalization, pills, counselling, what is left to do ..I'm 39 years old and I'm so scared right now that the next step in my life is DEATH cause it just seems that NO ONE UNDERSTANDS what I am going through and how hard it is to continue fighting this monster. I've been aware that I am a Anorexic for many many years now and it seems that it has been nothing but a big fight. IS IT WORTH IT? I've asked questions to everyone, Like WHAT TRIGGERS HUNGER? And No ONE gives me a response. Is it because we are suspose to live as a Anerexic our whole lives? Can anyone feel what i'm saying. Why does Treatment have to COST SO MUCH so that NO ONE can AFFORD IT? Is this how my life is going to end? Or Why can't I find someone that wants to HELP get this Monster out of my LIFE without Costing a Arm and a Leg, Do they not realize people are DYING of this MONSTER!

it makes me so angry that treatment cost so much!!! sometimes i thiknk they think if you don't have money what do you matter but i know that is not true still it is hard not to feelt hat way....... we have to be able to see our trigger i don't guess anyone else can really tell us........ iam tired of this also....... it drives me crazy......... i usually would say more or try to help more but i don't think i am totally here today so i don't know what i might say.......... haaaaa!!! i think i checked out up there for the day and forgot to tell myself where i was going to

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November 15, 2005, 10:50 am PST

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it makes me so angry that treatment cost so much!!! sometimes i thiknk they think if you don't have money what do you matter but i know that is not true still it is hard not to feelt hat way....... we have to be able to see our trigger i don't guess anyone else can really tell us........ iam tired of this also....... it drives me crazy......... i usually would say more or try to help more but i don't think i am totally here today so i don't know what i might say.......... haaaaa!!! i think i checked out up there for the day and forgot to tell myself where i was going to

I really believe that they don't care unless you do have MONEY ...I know what my trigger is ...FOOD ...I don't want it ..I feel like I'm driving everyone around me Crazy...that's ok I understand is one of my favorite things to say to people when they don't know what to say or do when it comes to this MONSTER so please don't feel bad .

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November 15, 2005, 11:01 am PST

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I really believe that they don't care unless you do have MONEY ...I know what my trigger is ...FOOD ...I don't want it ..I feel like I'm driving everyone around me Crazy...that's ok I understand is one of my favorite things to say to people when they don't know what to say or do when it comes to this MONSTER so please don't feel bad .

i am angry at food and everything else!!! i know there are people out there that care but where are the ones who can provide help for us who do not have what ti takes for us to get the help we need....... i just am sick of everything!!!

drifting away

hisjewel

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November 15, 2005, 1:23 pm PST

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I'm a 17 year old who has been anorexic for nearly 2 years. I find it really hard not being understood by the people who are the closes to me. I want to be like them, but 'm not. Why is tht the only peple that are not against you, are in some threatment program? Programs that are way to expensive. I just see my life going by becuse of these stupid obstacle.

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